So i’m sorta kinda in love with my best friend. Uhm we dated once for a week back in april, but he broke up with me because we were too much of "friends" and whatever guy reasons there are. well i’ve dated a couple other guy’s and no matter what, when something goes wrong with the other guys, all signs point to my best friend. it’s been about three months since i told him i still had feelings and i think he’s forgotten it by now. but he has this new girlfriend and he’s really into her i suppose, and i hear. i mean he’s my best friend. he goes on and on about her. i just want to know what i should do. should i tell him how i feel? i don’t want this to ruin our friendship. should i wait until he’s single again? that could be forever. i’m so completely in love with him and he has no idea. help? advice? please?

So, I have been married 3 years. I do love my husband but surely dont feel in love with me. I don’t know why I even stay with him. I fear him when I tell him I want to leave him because he makes me feel so bad or threatens me that he will take my kids from me because I have depression. He also tries to bring up that I cheated on him emotionally with another man in the past. I didnt have sex but the man and I talked all the time and sent each other pictures etc. I am still in love with the other man but I cut contact off from him last week after my husband guessed that we were still talking. My husband claims he can read my mind, tell when I am lying, and read me like a book.
He has emotionally abused me for a long time. For example, he would get mad at me for whatever I ate, mad if I was late for anything, mad if I was not home when he deemed appropriate, mad if I didnt treat his kids a certain way (from a previous relationship), mad if i cried, etc. He called me a little girl all the time and a selfish brat. He used to withhold affection and attention and sex frequently.

So he has changed for the most part since he found out I had been talking to someone the past three months and was contemplating leaving him. He had this revelation I guess, but when he has booze, which he shouldnt, he says I can’t believe you told another man you love him, you should rot in hell for that, that makes you a cheating W*hore etc. He took my phone from me and disconnected the internet and tried to find whatever "evidence" he could to save his on a*ss in case I left him. He left me the car and said that I could leave if I wanted to but obviously he knew I wouldnt leave without my phone.

I feel obligated to make this marriage work bc I have done wrong. yes I know, but I am mainly terrified of him. It kills me that our 2 year old son is so attached to him. I feel like I will be ruining my kids’ lives. We also have an 18 month old girl. He has two kids that are 6 and 8 from his ex.

I have a new wedding ring coming to me and my birthday is on sunday. He even said dont expect anything grand for your birthday cuz u already got a ring coming. And christmas is coming up. I feel like I should really leave him sometime soon, but I am so scared of making a huge mistake. I am trying to find a job because he made me quit my previous one…I am depressed, lonely, irritated, can’t sleep. His family are horrible people that hate me and will make my life hell I am sure especially if my husband says yea she cheated on me. He even threatened to tell the kids that I cheated on him if I do leave him. My husband slowed down his drinking and stopped smoking weed, but a lot of his family does smoke still. I am tired of being stuck with no friends bc most of my friends cant stand him and he wont let me have any freedom without constantly being up my *** or making me feel guilty if I do get out with a friend. Our bills are all behind and our debt is piling up too. I’m just at my wits end but I think to myself maybe i shouldnt think about myself and think about the kids….but i am also scared that they will see some of the mean things their father does in the future or might get told anyway that I cheated on him. My husband and I are going to counseling now, but I honestly don’t know if it is going to help me. It is hard to even have sex with him now and say to him that I love him. Which I do love him, but I dont feel in love with him. Even though I cut contact with the other man, all I do is think about him constantly. It’s killing me inside and I don’t know what to do. The other man wants to be with me or at least wanted to before i had to cut him off right in front of my husband. It felt like true honest love. My dad who is a lawyer claims that if i move into the other guys house even if he doesnt live in it and stays elsewhere while i divorce, i might have a custody issue. My dad says i should move across the state to where he is so that it would be harder for my husband to get primary care and fight me. I’m so lost!!!! Help!!! Why do I feel so obligated to make this work? My husband claimed that he would never take me back if I did leave him for someone else, which is understandable…but would u really say and do the kinda things to someone u supposedly love!?

