My bf pays support for 3 children at 0 a month, plus half daycare for the youngest who is still in daycare, he pays 55 % of all medical costs. He provides insurance on the children. His oldest son moved in with us for lack of his mother doing anything for him. he came to us with holes in his socks! They make the same hourly pay rate, he basically gives her 50 a month after everything is said and done. The 2 younger children are still with her for now and he still has to pay the same amount of support for 2 that he was paying for 3, is this fair?
To cover all the details, she had an affair on him they got divorced and now she cant stand me being in the picture so she uses the children to get back at him. She does not comply with the court order for visitations, his middle son also wants to live with us because he is being shoved to the side for his sister. She treats the 2 younger children totally different, like the princess and the pauper. the girl gets it all and he gets nothing, not even attention. if he is in the middle of a tv show and sister wants the tv, she gets it and he has to stop his show. I dont know if it is normal for parents to show that much favoritism between there children, but I dont do that between my own children and his. His middle son is begging to come live with us, we have to fight with him to take him home after his visits with dad. Dad has begged her for more time with the children and he would still pay her the same support, but she refuses to give him the children any extra time. She has a schedule she lives by, get up 4 :45 am go for a walk, leaving the 10 yr old to watch the 5 yr old for an hour. gets ready for work, kids go to school/daycare, gets off work at 3pm, does not pick children up until 5pm after her second hour long walk of the day and 45 minutes of working on a boflex, she also had a bit of an eating disorder. she only eats salad so the kids get pb & j or soup for dinner, they are ready fr bed by 7:30, so why cant he get his kids more? she doesnt do anything with them.
She always tells the kids that their dad does nothing for them and doesnt help her at all(refer back to the support details) they both make over an hour however thru the divorce he got the house and had to buy a new car, we heat with Oil and god knows the pricing on that these days, her new house is thru work and it is 0 a month ALL UTILITIES PAID, her car is paid for, etc. Yet she could not aford to put decent sock on her sons feet, she interacts with the children about 3 hours a day and wont let him have more time with them. He is thinking of going for partial custody so he can have his children more. Has anyone been in this situation before and what rights does he have to go for this and any advice will be appreciated. He really misses his children and he does help her alot with the kids financially. I dont understand why she puts him down so much and me for that mater when shes the one who had the affair, now its like she uses the children to hurt him because he really loves his kids! I dont understand this at all, even though I am divorced I do not use my children against the other parent, Im just happy that they are involved, isnt that the important thing. I think having a father is just as essential to a child as having a mother. In this case, unless she focuses more of her time on her children instead of leaving them in daycare until closing, why cant he get them instead of them sitting in a daycare, it isnt fair. Its not just hurting him either its really hurting their children as well. ADVICE PLEASE!!!

I live in California with my 8 1/2 year old son and my fiance. My fiance’s company just transferred him to Wisconsin. I obviously plan on moving with him and I want to take my son with me but there is a bit of a problem, his father (me ex) doesn’t want me to take him out of state and says he will fight me on it.

When my son was 5 months old (2002), I got a lawyer and we went to court to get our parenting agreement in writing so not to confuse the child. We agreed on 50/50 visitation, and joint physical and joint legal custody. He did not have to pay child support.

Everything was going fine until 2004 when he just up and disappeared. I had no number or address for him, until April 2005, when I took him to court. This time, I had to represent myself because I could not afford an attorney. In mediation, we agreed that he would have supervised visitation for 3 months and he would pay me child support. When we went to court, the judge ordered the visitations and that he pay me child support directly. I saw the father the day after court so he could pay me the first child support payment, but I did not see him again until May 2006. I had contacted Child Support Services and ended up having them have his wages garnished for the child support.

When he came back, I was probably way too nice about the situation and I let him start seeing my son again. I allowed him to come to our house for dinner and take my son to ice cream and various things. I finally ended up allowing him to have him on the weekends.

