Alight guys I need to give you guys a little bit of background for you to understand the situation, but i really need some serious advice on how to deal with this.

So 3 years ago I started dating a guy I had been friends with for a little bit. after about 3 months or so of dating my mom kicked me out at 17, him and his family took me in and let me stay there. soon after that I became pregent with our daughter. we had our problems as most couples do and now 3 years later we broke up. 3 months ago he lost his job and we had to move out of our apartment and I blamed him for that because it felt like he wasn’t trying as hard as he could to provide for his family. I feel like I took out all my stress out on him. and now he’s broken up with me and says that he doesn’t even enjoy spending time with me anymore. Its only been 2 days since the breakup, and those two days a mutual friend of ours was over, we were tying to stay in the same house and I felt like my friend (who happens to be a girl) was spending alot of time and it was making me really uncomfortable. I feel like because of that I couldn’t give him the space I think he needed and now I;m scared the damage is too much. I don’t want to see my family not be together. he says he still loves me and I believe that, i still love him dearly and all i can do right now is try to give him space( the girl has left and I have removed myself and my daughter from the house) he was asking for hoping that maybe he’ll come around after some time to blow off steam. but he tells me the rs’s no hope for us. I cant tell if hes just saying that because the whole situation has upset him or ithat’sts really the truth. Itextremelyly hard for me tbelieveve someone can give up on something that admit to loving and a family. I’m just not sure how to handle the situation.

please guys i’m all ready down I don’t need anyone being rude. I know I need to move ountilll he’s ready to work on things and in time I think I will accept if he doesn’t
we moved in with a mutal friend and had been there there almost a month before this, this girl along with a few other people happened to be there when it happened. the plan was for her to stay for the weekend when she came and to hang out with all of us. however after the breakup she didnt leave his side i tried to explain him that it was just making me feel worse and I was haing a hard time dealing with it beacause of it but it just made it worse beacuse trust, and me giving him soace were basicly why we broke up.

My girlfriend’s birthday is coming up and I want to make sure it’s amazing. There’s been a lot of stress for her lately and she’s been dying for a getaway. Unfortunately, I’m 18 and am also in the middle of saving for a nicer car so I can’t spend a lot of money. I made a 2 night reservation for a suite at a nice hotel in Stowe VT. It cost about 0. And I’d like to stay less than 0 for a couples massage. However, I can’t seem to find a place cheap enough in that area! Please help, I just want everything to be perfect.

I want to break up with the girl that I still love. She is a rare beauty and used to have a very good personality. Over past few years she became a real bitc* Her personality became horrible and is too much for me to handle. I broke-up before, but those other times I couldn’t stand those women anymore, so it was easy to dump them. This one I don’t want to break up in hopes that she will change, but I’m too tired of the drama and constant stress, and she’s not changing. Anybody braked up before in a situation like mine? What happened after the break up?

My husband has been clean and sober for 6 months now. I was ready to leave him 6 months ago, that’s why he went into rehab to start his recovery. He has been working very well on his sobriety by attending meetings, having a sponsor and seeing a counselor. He has also been diagnosed with bipolar in which he does take his medications for. But still, we have issues. He still makes rude comments to me in front of friends and family members. And, we don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things now. He doessn’t seem remorseful for what he has put me through for the past 20 years or how he has treated the kids in the past few. I support him with his sobriety by taking care of our kids alone on my own so that he has time to go to meetings after work. I am a stay at home mom who takes care of all the finances and do what I can to keep his stress down. I even support him on having his hobby of rc truck racing. When I have brought up anything about how I feel, he tells me he can’t deal with any of that now because he isn’t at that step yet. I try to be understanding. But the pain just builds and builds in me because he doesn’t seem sorry nor does he see how rude and disrespectful he can be towards me. I get criticized for everything I do, including my parenting skills. My question is, is this good for the kids to have to continue to witness, me being sad and him being rude to me? How long does it take to see at least an improvement on the behavior? I am not asking for perfection. But a good start would be knowing that he was sorry and cared about our feelings. He doesn’t spend too much time with the kids, either. I am just wondering if I fighting a never ending battle.
Sincerely, Heartbroken

My dad is leaving in just over 2 weeks for a trial separation. But I don’t know what’s going on and my parents are keeping me in the dark. I know some stuff they don’t think I know as well. I know that my dad had an affair in 2003, but they have no clue I know. I think that’s what also happened this time but they won’t say just for me to find out about 2003 was extremely difficult and took a lot of snooping but now I just can’t figure out if my dad had an affair again, but I also don’t know what I’d think even if he did I mean he’s still my dad. He’s never really been violent or anything he’s been a good dad I mean he yells and I’m pretty sure he suffers from depression but I’m not sure. Regardless I like my family just the way it is but I think that my parents might be using the trial separation as a disguise to not hurt my feelings and they may have already decided to have a divorce I just don’t know.

What should I do? I mean I know I can’t stop the separation and I think it’s good that they are, but I also know that if they get a divorce they’re planning on my mom getting full custody and even if my dad was cheating I still love him.

Is there anything I can do to help? I want to have them stay together but I’m not selfish and if they don’t want to then ok get a divorce it’s just I want to help.

How should I handle the stress? I already suffer from some depression and this is not helping.

Situation: The son is in the process of divorcing. His mother believes everything her son says about what’s happened without hearing his wife’s side of story? If you are the wife and your mother-in-law judges you based on the lies her son told her, how would you deal with her? They are making stories like the wife walked out on her kids. When in reality the kids are staying with her 5 days a week with little or no child support. And the wife still deals with the ex-husband as peaceful as she can although it’s breaking her heart and emotionally drained. How would you face a mother-in-law like this? What are the things the wife can do to lessen the stress brought by it? Should you explain yourself or just focus on the divorce?

