My wife and I have been married for 9 years but have been a couple for nearly 15. We have (2) small children, ages 6 and 3. My wife admitted to cheating on me during at a work-related out-of-town conference about1 1/2 months ago. I forgave her and we talked about why it happened and how we would deal with it. Over the next month, things were fairly good between us. I did have trust issues but I thought we were making progress. Just last week, she told me she was very unhappy with life, work, our marriage and motherhood. Since then, all intimacy and affection has bascially stopped and it seems like we are more like roomates than a married couple. On a side note, my wife is on hormone medication and just recently started thyroid medicaion as well. Anyways, we had a long talk about our relationship and we discussed the need to see a marriage counseler. My wife couldn’t explain the reason(s) for her unhappiness and wasn’t able to answer some of my questions concerning her love for me and if she truly wanted to stay with me and the children. During our conversation, she brought up the idea of a trial separation on numerous occasions. This is where I am confused and scared. I am 100%, madly in love with my wife and adore her completely but I keep thinking that it was something I did to make her become unhappy. I’ll be the first to admit that I am not the greatest at expressing my innermost thoughts and I tend to hold my feelings back. I am totally against any type of separation because I believe we made marriage vows to stand together, in either good times and bad, and for me, leaving is not the answer. We have a marriage counseler appointment on Thursday and it feels my life is on hold until either my wife decides what she wants to do or what our counseler suggests. My biggest fear is that the counseler might agree that a separation would be beneficial and my wife would be gone by the weekend.
How do I deal with the anxiety and fear that I am feeling? Do I just need to give my wife time to figure out why she is unhappy? Any help or suggestions are surely appreciated!
The cheating episode occured once, with a complete stranger and they didn’t have intercourse. I am 100% sure that she has being faithful to me since that event occured.
My wife’s explaination for the trial separation: It would give her time to think, discover why she is unhappy and to see if being away from the kids and I would make her any happy. If after being separated, she was still unhappy, it might be a medical reason.

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My girl got mad and started acting stupid with me.
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