just left my husband after being together for six years though only married for three. and it has been abusive the whole time can i still get alimony if i divorce him.

Several months back – like in October or November – I came out to my mom, handed her PFLAG’s glb-mychild.pdf information package and had like a 3 hour conversation with her about it to try and get her to accept it/have things go well. During the conversation, she obviously was bothered by it, and kept doubting that I was gay. At the end of it, though, it seemed like she was ready to look over the bible again and investigate the possibility that being gay is natural and OK or that the way Christianity is practiced today it is unjust to reject gay people while many other rules are not followed. Now it’s February and we haven’t said A WORD about it ever again – I still don’t have a girlfriend (duh) after a smashing 5 years of not expressing a lick of interest in such, though I think she still thinks I’m just confused/affected by a social justice group I’m in and I’ll suddenly realize I’ve been confused the whole time or something.

As you might suspect, my parents are VERY non-confrontational – it would help a lot if they constantly asked questions so I didn’t have to go through trying to work this out myself. I’m also very unbrave and don’t have a lot of willpower to just go up to their face right now and work it out, so I was thinking of mediation. Is it expensive? Is there services by nonprofit groups or societies that give out mediation services to people who fit certain criteria? What I’m hoping to get from mediation is to reach an outcome where my parents are supportive and accepting or will be set on the road to a positive attitude.

Opinions/comments of the non-homophobic variety would be much appreciated

So I’m about to break up someone by letter and this is what I’ve written please let me know if it sounds sensitive enough and if it doesn’t seem to harsh and if I should change anything or not….please be completely honest.
Hi, Please read all of this before you reply. This is actually really hard to write but I just have to say it. I think we should stop talking. I know you’re going to be angry when you read this because you’ll think that I’ve lied to you about caring about you. I do really care about you and I never lied about loving you. But you have to understand I have to do what’s best for me. I have a future and we both knew from the get go you weren’t going to be in it. I’m extremely sorry if you think that makes me seem like a bad person. The thing is I think you have a bright future too and I want you to be happy and I can’t tell you how much I wish you all the happiness in the world and I hope you find someone who’s the perfect partner for you. But that person isn’t me.. I have my own life to live. This is really hard for me to write and I’ve honestly spent the whole time writing it second guessing myself and rethinking if I should send it or not. It would be so easy if I didn’t send it and I keep talking to you and I get even more attached… but I have to do the right thing and end it. It was amazing talking to you and I think you know me better then most people will ever know me.. and you do have a part of me with you to keep. I know it sounds cliché to say it’s me and not you but it’s 100% percent true. Maybe one day in the future we can talk again as friends but for now we need to go separate ways. I could give you an extremely detailed explanation but really I’ll just simplify it by saying my relationship with you is interfering in my personal life with Jay. So the best thing for ME is to end it.. I pray you can understand that and forgive me. You can reply to this if you wish to tell me what you think and if you have anything you think I should know before we say goodbye. Well really this is a goodbye but I’m just letting you know that your free to reply…. even if it’s just to tell me what a horrible person I am for doing this (which I most likely deserve). I do love you and again I wish you all the happiness in the world and I really have nothing but well wishes for you. Good luck in life.. I know you’ll be fine because you’re an amazing person, friend, and father and don’t let anyone tell you differently. Bye.

Love, Izzy

It’s an complicated situation and I can’t tell him in person!

I would normally never ask anyone for relationship advice but I am like so torn right now. I have had a boyfriend for over two years, but for the past couple months things have been different, like we have been fighting more about almost everything. To make this pretty quick, i kept catching him lying about going out with his friends, which i dont care if he goes out but he was acting like he was doing nothing and then he was at a friends house so I told him not to lie about that anymore and he kept doing it. Like I feel like he just wants me to break up with him because he doesnt have the baIIs. He just has stopped trying I guess…like he is not really trying to be a good boyfriend anymore now if he messes up he just says sorry like it is nothing. I feel like he knows I wont leave so he just keeps pushing me. I know I am completely in love with him but the problem is he is really making me question us and I dont think that is good to be questioning our relationship. I feel like I love him but he doesnt love me, and then some days he acts head over heels in love with me, but that is not THAT often. I dont know I really need help someone Ive tried talking to him but he just goes "uh huh" the whole time and gets defensive.

i’ve been with the guy i’m planning to wed for over 3 yrs now. we have recently been having problems about my past in our relationship. i’m looking to find out infomation on online couseling and in person counseling. do you know a good web site that i can look at for either couseling or groups that would be helpful? for the online couseling it would have to be not to expensive. please let me know about these things if you have infomation on them.
no i have been talking to him about it for the whole time we have been going out. and now it is caousing a big problem. if you are just going to judge me then don’t answer… i’m just asking about relationship couseling!
and the thing about the secret kids? wtf? we have been trying to have kids for OVER a year and we are having trouble getting preg. so no secret kids. and he knows who i’ve been with and all that… it’s to much to explain everything. just give me some info. on couseling please.

My partner and i had been together for around 5 years. But last year we broke up for 3 months and he got another girl pregnant. We got back together, but he went to his sons scans and things. The baby is now 2 weeks old, and i have supported him the whole time, but he has treated me like crap the last month or so. Well and also throughout the relationship but i couldnt let go.
I broke up with him last week, and am fininding it hard to not txt him and stuff. I feel like i am strong enough now tho to leave him!
What should i do to keep myself happy?

I was supportive of him bout his son and was definatly ready to welcome his son into my life. But he takes me for granted and goes a week without talking to me. so i left him finally! He has also cheated on me in the past. I no i am better off without him

i asked this question earlier but would like a little bit more advice. The two people who answerd it before thanks:)