The Mom and son can be both arrogant when being defensive. The son is spoiled brat he’s used to getting what he wants. The wife knows her husbands family’s stinky side because she’s there when they gossip about other family members, judge and call them names as though they are so clean – the wife knows how they can be arrogant and self-righteous. She also know they are a loving family in a way that they are affectionate and pretty loyal to each other.

And you’re a bit annoyed? Lately it’s been 1-2 times a week, now nothing for 2 weeks! My partner is sweet, cooks for me all the time, buys flowers etc, but I need the intimacy side too…he’s been stressed a bit lately (he’s not great with stress), so I’m not sure if bringing it up will add more stress and pressure? How would you bring it up?

Okay I’m going to re-phrase this question and add in more details I left out
In my understanding when a mother walks out on her children, she gives up that right. I’m just wondering if that is a legitimate law. My parents are in a messy divorce right now which is giving me a lot of stress and my dad asked my mom nicely if she would give enough notice ( a month). Because my sister is handicapped so she has health care providers that come in and they already made up the schedule for the month. My mom only calls if its necessary for her. Shes trying to make it look like my dad isn’t allowing her to come over or take us for a weekend. My mom left the house last year and has only come over for like a few visits lasting 5-10 minutes & last time my mom asked a few days in advance, my dad told her no, unless we had more notice and she threatened for things to happen..the reason I don’t want me or my sister to go over there is because my Mother was physically abusive to my sister and threatened me everytime I got in her way. I was 8 when this was going on, I was scared and didn’t speak up until recently. My mother is twice my size, I am honestly afraid of her and the fact that I don’t trust her should be reason enough not to allow her to go, I hold the memories of hearing my sister cry because my mom was abusive and there was nothing I could do at the time..I ended up in counselling from stress and I don’t think my mom deserves any right to us anymore. She lost that right the day she walked claiming she was afraid for her life when shes the one that endangered ours. She sat and packed her bags for almost an hour then called her friend to pick her up. My dad didn’t do anything, he told her to stay because there is another lawsuit that is unreleveant to this question. Shes an alcoholic, abusive, and used to be afraid to get in the same room as her incase she ever went for me, I’m small so I can’t defend myself. I told my dad about this as soon as he found out that my mom was cheating. I’m speaking up in court I wish I did a long time ago but I couldn’t. I had oppertunities, but my mom was always in the room. I belleve the law in canada states that when a parent abandons their child and abuses them, they no longer have thier right, Is that true? And with that being said, Doesn’t my dad have a right to protect me & My sister from her by telling her no she can’t take my sister for a weekend, until this is fully settled in court. She knows I won’t go to her house anymore, I’ve made it clear I want to be left alone. Everytime she comes over its for 10-15 minutes, she walks around the house, calles me and my sister "Hello Puppy" and leaves. My dad doesn’t stay in the same room as my mom; he sits down the hall and listens. I’m afraid that with my moms past and current state of desperation she could attack my sister and blame it on my dad, I can’t go with her because just hearing my moms voice or seeing my moms face brings the memories of the screaming and yelling back, it makes me upset and I can’t be around her anymore. All of this is being stated in court as well. Now my real question is: Did she not give up her right ? If it helps to know what area we are in, its canada

My wife and I have been married 20 years. We have five children (youngest is 4). We are under a lot of stress right now raising kids and with financial problems. My wife has alway been a good wife and mother…until recently.

She started seeing another man about a month ago. I got suspicious with some of her actions and confronted her. First, she denied it…then eventually confessed that she had developed feelings for another man. I feel somewhat responsible for driving her into this relationship, as I should have shown her more appreciation and paid her more attention. It’s not that I didn’t love her. On the contrary, I absolutely love and adore my wife and I am fully devoted to her. But I didn’t do enough things to adequately communicate my love, adoration and devotion for her.

So now we are on the verge of divorce. She says she is very confused right now and doesn’t know what she wants to do. She says she still loves me. She is asking me to give her some time to sort it all out. I’m willing to give her this time. I, for one, want to do everything in my power to save the marriage and keep the family together.

However, she wants to continue to be in contact with the other man while we’re in this "transitional" stage. This doesn’t really sit well with me and am going to ask her to choose between continuing with me or move on with this other man. But I’m afraid this may lead us to a point of no return and no chance of future reconciliation. If she truly doesn’t want to be with me, so be it. But if there is any hope of future reconciliation, I don’t want to mess that up. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt…that she isn’t thinking rationally because of all the stress in our lives right now.

So as far as I see it, I have three options: divorce, separation or give her time to sort it out.

My question is for the folks out there who have done the cheating. Did time really allow you to "sort things out?". If your spouse asked for a separation, would you have dug in your heels and make the situation even worse? For those who did a trial separation, did that help? How long did the initial feeling of euphoria with the new person last? And finally, if you did eventually reconcile with your wife/husband, what made you finally decide to come back and how long did this process take?
Response to Karen Star:

I neglected to communicate my appreciation, devotion, and affection because I am not a verbal person. It’s easier for me write down my feelings.

Also, for me, I know she loves me just by being with me in the same car,in the same room or just walking hand in hand. So, stupid me thought these same things would apply for her also. Big mistake.

I made a huge mistake and married young (please don’t judge). I now realize that this was a very stupid thing to do…. 2 years too late. What is the best way to do it? There’s not much to divide and we have no kids. I just want to know the easiest and cheapest way to get this over with so that I can go back to school without any stress. I want my maiden name back too.