What kind of questions do they ask couples at pre-marital counseling?
Do they ask about your sex life?
I’m asking because I read an article earlier that highly suggested pre-marital counseling…and some ministers require you to have counseling before they marry you.
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I was a premarital counselor and asked few questions about sex. There was a list of relationship questions, about 200 of them, that were basically values clarification. The questions gave us an oppt. to talk about money issues, religion, child rearing, and general expectations. IT was through the discussion that the couple learned more about each other and explored sensitive issues, coming to a resolution and possible compromise BEFORE marriage.
i would have to say they probably do….
sometimes they’ll ask about sex…they’ll ask about EVERYTHING but its still a good idea to go b/c it really does help the relationship….I’m currently going with my FH and its done wonderful things for us.
Never heard of "PRE" marital counseling.
If you have problems BEFORE marriage, why are you considering it?
90% of the question will be about your sex life. Just kiding…Are you catholic? Thats normal thing to do, if your catholic
they will ask about EVERYTHING. my brother went to pre-marital counseling, and it started out with a huge questionnaire each of them answered (with hundreds of questions). if you are having sex or intend to have sex, it will be discussed. -*D*
They don’t really ask you questions so much as ask you to have an open discussion with you about it. They don’t sit there and go: "So, how many times a week do you have sex?". My premarital counselor brought the subject of sex up, but did not force us to talk about it. We did feel uncomfortable, so she just told us how and why conflict can arise with this topic and also told us how to solve it. But that was it.
They might.
Why are you worried? Is there any questions that you can’t answer in front of your fiance?
Premarital counseling is a normal thing for many couples to do. Not just catholics like everyone thinks.
My wife and I did it and we couldn’t be happier with the results. Premarital counseling is not like marriage counseling. It is a way to prepare for what married life will be like. It helps you learn how to resolve differences/arguments rationally and to help you understand why your husband does things the way he does and vise versa. You also get to learn cool things about yourself like your love languages, your personality type, and more. I would highly recommend it.
They do bring up sex, but some pastors will only discuss your future sex life as a married couple and not dwell too much in the past. It all depends.
Missy, the counselor will ask you questions so that the answers will help you know what to expect when you get married.
Yes, if he/she is a good counselor, you will discuss sex. It is a huge part of marriage and you should be discussing this with your partner as well. Some of the questions could be:
• Can you share with your partner what kind of affection you need?
• What are the different ways you can demonstrate your affection for your partner?
• How can you share your need for affection to your partner?
• Do you talk about how you can meet each other’s need for affection?
These questions have more to do with sex than you would think.
The counselor should address communication, conflict resolution, how close you both feel to each other, how flexible you are in your relationship, and how you both get along in terms of your personality.
Some communication questions:
• How do you feel when your partner fails to share with you his/her feelings?
• What can you do to help your partner share his/her feelings?
• What can your partner do that will help you when it is a problem to share your feelings?
Other topics might include financial management, how you both will want to spend your time together (leisure activities), children and parenting, family and friends, expectations for marriage, and roles in the marriage.
Premarital counseling helps immensely (see article in sources) and if a minister knows what he/she is doing, he/she would prefer a couple have premarital counseling.
Good luck!