his father has been divorced three times, married four times, and had couples counseling with the 3rd marriage. Sounds like his 4th marriage is going well, but do you think his son will learn from him and not do that, or end up doing the same thing he did if something goes wrong? What do you think?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We have lived together for about 15 months. In the past 6 months his mood swings have become unbearable. If we start arguing about something small he blows up in a rage and starts throwing things, breaking things, calling me names and pushing me around. I am constantly walking on eggshells for fear that I am going to say something to "set him off". Some of our arguments are over my cat who he then winds up picking up and throwing him out of the house. I am afraid that he will seriously hurt him someday. He has thrown my stuff out of the house three times in the last six months, twice in the last 3 weeks. We are scheduled to start couples counseling on Monday but I just don’t know if it’s going to do any good. One second he is an incredibly loving man and the next he is a tyrant. There are times where I get the cold shoulder for several days at a time. I just don’t understand what’s happening.
Thanks everyone for your help. I am currently staying with my sister and am not going back until I see how his attitude is with the therapist on Monday night. If he really makes an effort than I am willing to work on this, if he doesn’t want to try than I am gone!

I am in need of advice for marriage. My parents have liked this guys and they had mentioned and introduced him to me. And he did ask my hand for marriage. The only problem is I don’t know much about his past as I have only met him few times. The thing that scares me he has indian background so I don’t know how strong he carries the tradition and rituals. I am also indian background but because I been in US for so long my thinking and habits have changed a lot. He been in States for 5 years and pursued his MS here.
He does have huge family like 3 sister and 3 brother and their kids so it huge tribe.
Its been so hard for me to make decision I don’t love him yet because it is an arranged marriage but final decision is in my hand. And he asked me like three times what is my answer. To me he seems very family oriented. Also he is four years bigger than me so I don’t is the age gap too much.
Please let me know what I can expect from person who is raised in India as compare to person who is raised up in US.
thanks!!!

My divorce case took 2,5 years. It took so long because my husband was not comply with any temporary orders and delaying the case. We have one child. There was no custody battle. My husband was in jail three times because he was paying child support and maintenance order by court.Judge that was handling the case send him to jail and he said that he will not go out unless he paid ,000.00. Pre trail judge said the same. Finally we got trail judge and she said that he will get out of jail paying if he pays only ,000.00 giving him a credit of ,000.00 because he was in jail and could not work.
She make a judgment against him for ,000.00 that I will not see probably. And she want me to sell my house because she think that is marital assets. If my lawyer asked that his half can be deducted from his child support own to me she say no. And now I have to sell my house, he is still driving expensive car and I don’t have my money.
Sad. My lawyer told me that I can make a motion to reconsider or appeal. What do you think is better to do. Plus I found out that the trail judge made some mistakes from this what she heard from me at trail.
I did not have a court reporter at trail. What I should do ?

So i want to break up with my boyfriend, and have been somewhat giving him the silent treatment.
We have been together since December of last year.
I have only been able to see him like once or twice a month since we have been together.
My mom and I also talked this over, and she decided I should just break up with him.
But here is the problem…. Like I mentioned above I only see him like once or twice a month, and since I am currently home bound (brooding some baby chickens, and preparing to brood baby quail, then after that brooding some more quail) I probably won’t actually see him in person at like another month.
I want to breakup in person since it is more mature, but i don’t know how much longer I can wait, especially since he keeps badgering me with texts asking what’s going on with me lately, and how I am driving him crazy, and asking if there is a problem he is unaware of.
Since he sends these like three times a week I am having a hard time not replying to him that I want to break up….. Please some advice.
The reason I am asking this now is because he just sent me a REALLY badgering text, and I want to know if I should just end it here and now, so I can keep my sanity.
Thanks.
Hahahaha your answer made me laugh… And its probably true… if I choose birds over him… Then there are defiantly some issues.
17, so yes still pretty young. And the birds are my only thing I do for money right now, so i have to be sure they are all healthy before they go off to their new homes.
And when i say badgering, I mean that if we go one day without talking he askes me if something is wrong. I don’t like clingyness. :/
Also we did see eachother all the time before we got together, then it got restricted because of my Mom not trusting him, then once she did trust him, I had begun getting preoccupied with other things.
Though yes I agree. I do suck.

Marriages are threatened by money troubles, lies, adultery and divorce. Where’s the propositions prohibiting those
I stole this question from an answer to another question.

Why not legislatively forbid anyone with a DUI from getting married?

Why not forbid anyone who doesn’t make three times minimum wage from getting married?

Why not forbid anyone who isn’t a virgin from getting married?
Desi, careful, the question 2 in california is similar to Prop 8 in california

My Husband’s 2 1/2 year old son lives in texas (we live in Oklahoma)… if the court order says that they have to meet us half way to drop him off for visitation and they don’t show up, then what happens?
Can they go to jail if the offense occures more than three times?

I live in New York, and have a 14 month old daughter whose father lives in Pennsylvania. Her father has been diagnosed with a severe mental health disorder, and has been hospitalized in inpatient psychiatric units three times within the past 18 months. He has also been convicted of animal cruelty. I am fairly sure no judge would be crazy enough to award him custody either legal or physical, but am unsure of how visitation, especially supervised visitation would work with the fact that he lives roughly 6-7 hours away, any ideas?

Based on emails and my wife’s actions leading up to me being removed from the marital home, I believe I can prove my wife’s attorney advised her to, "Get him to hit you."

Acting on her attorney’s advice, over the next two days, my wife verbally and physically assaulted me three times, and when I didn’t retaliate, she dared me to spank her by calling me a wus and challenging my manhood. When I spanked her she had me arrested and charged with domestic assualt. The magistrate did not grant my wife’s request for an Emergency Protective Order, released me on a 00 bond, and I returned home a couple hours later.

Two days later my wife filed a false affidavit with Child Protective Services (I believe co-authored by her attorney) claiming abuse against her and the children. She exagerrated the spanking incident into a mailicious prolonged beating and further accused me of being a suicidal, drug addict, sex-crazed, rapist that beats his sons and inappropriately touches his daughter!

They used this Protective Order to remove me from my house and deny me all communication with my 4 children for the next 2 months.

After a couple of continuances, the PO was finally dismissed by the JDR court because it held no merit. No testimony was offered by wife because she didn’t even show up! I believe her attorney advised her not to. Either the attorney didn’t want my wife to purger herself on the stand or she wanted to continue the case again, keeping the PO in place even longer. She was using this PO as a bargaing chip in our divorce negotiations, offering to drop it if I agreed to her emergency pendente lite divorce demands. After the PO was disissed, the attorney threaten to appeal the PO to a higher court. The only other consideration she offered was to the help "nolo process" the pending domestic assualt charge. Is this ethical? In fear of losing my clearance, my job, and even more money going to court, my attorney advised me to sign the temporary divorce agreement.

Child Protective Services investigated my wife’s allegations and came back with a disposition of Unfounded. What recourse do I have? I believe my wife’s, and her attorney’s, actions were made maliciously, with the sole intent of getting the best divorce settlement possible. I believe they’ve misused Child Protective Services, manipulated the judicial system, and made a mockery of my civil rights. Can I attach the attorney to the civil suit I plan to file against my wife?

Equality is a great word and I’m all for it. But going thru a divorce, I saw my ex-wife was able to do/say/claim almost anything without ever being punished for lying (she was caught three times but the judge/s never punished her.)

That plus seeing my son; my ex stopped us from seeing each other up to six months in a row. When I called a lawyer, he wanted lots of $ and said "she doesn’t have to listen to the judge."

Is there ever a case in which the laws were unequal and hurt men/boys?