I have a 14-1/2 year old freshman daughter who was just asked to homecoming. I am allowing her to go, as they are going in a large group and I have just met the young man for the first time. I still maintain she’s too young to date one-on-one and she cannot get into a car with someone that I have not met/do not know. What rules have you set up with your teen and dating?
I have a 19 year old son who did not start dating until he was a junior/senior in high school. He was interested in school activities, sports and working – so I was not prepared for this to happen so soon.
Please no sarcastic comments – I am looking for parents’ replies – not other teens. Thanks!

I recently just got a new bf. I like him so much, he understands me, and he always knows what to say. My parents arent to happy with me for havin a bf. The other night they got into a huge fight about it. They hardly let me spend any time with him, and Im afraid hes gonna break up with me because of this. My parents claim that they trust me, but i kinda dont think so. I really dont wanna break up with him or have him dump me. Any advice on what to do???

O btw Im 14 and hes 13
i dont know why im not supposed to have a bf either, cuz im a really good student, i usually do what Im supposed to, and I’m a good athlete (sports are really inportant to my dad).

I’m trying to make a long story short so here we go. I am a server at a bar n grill. I have been married for 5 years with one small child. Well I am a server in the bar area and you know how you get the regulars that come in all the time after work. You get to know them and talk with them. Well everything was fine until this younger guy got hired there about 6 months ago. When I first saw him I was just like wow that boy is really cute. But that was it. But then I started to notice things about him that I liked. He is friendly, talkative, great sense of humor, great story teller, and just draws people to him, adventures, and more. I am 33 years old while he is 24.

Well after awhile we became sort of friends. He would come in with the rest of the guys but he would usually stay after they left if it wasn’t busy and keep me company. At first it was just friendly but then when I saw him flirting with another girl is when things turned for the worst. I noticed myself getting extremely jealous and acting rude to the girl. And that was when I realized I had a crush on him. Is this a normal feeling people have that are in a marriage?

The funny thing is he is the exact opposite of my husband. My husband is 6ft and about 230lbs. While this guy is 5’5 and about 140lbs. Also my husband just seems boring. He has no sense of humor and he is not very friendly to new people. He doesn’t like trying new things. He has never been able to hold long conversations unless it involved sports. And I have started to question why I have ever married him. And I blame it on Hollywood. Because my whole life I have been taught that a girl should be with a tall man. But I have no fun with him. I am really starting to regret ever getting married to him. Where as this guy I love talking to and I find myself actually excited to go to work or heartbroken if he doesn’t join his coworkers on that particular day.

I love hearing his travel stories. My favorite is when he want on this adventure tour in Costa Rica. He lied and had said he been kayaking before. So they started kayaking on this river and passed a crocodile he panicked and ended up flipping upside down. So he said and here I go the dumb city kid upside down in a kayak underwater about to drown or get eaten alive. I guess the guide and to come over and flip him up. But its stories like that just make me laugh and want to travel with him and live life to the fullest!

He also has parties at his place on the weekends and the other week I just had this fantasy of him ripping my clothes off and us going at it all night. So I invited myself over and everyone seemed kinda shocked but they were like alright. Well I made sure I was the last one at this place. And things got kinda awkward. Basically I walked up to him and was like wow that was fun so what do you want to do now? I was secretly waiting for him to just grab me and start kissing me but I think he knew what I wanted because his face turned bright red and he was like uhhh I’m really tired I think I’m just going to go to bed. So I left heartbroken and I just cried in my car for an hour.

I mean did he not want me because of how old I am? Do I really look that old? Other guys always complaint me on how good I look but he hasn’t. Or did he not make a move because he has morals and knew I was married? I feel so ashamed right now. I don’t know what to do? Are things over with between my hubby and me? Why am I so attracted to this guy? Is it normal for people in a marriage to have these sort of feelings? I am actually considering getting a divorce and then going after this guy again. What is wrong with me?

I’m trying to make a long story short so here we go. I am a server at a bar n grill. I have been married for 5 years with one small child. Well I am a server in the bar area and you know how you get the regulars that come in all the time after work. You get to know them and talk with them. Well everything was fine until this younger guy got hired there about 6 months ago. When I first saw him I was just like wow that boy is really cute. But that was it. But then I started to notice things about him that I liked. He is friendly, talkative, great sense of humor, great story teller, and just draws people to him, adventures, and more. I am 33 years old while he is 24.

