I met someone and recently met him, he took vacation to visit me from Wales, and we got married with a marriage license etc. I dont want him to have to go back, because i might be pregnant. He doesnt want to have to go back either. Since were married, can he stay here with me and file for citizenship? Or does he have to go back to wales to apply for citizenship? ive researched that the process takes about 6 months (sometimes more) So we both dont want him to have to go back and me be pregnant by myself for that long please help me with any information!!! THank YOU!!
…no need for rude responses…dont reply if you cant respectfully give me an answer. we intentionally are trying to conceive. and yes hes from UK…im american. and im not going to allow him to stay if it would make him illegal…or go on welfare, i have a full time job making decent money thats unneccesary
at the moment he is on a tourist visa i believe itd b considered..he came here just as a "holiday"..but from what im gathering is ill jus have to carry the child alone aside from him continuously coming out to visit for periods of time

It seems to me there are no benefits to men for getting married. We gain no new rights and only gain obligations.

In the U.S. there is actually a 60% divorce rate for new marriages with women filing 85% of all divorces. If women aren’t expected to keep their vows then why should I be expected to keep my vows? Also why should women be able to profit when they break their vows? They get half of the marital assets but they rarely contribute half to the marital expenses. In fact only 30% of women actually have full time jobs and 40% can’t be bothered to work at all. And even those 30% that do work only make 80% of what a man makes.

How can a woman really claim to love a man and then insist that he surrender his financial security and take on a host of obligations towards her without a reasonable guarantee that she won’t screw him down the road?

My love doesn’t require a woman to become a slave. My equality doesn’t require one gender to be responsible for the health and welfare of the other.

In this country I have no right to reproduction even if I’m married.
I have no right to property that I have worked for for years if I am married.
I have no parental rights. At best I get parental privileges if I am married but I have to fight like hell to retain/gain any of them if I am not married. At best society, women, and the courts think of men as an ATM that donates sperm. This is the "equality" that feminists have been working towards these last few decades and frankly put, even the worst fabricated feminist horror story isn’t as bad as the reality that millions of men face every year.

Tell me this: If women create a political philosophy whose primary emphasis is the scapegoating of all men for the choices women make then why would I want to bind myself to someone who hates my gender so much?

Women have nothing I want and nothing to offer in marriage. Women expect men to make more money and carry the primary financial burden of marriage but see no need to reciprocate. You can’t cook, clean, or do any of the things that made marriage worthwhile in the past. In fact, I can’t even ask for those things without being called a sexist. Women can’t make as much money as men even if we can get you to work full time. Blame men all you want, (they always do), but the truth is women aren’t willing to do the things that men are to make more money. There is no sexism in the wage gap. Only women making choices to do less because they know their husband’s/boyfriend’s income will make up the difference.

And even if women did make as much as men it wouldn’t matter anyway. Every woman considers a man a deadbeat and a loser if he lives off his woman’s income. So how can I ever derive any satisfaction from a wife’s income? I can’t. So I won’t give her credit for the money she does make.

The fact is women have nothing. You are depreciating assets that bail out of marriage when it suits you. You are disloyal, lazy, and you blame men for everything and every decision you ever made. You demand all the reproductive rights but insist that men are equally responsible for children. A man can’t control the reproductive choices that a woman makes but is somehow equally responsible for the children she produces? In this country a man doesn’t even have property rights to his sperm once they leave his body. If someone gets a hold of my sperm and produces 20 babies without my knowledge and consent I am financially responsible for all of those children.

When women succeed it’s because you’ve defied the odds and when you fail it’s because of sexism. But when men succeed it’s because of sexism and fail because they are losers.

A man who has obligations but no rights is a slave. Marriage then is slavery for men and if you are a man who is married you are a slave.
How can any man be responsible for any pregnancy? The choice to make a baby isn’t made at conception. It is made unilaterally when a woman choose to not have an abortion and it is made before, during, and after conception when a woman chooses not to use birth control.

And if men are "equally" responsible for children then why aren’t we given equal parental rights? Why is it we are exploited for money but rarely given the same parental rights that mothers get?

We’re all equal but clearly, thanks to feminism, some of us are "more" equal.
Let me give you some facts on the so called "glass ceiling".
1. Only about 30% of women actually work full time.
2. While women get more bachelors degrees men still get more advanced degrees.
3. About 85% of women will have a child during her life. This means that of the 30% of women working fulltime about 85% of them will leave their job for an extended period to have their baby/ies and their willingness to work long hours to climb the corporate ladder will be reduced because they have children at home.

