reposted because I’m in the US, not Australia

Last summer my ex signed our daughter up for a Select/ Traveling Softball Team. He said later that he didn’t know it required her to practice five days a week and travel to play two, but it did.

My daughter really wanted to do it, so I went along with it, but I literally saw her only three days the whole time school was out. I couldn’t travel for the games like my ex could. He’s pretty well-off, and I’m not. I told him them that he needed to stop planning things during my visitation time without talking to me about it.

I had to pull out the Court Order in September for him to start complying with it again. Initially, when I gave him two weeks notice of a visit (as our order states) he told me he would only ALLOW her to come if I would take her to ALL her activities, which still involved traveling for the games, until December. I really had to be firm with him . I have ordered visitation. It’s not up to him to allow it.

Now, here we are again in summer. He has kept her home for two weekends, once because his family came to visit (not a problem) and the second time because she is volunteering for things at her church. I sense last summer happening all over again.

He can be very controlling; he always wants to tell ME how things are going to be. When we divorced, he tried to hold our marital assets until he could force me to give up our kids. I would not do it, and he didn’t win that in court, though he got residential custody. If he had his way, I would have no say in any of this, and his money has given him a lot of control.

When I asked today to make up the time I yielded for her to be with his family, he told me she was really busy.

How would you deal with this? I hate having to keep arguing over this. I want it to just go smoothly, with everyone doing what they are supposed to, but I guess that is not to be.
His Beautiful~ she LIVES with him. It is he who is not letting her have time with me.

so… last night i was out having fun and i knew that i would end up watching the guy i like and his fairly new gf make out the whole time. fortunately that didn’t happen.

He showed up and was talking to her at first then when i was about to leave i ran into him and he looked really bad. and i knew something was very wrong.. so i said "are you alright?" and he said "no, i’ll tell you later" then he left.

Now thinking it over, i know that they definitely broke up. because if they hadn’t they would’ve been standing together the whole night and she would have been there trying to make him feel better.

so when he decides to come out and tell me… i want to make sure i have good advice or just something to say to make him feel better.. what is the best breakup advice you’ve ever gotten? what made you feel better??

Thanks so much! =)

And don’t give me all this crap about putting a man through school etc. I mean when both people were working the whole time, have no kid and then decide to split. Why are you entitled to a man’s money?
Just as I thought, none of you can reasonably explain it can you?

My ex wife gave me custody of my two daughters when she left the state and moved to Tennessee. A year later she shows up wanting custody and removal to Tennessee. Mediation failed and her accusations of abuse unfounded and thrown out because the children have been in counseling the whole time since I gained custody plus are doing better academically. The next stage in court is Discovery. I am not sure what all this entails and I am looking for some information what to do and how to beat this part of the custody battle.

should I go? He wants me back because he lied and lied to me. Now he says he wants a chance and will do anything. The whole time he was talking to his EX-wife who cheated on him. So i got pissed and dumped him. now he wants to cry. So idk if you take that chance?

Well I was talking with my crush and he asked me if I liked him because he said so many other people had been telling him. Then after he found out I did he looked into my eyes and said," I love you" with love in his eyes when he says. I was completely shocked and almost stopped breathing and I asked him to repeat what he said and he said it again like it was a fact looking into my eyes the whole time. Then when my eyes got real big and I acted completely shocked and he all of a sudden said," Don’t worry I was just playing with you." Now I am really confused about knowing if he was just joking or not?

I have a relaive.She has lived with a man for 18 years.They filed taxes as "married"the whole time.There are a lot of assets involved.Now,the relationship has busted.The house is in "his name"although she has bank records where she has been involved with the payments for the entire time.Now,the man is telling her she must leave,it is HIS house.So,how would the dissolution of a common law marriage work?I mean the division of assets.Should she see a divorce atty?They were never legally married.Anyone familiar with the law please help.Somehow,I am the "answer man"in the family as I know a lot of things…The law isn’t one of them.I’m thinking divorce atty,but am stuck on the fact that there was no marriage.18 years of building assets together though,seems she should be entitled to half?What to do?What is the first step?Thank you in advance

My parents are getting a divorce and I had a few questions about it, mainly for people who practice law or are otherwise experienced.

My dad moved out back in 1999 on his own accord and communicated with us (mom, sister, myself) off and on for about 8-9 years (up to the present day), with some of those years being pleasant and even involving him in birthdays, holidays, coming over to the house, etc. (again, we didn’t kick him out, he chose to leave). Recently, he had a heart attack. We found out and went to visit him in the hospital. While there, his new ‘significant other,’ basically harassed us the whole time we were there. He has revealed that he has moved in with this woman and has since broken off communication with us and is paying the minimum child support (for my sister), while also refusing to pay for any of her future education.

He recently had his lawyer send us an ‘inventory’ letter which lists a bunch of random things in the house that he thinks are his (the majority of the things are not his – he didn’t buy them or they are long gone – and we think he just wants whatever they are worth in $$$$). Is he allowed to do this???? He has had 9 years and access to the items in the house (he could have taken them at any time), but he is clearly just saying he wants them so we’ll be forced to pay him whatever they are worth.

Please advise (serious responses only).

I realize that the law varies from state to state (I’m in PA), but I just wanted some advice.

Thanks.

I’m not getting in the middle of it, I’m asking a question about it. Two different things.

Thank you for your answer, though.

I have a relaive.She has lived with a man for 18 years.They filed taxes as "married"the whole time.There are a lot of assets involved.Now,the relationship has busted.The house is in "his name"although she has bank records where she has been involved with the payments for the entire time.Now,the man is telling her she must leave,it is HIS house.So,how would the dissolution of a common law marriage work?I mean the division of assets.Should she see a divorce atty?They were never legally married.Anyone familiar with the law please help.Somehow,I am the "answer man"in the family as I know a lot of things…The law isn’t one of them.I’m thinking divorce atty,but am stuck on the fact that there was no marriage.18 years of building assets together though,seems she should be entitled to half?What to do?What is the first step?Thank you in advance

I’ve been with my partner for four years. We have struggled for almost that whole time with his occasional heavy drinking. Like most people, a few drinks in a sitting from time to time is not a problem for me. It used to be a bigger problem, and he did tone it down.

However, it still impedes our relationship at times, from my perspective. I still worry about him getting "too drunk too early" when going out with friends, and I feel every Friday and Saturday night are now drinking nights (getting drunk not necessarily an outcome).

We both struggle with depression, and I think that his lack of a social circle has led him to drink out of habit. I think our issues as a couple aren’t all due to the drinking, I certainly have my own faults I need to process too.

I’m just wondering if counseling as a couple would be appropriate at this point? I don’t know. I’m feeling very alone and down lately. I don’t know how to explain it to him without it turning into another conversation where it focuses on his drinking.