Well after awhile we became sort of friends. He would come in with the rest of the guys but he would usually stay after they left if it wasn’t busy and keep me company. At first it was just friendly but then when I saw him flirting with another girl is when things turned for the worst. I noticed myself getting extremely jealous and acting rude to the girl. And that was when I realized I had a crush on him. Is this a normal feeling people have that are in a marriage?

The funny thing is he is the exact opposite of my husband. My husband is 6ft and about 230lbs. While this guy is 5’5 and about 140lbs. Also my husband just seems boring. He has no sense of humor and he is not very friendly to new people. He doesn’t like trying new things. He has never been able to hold long conversations unless it involved sports. And I have started to question why I have ever married him. And I blame it on Hollywood. Because my whole life I have been taught that a girl should be with a tall man. But I have no fun with him. I am really starting to regret ever getting married to him. Where as this guy I love talking to and I find myself actually excited to go to work or heartbroken if he doesn’t join his coworkers on that particular day.

I love hearing his travel stories. My favorite is when he want on this adventure tour in Costa Rica. He lied and had said he been kayaking before. So they started kayaking on this river and passed a crocodile he panicked and ended up flipping upside down. So he said and here I go the dumb city kid upside down in a kayak underwater about to drown or get eaten alive. I guess the guide and to come over and flip him up. But its stories like that just make me laugh and want to travel with him and live life to the fullest!

He also has parties at his place on the weekends and the other week I just had this fantasy of him ripping my clothes off and us going at it all night. So I invited myself over and everyone seemed kinda shocked but they were like alright. Well I made sure I was the last one at this place. And things got kinda awkward. Basically I walked up to him and was like wow that was fun so what do you want to do now? I was secretly waiting for him to just grab me and start kissing me but I think he knew what I wanted because his face turned bright red and he was like uhhh I’m really tired I think I’m just going to go to bed. So I left heartbroken and I just cried in my car for an hour.

I mean did he not want me because of how old I am? Do I really look that old? Other guys always complaint me on how good I look but he hasn’t. Or did he not make a move because he has morals and knew I was married? I feel so ashamed right now. I don’t know what to do? Are things over with between my hubby and me? Why am I so attracted to this guy? Is it normal for people in a marriage to have these sort of feelings? I am actually considering getting a divorce and then going after this guy again. What is wrong with me?

So my girl and I of 2 years broke up. We lived together for the past year and unfortunately got into the rut of being married without actually being married. It put a ton of pressure on the relationship and this break up was a result of the second of two times she felt like she needed some space. She actually didn’t say as much this time, but I knew something was wrong and I couldn’t take the mental strain anymore so I suggested the break up. She is only 22 and is trying to finish up school so she is young and feels like she wants a little space and needs to be single for a little while. She said she knows she loves me and I know at least a part of her wants to be together but just not right now.

I suggested we at some point get back together and just take it slow and more or less date instead get back into full force relationship. I know she has never cheated or anything like that and this isn’t about a guy, but one thing that has bugged me is that she was basically texting back and forth with a guy for about a week or two. I saw the first text and he actually asked her out on a date. She said that was really weird and didn’t know why he did that, but she does know him from sports in the past. Long story short, she knew I didn’t like it but for about a week or maybe 10 days, was texting with him fairly consistently until I finally told her that it made me very uncomfortable and it was inappropriate. I have come to find out that she and this guy used to have sex before she and I ever knew each other. This really bothers me because #1 it’s not OK for your GF whom you live with to be texting another guy, regardless if she thinks it’s just harmless conversation, but #2, to be texting a guy that you used have sex with. There is a real chance we may get back together but I am not sure I can ever get over this and that there will be a huge trust issue. Every time she is texting, I am going to feel like it might be him or another guy. I feel like I should tell her this and just completely end it because we had been texting each other all day today, but I just don’t know what to do. Should I just not contact her and not say anything, or should I just say hey, no chance of this thing happening because I just can’t get over it???

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Im 18 and he is 21.. I moved into his house within the first 3 months due to some family issues on my part. His family welcomed me in with open arms and I fell in love. With him and every single person of his family… they are have been more of my family than my own.