My daughter’s father has been paying 1/2 of what he owes for the last three months, and hasn’t even called her. He is probably going to want her to fly from FLA to VA to see him over Christmas. Can I deny his visitation?

We both agree to everything, only been married three months, no assets, no children, no anything, agree to uncontested. Once the judge sees our financial situations, do they ever award to the other spouse even if they are not asking for anything? His financial situation is not as good as mine and he has three kids from previous marriage

Just completed foreclosure mediation with BoA. Was granted a trial Modification for three months. They are supposed to be sending a packet with all the documents and instructions. Since we are in foreclosure because of their dishonesty on a previous modification I am worried sick about not get the documents. Can anyone tell me how long it took to recieve your docs from BoA after mediation? Thanks

A judge ordered child support to be paid by my ex. The order was dated June 24th of this year. So far my ex has still not paid a penny of child support (three months after the court order was put in). He is already in arrears (my child is over a year old now). Is he going to get in trouble for not doing as the judge ordered?

I have child support enforcement working on this matter, but I am surprised that he is not in contempt of court by not paying his court ordered child support immediately.

If you decide you want marriage counseling how would you bring up the idea to your spouse?I have brought up marriage counseling in the past but he wasn’t very receptive of the idea and told me that our relationship was NOONEs business.Things got better for a little while but only because I just berried the problems deep inside me to appease him. Now that they have resurfaced I want to get them worked out before something bad happens again.I had an affair from about six months out of our seven year relationship about three years ago, because I wasn’t getting the attention that I needed from him and he was choosing to look at porn before I got home from work instead of waiting for me to get home.When the affair stopped I thought everything would be ok.I stopped having sex with him completely,I didn’t sleep in the same bed with him the last three months of the affair and I didn’t kiss him the problems are different now but the new problems bring back the old feelings of discontentment
if i wanted to end my marriage I would have asked how to file for divorce! Marriage should be worked on as long as abuse isnt involved unless it just cant be fixed.
Before you say its me why don’t you ask.

What does your husband do to make you disconent? Well he stays up late and half the time looking at porn,he doesn’t make an effort to spent time with our daughter.Conversations at home are all about his work or something related to his work and when I try to talk about something else he cuts me off with talk of work.If he doesn’t decide to talk about work when he gets home he sits on the couch and falls asleep.

I’m going to Sri Lanka for a 3 month holiday from the UK later this year and I wondering what the limit is on the amount of mediation I can take to a foreign country like Sri Lanka.

I currently take a number of mediation including Asthma inhaulers; Eczema skin cream; Ramipril capsules for high blood pressure; and Propecia for reducing hair loss. I also use some contact lens solutions.

If I took three months supply of, for instance, Procecia and Rampipril (90 tablets for each) and the contact lens solutions, would there be an problem getting them through customs. I’m sure I can get most of these drugs on prescription in Sri Lanka, but what is the maximum I can take with me?

My husband had another baby with his ex-wife after only being married for 3 months with me. We separated and then came back, separated and now he wants to come back. We started marriage counseling today, he set up the appt and did the reseach himself. But I honestly really want to know if this is going to help us. We both want to be with each other and we both love each other but we argue just about every day.. what should I do? I love him dearly but I really don’t know if I have forgiven him for what he did. The therapist told us we have a long road ahead of us but that she could help us. He did participate in the counseling, he hugged me and told me and tells me every single moment that he loves me and wants to be with me. He has been very compassionate with me, everytime I cry he holds me and tells me that he loves me..
What do you all think? Is he really sincere.. You men out there give me some insight to this, please.
He got his Ex -wife pregnant three months into our marriage, she had the baby a couple of months ago. hope that clarifies just a litte.

Wife filed for divorce three months ago. She hasn’t spoken to me since and refuses marriage counseling. If I ask for the jugde to recomend counseling before the divorce is finalized, in my response, Would they consider my request?