There is no glass ceiling. Only women who want to make babies and blame men when they don’t become CEO.
Ava B your shaming language needs some work.

The difference between you making money and men making money is you do it for yourself and would never support a man. Men do it so they can support women and children. That makes men more moral and that makes men working more moral than women working.

For the record I have multiple bachelors degrees and I am working on my Phd in Psychology. I own my own home and live quite comfortably thank you.

I have a friend who wants a divorce but his estranged wife is on welfare and is threatening to seek a divorce lawyer. Could someone on welfare afford a divorce lawyer? Welfare is this persons only source of income, so I don’t see how this is possible.

im not sure how it goes but how much custody would the court order for someone who is a violent, drug offender with no job, and lives with woman who lives off of welfare and also threatened to hurt the mother and the unborn child? the father is a mess no job, drug dealer. owns a gun what are the chances of him receiving custody?

My daughter has been harrassed and stalked, mentally as well as physically abused by her ex. They are now in a custody battle. The father has never provided any child support. He has followed her to work, threatened coworkers, dumped mud and dirt over her car and hid in the bushes outside her bedroom window. She was living with me while all this was going on, so I have pretty much been closely involved with all of this. My daughter and myself had to change our phone numbers because of non-stop calls from him 24 hours a day. The police have been called on several occassions. She even went to the police station to report being stalked with her cell phone that had the offensive text messages and pictures on it, nothing was done. He was hospitalized for so called depression and somehow has convinced the officials, doctors, lawyers and now a judge who is suppose to protect the children and welfare of those involved. We fear for our daughter and most of all our grandson.

im not sure how it goes but how much custody would the court order for someone who is a violent, drug offender with no job, and lives with woman who lives off of welfare and also threatened to hurt the mother and the unborn child? soo much drama i need answers the father is a mess no job, drug dealer. owns a gun what are the chances of him receiving custody?

if a couple is spitting up and the wife is leaving the home where the father is staying to take care of a special needs minor can the wife also take the stove,fridge,washer and dryer with her just because she helped purchase it.btw we only have one car and she insists on taking it as well leaving us with no transportation
And yes i plan to fight her tooth and nail for the welfare of my son who is everything to me.

I am a stay at home mom of 3 children and have been married for 12 years. During the marriage I have only worked a year, per my husband who has cheated several times. He is a contractor who makes very little, but at times he does okay. He owes the IRS 45K for one year that we separated when he moved in with another woman. I in turn moved out, went to work and made my 12 bucks an hour punching numbers and filed head of household… Now he is back and I want him gone as he is cheating again and I want to go to school and back to work, but is his debtg mine? I qualify for welfare in my state, but do not use it. What do I do?
He only filed once in the time we’ve been together, but he says I’ll pay for this the rest of my life and never be able to afford to have custody of my kids. I’m scared and broke. He will file an uncontested to save cash, but I don’t want to go to school to pay the IRS his careless debt that his drunken behavior brought onto us. Please, someone advise.

This is both for financial and legal reasons. I live in Northern NJ and have two children and the wife suffers from MS and severe depression. The wife’s behavior is irrational with some glimpes of sanity {she is off all her meds}. What can I do to secure the safety and welfare of my children? Has anyone gone through this? In all of this the wife is on disability and I work a 50 hour work week, without my parents help I would not be able to pay the mortgage.
Thanks for the great answers so far. Roy Boy you are right, but she refuses to leave the home and my attorney advises me to also remain in the home. I have her doctors on speed dial and certain neighborhood "angels" keep an eye on things while I am at work. I have figured our finances and unfortunatley a split means we both live close to the poverty line and the children further suffer.

Believe it or not, it is good to know that some of you know what it is like because I feel so alone in this. The guilt of leaving my disabled wife is unbearable, but I see no other option.
Abigail, you have not walked in my shoes. I have been with her for almost twenty years and have been in marriage counseling for ten. It is not for want of trying, she wanted the divorce. I have been physically and mentally abused by her and she recently harmed my son in a public place. Again you have no idea, people who have a disabliity are not all angels.

When I refer to her as the wife, it is what she currently is. Look within yourself on why you are taking it so personal.

Is it fair that in a child custody dispute the only thing that matters is that the rules created by the politicians are followed, that have noting to do with children’s rights or welfare?