My brother and girlfriend have 3 kids together. He has previous legal problems with violence and now a problem with a suspended lincense. She is not inocent at all but no police record of it. She is the kind of person that will take the kids and not let any one see them. Since they are not married, how will the joint custody work? What are the chances he can get it?

We just want freedom. Freedom to do as we please- we already do not use violence.
We don’t need laws checking on our sermons and the views of our priests and ministers.
So if you want separation of church and state, then also agree to it acting both ways, let the churches be free from harassment and curtailment.

This is a very serious question and I know a lot of people are going to think why even try but this is something we want so if anyone could answer this question without being rude I would greatly appreciate it. So, me and my partner have had some troubles, not often, but when we get into a fight that neither of us can agree on or if it just gets out of hand then it usually turns out like this. One of us is trying to leave, the other one of us is trying to stop them from leaving and before you know it the communication barrier and all the tention and anger leads to violence. Not full blown blows or anything, but like grabbing each other , shaking, throwing each other , pushing, shoving and on rare occasion choking, we always seem to make up and by the end of the night we still love each other and know we need to learn to communicate better so things don’t escalade to the point of screaming, crying etc. But when we lay down and finally calm down, if u look around us things are broken, we are bruised and in pain. We would like to fix this and I think seeking counseling would be best but can we go to a counseling place and share that we are abusive towards each other and want help without them throwing either of us in jail?

ok, the story here is very long, so i ll try to keep it brief

my darling wife and i have been together 7 years, married 5, we have two sons, 4 and 15months

our relationship has nt always been great, we ve had alot of good and bad times but i may have had my last chance

basically, i have recently been diagnosed with bipolar, undiagnosed as depression for a long time, stemming from a trouble childhood and drug abuse in my teens, and whilst i am not using this as an excuse, i believe it is a huge factor in why my marriage has broken down,

over the years i have neglected to show my wife the love she felt she needed, it was right at times but quickly ruined by my constant mood changes, arguements went from fiery to violent (on my side) never seriously injuring her but enough to physically hurt her, i dont remember much about it all, a red mist decended and from that my mind is blank (i am now seeking anger management help, but the violence is nothing like it was)

if that was nt enough for my poor wife i went into even deeper depression and rejected the support she tried to give me, i turned to another woman, i did nt have a physical affair but some might say it was an emotional one, she found out and quite rightly did nt believe me, to worsen matters i then decided i did nt want my wife and spent the night at the other womans house, again no physical affair, we did nt even talk, i slept on the sofa and returned to my wife the next day, she did nt want me to leave and i stayed, i knew through this i loved her and tryed to get help.

the help i recieved helped for a while, but the mood stablising drugs i was taking were effecting my work, me being foolish and thinking i was ok now just stopped them and the problems arose again.

all the time these things were destroying my wifes love for me, unbeknown to me, i was trapped in a suicidal, self harming bubble, every time i hurt her i cut myself.

fast forward to recently, things had nt been too bad, but things still were nt quite right with us, i was feeling rejected and she was starting to get more of a social life, i was feeling rejected and was beginning to think i had pushed her into the arms of another man, a friend she has at work, after talikng to her about it i belive she is nt seeing this guy and that he is just a friend, but my paranoia was making me think because i had done this sort of thing, then she may too.

i took an overdose of my tablets and ended up in hospital, this foolish act was the beginning of the end, it was getting too much for her and it really upset her, as she saw there was no reason for me to try to take my life
HOWEVER during my time in hospital, and the thought of losing my wife caused something to ‘snap’ in my head, i realised all my mistakes, felt the pain i had caused her, basically a real reality check, i accepted my mental illness finally, went to see my gp, got refered to a mental health team and started making changes

the love and affection i showed my wife over the last three weeks had been natural, she was still not right but i took that for being the shock and her not beliving i had changed, as i had said so many times before,

we went on holiday last week, a good holiday until i foolishly responded to flirty messages i had replyed to on facebook, she found the messages and quite rightly hit the roof, and that was the final straw, she wanted us to have a break so she could think of whether she could forgive me or not, i think she believes me when i honestly say it was a mistake, again the feeling of being rejected had made me think it would be ok to respond to these messages,

so here i am, now living with my dad, while she thinks on whether she can live with the memories of the last 7 years, shes not ended it properly yet, does nt want a divorce (yet) and says she still has feelings for me but is not in love with me (understandably)

this has hit me so hard, i know i love my wife so much, always have done but my neglect over the years has destroyed her love for me, she says this is nt a short break and she does nt know how long it will take to give me a definate answer, she knows i m seeking help to change, but i m not sure what else i can do, i will give her space, but at the same time i m wondering if we spend longer apart will it be harder for us to get back together, do i wait? try to move on? i m in limbo and not sure whats for the best

my love for her is so strong, we have talked alot and are getting on as friends,

i m not looking for answers, id just like sensible input into this situation

hope someone out there has some wise words or experiences

Phil

I have been sick for about 1 year, I live in another state and I have the children 100% of the time do to violence from my ex spouse ( court ordered). My spouse hold all the assets. Married for 18 years. His argument is he shouldn’t have to pay money I should work and he should also be able to reduce support( all teenagers).

If a mother and father want to get a divorce (assuming there is no violence or metal abuse) but the children dont want them to, should this be a factor in whether or not divorce should be allowed?

Also the parents could then get divorced once a child is 18. Or maybe should the parents be forced to seek counseling to try to save their marriage?

His wife obviously came after him with the intent of harming him, and who knows how often she has done this in the past. Why is she being portrayed as the victim here, when Tiger was the one who was physically injured by her violence towards him?

I’m writing a piece of fiction in order to help raise awareness of domestic abuse/violence, and I would sincerely appreciate it if you would share your experiences here (or you can personally message me should you feel uncomfortable with that.)

Thank you all!