Ever since then, we where stuck at the hip. We where best friends and did everything together. Had some amazing vacations.. had some fights.. but ALWAYS got through everything. We both enjoy the same things and we both love eachother VERY VERY much.. heres the catch:

I am young.. I found an amazing paying job.. and found the cutest apartment.. and moved to the other side of town. Hoping he would follow. For the first few months, he was with me still side by side.. bonnie and clyde, haha sounds cliche but its true. we bought 2 kittens and we became a family all in our own. But soon enough the issues started to come about the past 3 months.. I have always been all about his sports, and his number one fan. Lately after he began riding with a new crew of guys who are all sponsored.. its been riding non stop. which I am fine with! I just want time for me… I started to feel like we where falling apart and I was being put on the back burner. One day, he didnt come home and was working on his bike… I broke up with him.. in hopes he would stop me and he didnt. We have been broken up for 2 weeks. I finally went to his house at 3 in the morning un announced last night just to be next to him.. I cant stand not having that feeling of us going to bed and waking up together every day for the past 2 years. Im madly in love.. MADLY.. I would do anything for this man and I do believe he is mine forever. We made love for the first time last night… but there is still this distance.

How do I get him back? How do I go back to normal with the love of my life? 2 weeks has felt like 2 years and hes all I want. Iv written him a letter, texted him, cried to him, taken up hobbies to keep my mind off of it.. but I sit here at work for the next 72 hours straight and thats all I can think about..
He is out riding and all I want is to be there,,,
Where do I go from here? How do I draw him back in? He still loves me… but we are on a "break".. I dont want to let go:(

So my girl and I of 2 years broke up. We lived together for the past year and unfortunately got into the rut of being married without actually being married. It put a ton of pressure on the relationship and this break up was a result of the second of two times she felt like she needed some space. She actually didn’t say as much this time, but I knew something was wrong and I couldn’t take the mental strain anymore so I suggested the break up. She is only 22 and is trying to finish up school so she is young and feels like she wants a little space and needs to be single for a little while. She said she knows she loves me and I know at least a part of her wants to be together but just not right now.

I suggested we at some point get back together and just take it slow and more or less date instead get back into full force relationship. I know she has never cheated or anything like that and this isn’t about a guy, but one thing that has bugged me is that she was basically texting back and forth with a guy for about a week or two. I saw the first text and he actually asked her out on a date. She said that was really weird and didn’t know why he did that, but she does know him from sports in the past. Long story short, she knew I didn’t like it but for about a week or maybe 10 days, was texting with him fairly consistently until I finally told her that it made me very uncomfortable and it was inappropriate. I have come to find out that she and this guy used to have sex before she and I ever knew each other. This really bothers me because #1 it’s not OK for your GF whom you live with to be texting another guy, regardless if she thinks it’s just harmless conversation, but #2, to be texting a guy that you used have sex with. There is a real chance we may get back together but I am not sure I can ever get over this and that there will be a huge trust issue. Every time she is texting, I am going to feel like it might be him or another guy. I feel like I should tell her this and just completely end it because we had been texting each other all day today, but I just don’t know what to do. Should I just not contact her and not say anything, or should I just say hey, no chance of this thing happening because I just can’t get over it???

Once a divorce is completed is there such a thing as a mediator of sorts that works with parents who are incapable of communication due to hostilities. I am asking because my new bro-in-law’s ex-wife attempts to sabotage all of his time with his kids….schedules sports and events, calls them on cells phones frequently, punishes them if they don’t take a daily shower on his time, twists things to make him look like an unfit parent and discuss’ conversations that occurred while they were with dad to get her nose in stuff, schedules special things that they need dad’s permission to go to on his time or he looks like the bad guy that said no…..it just goes on and on. The one kid was freaked out while camping Easter w/e because dad said they were fine to not shower on a day but they knew she would punish them and make it look like dad’s fault on their return. She used to bring her whole family to sporting events and heckle the dad on his w/e time but the courts finally said she wasn’t allowed to go if it wasn’t her w/e.

This women is insane and just try’s be control and sabatoge and couldn’t care less in how it is hurting the kids. I think if they have make all communications go through someone she can be caught with some of her garbage! Is there just a person or child advocate?

What percentage would a father who is a professional athlete have to pay for child support? Supposing that the sports athlete makes million a year? and he is not married and doesnt have any other children. Would this have to be settled in court room with a judge deciding the amount?
What if its in Europe? Spain, to be exact.

They obvioulsy did and never expected the outcome in California. Now that marriage is banned they are crying foul. Maybe they should listen to the people and how we define marriage as a society.

They remind me of people that bet on a ‘guaranteed’ winner in sports. When that team loses, they refuse to pay.

Marriage was never a civil right, and never will be.