He has now been going to his fathers every weekend, but my son sees it as "play time" because his father isn’t much of a disciplinarian. His father just moved into an 2 bedroom apartment 6 months ago, which he shares with me sons grandfather. My son does not have his own room or even his own bed there. His father does not come to any school functions, parent teacher conferences, or Dr’s appointments. He was however, very involved with his football season this year. My son also goes to a private school, which I was the one who got him into. I have been unemployed for the past year, but my fiance and I have been able to keep my son in his expensive school. I also take care of the costs of all of the school uniforms and any daycare and volunteering at his school that is required. Until I got laid off in June, I was the one who supplied the insurance for him. His father now has him covered through his insurance. His father is also a bit of a flake with the whole dropping off/picking up thing. He is constantly late on Sundays, dropping our son off way past his bed time. He also never contacts me about when I need to drop him off, or pick him up, or if he is gonna take care of it and he takes forever to get back to me when I call or text to find out what is going on.

I talked to his father a couple days ago about our move. My fiance couldnt possibly turn down his job in this economy because he is the primary breadwinner in the home. His father says he is gonna fight me on this because he belives this will be bad for our son. I let him know that I am not looking for an increase in child support and that I am willing to pay the travel costs to fly my son out to see him. I am willing to allow him to stay with him on all of my sons vacations (summer, Thanksgiving, Easter…) and I have even arranged so my mother will care for my son while his father is at work and he is out here. We want to be able to make this transition as easy as possible for everyone involved. My fiance and I are even willing to pay for his father to come out and allow him to stay with us so that my son is able to see his father every 6-8 weeks.

No where in my court documents says that the original joint custody was changed, but I have been the primary caregiver for my sons entire life. I have an appointment with an attorney in a couple days, but I am VERY worried. Am I gonna be able to bring my son with me?

Just wondering but when I go to court with the father of my child are they going to set up visitations that day… like he will get him every other weekend? and will they let me know that day how much child support I should recieve each month?

I reside in the state of Louisiana, can my wife and I get a divorce without getting our child involved such as child custody etc.

can we agree on children visitations etc.without including them in the divorce papers?

My question is:
1)what is the likelyhood that the DA will press charges in a statutory rape case that is three years old, where a child is involved?
2) What do you think the penalty will be?

My fianceé had a child with a girl who told him that she was 18, and when she found out that she was pregnant she told him and his family the truth, that she was really 16. She sent an email to his mother Explaining why she lied and that she was sorry. Now that she has had Child Protective Services in her life and not letting him have his son on his scheduled visitation days he wants to file an enforcement of visitations but get Joint custody because he feels that he is not spending enough time with his son. He gave her full custody at a prvious mediation because she continuously threatened to file statutory rape charges against him if he tried to gain custody, he wasnt sure if they would send him to jail, so instead of the chance of not being in his sons life he just gave her what she wants
The state is Texas
He did not sign away his rights to visitation. He has visitation but they are the standard. and since she is not giving him his son on his specified times then he wants to file an enforcement and gain joint custody for more visitation rights.

I was ordered to mediation with my ex-husband on may 29th, everything went smoothly and he agreed to everything i wanted. he had 10 days to email me with a schedule of visits for my child, and has failed to do so. So NOW WHAT!? we were explained that the mediation is a legal binding contract and if not adhered to would be null and void…. he didn’t have to agree to anything so i don’t understand why he wouldnt just say he disagrees and we would fight it out in court. So what the heck; that can’t possibly help him get everyother weekend unsupervised if hes going back on his word before he even sees her! Anyone know the legalities of broken mediation contracts?!
it was signed by both my ex-husband and i and was explained that it is a legal binding contract and that a copy will go to the judge that ordered the mediation.
and there is no agreeing amicalby; he wants what he wants after not havin sh*t to do with her the last 6 years so no… he’s not getting that; (unsupervised) i asked for a 90 day reintroduction with social worker supervision and then 90 days supervised by his mother… is that so difficult? she’s 6 years old and i refuse to leave her with someone for the weekend that she has no idea who he is. just because he’s "dad" i might as well drop her off 3 doors down and tell her she has to stay there the weekend cuz his names "jim" either way its’ the same in her 6 year old mind.
the new visitation schedule was written up and signed by both my ex-husband and I. It was detailed as to how the visitations were going to go… and he agreed and signed everything…. so……wth!

I am a mother of 3 going through a divorce right now, their father will not agree w/me on anything, mostly on child visitations. I have come to the conclusion that I will need to hire an attorney but have no way of paying for one. I live in the Wayne County area of Indiana if anyone has any suggestions please help….thank you.