What are some reasons for lack of intimacy?
He claims he’s not cheating and there isn’t really a reason to believe that he is. So…why in the world am I being ignored! For the last couple months we haven’t really had a lot of intimacy.
This weekend…it was 8:30pm on a saturday night and he would rather go to sleep…on the couch…while watching sports highlights. Am I missing something?
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More than likely there is something at work or outside of you that is bothering him and consuming him. Don’t take it personally, but you need to approach him and make him talk.
I WOULD ASK HIM WHATS GOING ON….. JUST BECAUSE THERE ISNT ANY EVIDENCE THAT HES NOT CHEATING DOESNT MEAN HES NOT GETTIN IT ELSE WHERE BUT YOU WILL NEVER KNOW UNTIL YOU ASK…
could be a health issue or depression
You should be asking him this. Could be nothing more than stress.
if he is being faithfull, then your being disrespectfull to him .
he may feel like you don’t give him enough respect around others.
you probably dont’ give him credit for anything he does aroudn the house.
You probably don’t let him go out with the guys.
You problably have him tied down like a dog.
check to see if any of these hold true.
I am going through the same thing, but for me I think it’s the birth control pill, which I know is not his case, but I really communicate this with my husband so that he doesn’t feel like it’s him. Try and really talk to him about it.
talk to him; we can’t answer this for him
He could be tired. He could be having some medical issues–he might need a checkup in the thyroid or blood sugar area.
Sounds like your relationship might need a bit of a boost. What kinds of things did you do early in your relationship?
Make an appointment with him to do something fun. Dress up. Be intimate in a totally inappropriate/wild/fun place.
Could be the economy crunch. Men worry about money a lot and when they do they push women to the side.
It depends. Stress could cause it and have u tried to initiate the intimacy and he declined it? If that’s so then just talk to him to find out why he doesn’t want to get intimate.
There are tons of reasons why a man will lack intimacy.
You know not all women are perfect in any way fashion or form. Only God is perfect and sometimes a person wants variety and cannot deal with one partner.
It gets old fast, but love doesn’t grow old. Something wreaks in your relationship and it’s best that you talk with him and be honest and ask him what’s wrong. That is your best approach here.
He is the one you need to talk with.
Sounds like he is going through something you are unaware of. Possibly work related or health related. Time to find out what is going on this is not right if your not having intimacy with your mate after this amount of time. Though for myself it has been since last December and my wife has been in Nursing Course so she has had stress and limited time and I have been supportive and sympathetic.
Depending on how long you have been with each other and how old you are sex drive does slow down as you age as in libido drops.
Has he ever had a problem getting an erection? Could be dealing with ED. Maybe it is time to check in with his Dr.
Two months is far too long for any man. If your relationship with him is amicable, it must be either a psychological or a health problem. Speak to his doctor confidentially.
i’ve had that kinda thing happen before. he was stressed out and depressed. too many hrs at work and everything fell into his lap. anyways, it’s all about communication. good luck! things will get better, this is part of life.
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I am in this same situation. And let me tell you that asking him a hundred times what is wrong will not help. Believe me I tried. I have yet to find out what is wrong but I do know that is starting to take a toll on me emotionally. I have tried spicing up our sex life which worked for awhile but then things went right back. I also recently caught him watching porn behind my back. This made me feel even worse. I think instead of asking him what is wrong you should do what I did. Go to him and tell him how much this is hurting you. Tell him that you are craving the intimacy that is missing and ask him if there is something you could do to get him more interested. It didn’t really work for me since my hubby is not the most in touch with his feelings but maybe it will work for you. Good luck.
Take a shower with the door open…walk through the house innocently naked to get something you left on the kitchen counter…buy some sexy under things…go bra-less in a tight t-shirt to the mall..with or without him (it will do wonders for your self esteem). Hell if that doesn’t work call me. I’m really hot just thinking about what you’re going to be doing, I can’t imagine what your couch potato will do. I hope he raises to the occasion.
Mama Mari is right. You can’t make him talk about it if he doesn’t want to. But you, on the other hand, can. In your talk, don’t press him for answers… meaning, don’t ask a lot of questions. When you tell him how you are feeling, say it in a way where he can’t resist but to reply. Keep pre-judgement and criticizm out of it. Go into it with an open heart and an open mind.
If forgiveness becomes required, remember forgiveness is the act of untying yourself from thoughts and feelings that bind you to the offense committed against you. It reduces the power that someone has over you and your feelings. It doesn’t let the agressor "off the hook" nor condones the offense.
There could be a very simple explanation for his behavior. Check his pulse gurlfriend.
Its called biology. When a man has a goal or focuses on something a part of his brain lights up. Once he has attained that goal - you - then that part of his brain shuts down which is why 98% of the women ask why their hubby’s change once they are married. It is a physical biological process that men have no idea they are going through. (Bunches of MRI’s proving the process). What to do about it is the $64 dollar question.
Thats one of the many reasons why Im getting a divorce.. Anytime she wanted to I sometimes just didnt feel it because I was too tired from work and tooo stressed so just let him be and wait till he comes to you cause sometimes you can push him farther away she did that to me but i regret it I should forgot about my stress and did her but Let him know how you feel. My soon to be ex-wife didnt tell me how she felt and she blew up.