Have been married for almost 9 years (have two children). He cheated on me for the first time while away with army during the time around our first anniversary..tried to work thru it and then cheated on me again after 4 yrs of marriage. He even left me for her only came back when I got a job (before this was a stay at home mom) and started having lunch with co-workers. Well last year I made a HUGE mistake and cheated on him. I have begged for forgiveness and said I am so very sorry. But, every day since I am belittled and treated like dirt. I cant go to the store without him or he accuses me of cheating. I am tired of being called a slut or whore, etc. But I don’t want our marriage to end because there was a time when we were happy. Any ideas how to deal with a jealous and controlling husband?
I need to admit I was super selfish and wrong for what I did. I just want forgiveness and to "start over".

We’ve been together for four years and we have a kid on the way. I’m the only one currently working and I’m making pretty good money. I own the house we live in, along with a few others. She got laid off two months ago and I told her it was fine, she can take it easy until the baby comes and then be a stay at home mom. I asked her yesterday is she would sign one and she flipped out. She thinks I think I assume were going to break up, which I definitely do not. I’ve just heard too many horror stories of people not signing prenups. I also have a friend going through it now and it’s not pretty. She told me we’re not getting married if I make her sign one. I think she assumed I’d change my mind which I didn’t. I love her and she’s pregnant with my son. Is she being unreasonable? Am I? I don’t know what to do here because we’re both hard headed and I don’t think either of us will be changing our mind. I’m lost on what to do.
@CindyLu

You hope I treat the child much better than I treat the mother? I didn’t know asking for a prenup was treating her bad. I just don’t like the idea of losing everything I’ve worked for in a divorce. It’s better to be safe than sorry. And I’d have no problem paying child support. I also bought her a Lexus two months ago so that "doing something really nice for her" should be taken care of.

My husband has been clean and sober for 6 months now. I was ready to leave him 6 months ago, that’s why he went into rehab to start his recovery. He has been working very well on his sobriety by attending meetings, having a sponsor and seeing a counselor. He has also been diagnosed with bipolar in which he does take his medications for. But still, we have issues. He still makes rude comments to me in front of friends and family members. And, we don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things now. He doessn’t seem remorseful for what he has put me through for the past 20 years or how he has treated the kids in the past few. I support him with his sobriety by taking care of our kids alone on my own so that he has time to go to meetings after work. I am a stay at home mom who takes care of all the finances and do what I can to keep his stress down. I even support him on having his hobby of rc truck racing. When I have brought up anything about how I feel, he tells me he can’t deal with any of that now because he isn’t at that step yet. I try to be understanding. But the pain just builds and builds in me because he doesn’t seem sorry nor does he see how rude and disrespectful he can be towards me. I get criticized for everything I do, including my parenting skills. My question is, is this good for the kids to have to continue to witness, me being sad and him being rude to me? How long does it take to see at least an improvement on the behavior? I am not asking for perfection. But a good start would be knowing that he was sorry and cared about our feelings. He doesn’t spend too much time with the kids, either. I am just wondering if I fighting a never ending battle.
Sincerely, Heartbroken

Been with my kid’s father for 13 years, but never married. I was a stay at home mother. We live in Utah but will be moving to Arizona. The father makes 74,000 a year. How much would I get and where do I start on filing for child support?

Thanks in advance.

My husbands ex wife just gave us custody of his daughter. She and him filled out a paper and both had it signed and notarized. What do we do with the papers now and how do we get child support dropped? We hope to do this without a lawyer. Any help is appreciated. Thank you!!
Ha, its not that I am "cheaping out" its that we dont have the money for a lawyer. I am a stay at home mommy and we have 4 kids.

Me and my husband have been married for a lil over 3 years and will be together for 5 yrs in october.. We love each other but can no longer live together… We are ready to go our different ways.. We have two young children together 3 and 1 and he also has a 8 yr old from another marriage who lives with us full time, i have been in his live since he was 3… I am currently a stay at home mom and have been for 4 years, i have no job no money and no place to go with my children.. What can i do? What can we do to make the split up easier on all 3 kids? We want to go about with with out lawyers if we can manage.. We have been talking about splitting up our belongings but cant agree on whos is whos.. Before we got married i have nothing of my own i was fresh out of high school and he was 24 and had his own stuff and place.. And when it comes to the stuff we got together when married, he wants all the good stuff. ex. big screen tv, wii, hot tub and nice grill… I dont really care that much about the stuff but why should i be left with nothing? If anyone has any ideas at all please help me.. I dont know what to do.. but i do know i need to leave and my kids are coming with me..

I currently live in the mid west, my hubby of ten years decided to have an affair and not once but twice and I have to move on before it gets worse. Anyhow, we are going through the divorce process and we have our first court date in July of this year, anyhow, he said he will fight me with all his being to keep both the boys and to keep us all here for good. Except I have absolutely no family here, all my family lives in Texas, how can I convince a judge to let me relocate so I can have a good support group while I get back on my feet with my two boys. Thanks in advanced, sincerely, and mom of two.
Actually I have no support group close by but one friend left after I became a stay at home mom, people just seem to isolate you.
And no, no support group available anywhere for me, his family is taking sides they live about two hours from here anyway. All my family and close friends are in Texas.

And I am divorcing him.
I have not told him about my intentions yet, he just assumes I will want to move because he knows I have no friends or family here. He has been pretty controlling during our marriage and did not like me to have many friends, he has always isolated us, but I never said anything since I just did not want to start a fight, but enough is enough, I can’t put up with it anymore.
Betty Actually that is what I will do, my parents have a big home with five bedrooms and since its just the two of them, my and my two boys can each get our own room and my mom said she will baby sit the boys so I can go to work and get back in school.
I do have a family lawyer already, but our court date is in July and she and I are trying to work on a plan to try to get the judge to allow us to move, I just wanted to know if anyone else whom has gone through this or is familiar with this can offer good advice, thanks again.

I am a stay at home mom of 3 children and have been married for 12 years. During the marriage I have only worked a year, per my husband who has cheated several times. He is a contractor who makes very little, but at times he does okay. He owes the IRS 45K for one year that we separated when he moved in with another woman. I in turn moved out, went to work and made my 12 bucks an hour punching numbers and filed head of household… Now he is back and I want him gone as he is cheating again and I want to go to school and back to work, but is his debtg mine? I qualify for welfare in my state, but do not use it. What do I do?
He only filed once in the time we’ve been together, but he says I’ll pay for this the rest of my life and never be able to afford to have custody of my kids. I’m scared and broke. He will file an uncontested to save cash, but I don’t want to go to school to pay the IRS his careless debt that his drunken behavior brought onto us. Please, someone advise.

I have been a stay at home mom and now my husband has left the house and wants a divorce. I dont have any family that can afford to get me a lawyer…What can I do?

A friend of mine said I’m only entitled to 1/2 of his earnings for a year from the time I filed. I thought it was until the divorce was final. Anyone know? I’m a stay at home mom, so he’s been the sole breadwinnner for most of the marriage.