Alight guys I need to give you guys a little bit of background for you to understand the situation, but i really need some serious advice on how to deal with this.

So 3 years ago I started dating a guy I had been friends with for a little bit. after about 3 months or so of dating my mom kicked me out at 17, him and his family took me in and let me stay there. soon after that I became pregent with our daughter. we had our problems as most couples do and now 3 years later we broke up. 3 months ago he lost his job and we had to move out of our apartment and I blamed him for that because it felt like he wasn’t trying as hard as he could to provide for his family. I feel like I took out all my stress out on him. and now he’s broken up with me and says that he doesn’t even enjoy spending time with me anymore. Its only been 2 days since the breakup, and those two days a mutual friend of ours was over, we were tying to stay in the same house and I felt like my friend (who happens to be a girl) was spending alot of time and it was making me really uncomfortable. I feel like because of that I couldn’t give him the space I think he needed and now I;m scared the damage is too much. I don’t want to see my family not be together. he says he still loves me and I believe that, i still love him dearly and all i can do right now is try to give him space( the girl has left and I have removed myself and my daughter from the house) he was asking for hoping that maybe he’ll come around after some time to blow off steam. but he tells me the rs’s no hope for us. I cant tell if hes just saying that because the whole situation has upset him or ithat’sts really the truth. Itextremelyly hard for me tbelieveve someone can give up on something that admit to loving and a family. I’m just not sure how to handle the situation.

please guys i’m all ready down I don’t need anyone being rude. I know I need to move ountilll he’s ready to work on things and in time I think I will accept if he doesn’t
we moved in with a mutal friend and had been there there almost a month before this, this girl along with a few other people happened to be there when it happened. the plan was for her to stay for the weekend when she came and to hang out with all of us. however after the breakup she didnt leave his side i tried to explain him that it was just making me feel worse and I was haing a hard time dealing with it beacause of it but it just made it worse beacuse trust, and me giving him soace were basicly why we broke up.

are there any people dating or married out there who are highschool sweethearts that are still together? me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 8 years this october and moved in together about 7 months ago. since we moved in alot has changed in the relationship and were now doing a trial separation thing cause we have been fighting alot about petty things. spending time together is a big one but it got to the point that we could look at each other the wrong way and it would set one of us off. i was 15 when we started dating and he was 16. is there anyone out there that has dated someone out of highschool or college that it has worked or hasnt worked?? people keep telling me that the highschool sweetheart thing fades over time and you simply become different people because you havent dated other people or have not had sex with other people…. any advice or stories??

I’ve been married to my DH for 8 years this September. I’m 28 and he’s 30 so we did get married quite young, but we love each other so much and are very happy together. We have our arguments like all couples, but we’ve never had any serious problems like cheating or anything. We also have a 5 year old son together.

Lately I’ve been feeling ‘dissatisfied’ I guess you could call it. I don’t mean sexually exactly, just like there’s something missing from my life. I have talked to my husband about this and he suggested going back to work part time, as I’ve been staying at home with our son so far. I’ve since started working 2 days a week and realised that I have kind of a crush on one of my (male) co workers. We flirt back and forth, nothing bad, just friendly, and he is so funny and I love talking to him and spending time with him. He often makes jokes to me that if I wasn’t married he would ask me out and even though I have NO intention of ever going through with it, sometimes I fantasize about what it would be like to go out with him.

I don’t understand it. I really, really love my husband. He is an awesome person. And crazily, most of the things that I like most in my co worker are the things I love in my husband. I don’t want to end my marriage, and I will never ever cheat, but at the same time I have been fantasizing about the man I work with. What is wrong with me? How do I get past this?

I’ve been happily married for three years and, for the most part, life has been pretty good in the marriage. However, in the past few months I have discovered that while I have changed maturity-wise and intellectually; my husband remains stagnant. I find that I want to go out and explore the world such as going to cultural events or being outdoors while my husband prefers to stay home and play online games all day during the weekends. For instance, on our last wedding anniversary I wanted to go to a concert and I mentioned that to my husband. His answer was a steadfast no and that I could go by myself since he was not interested in the least. Needless to say I almost took him up on that offer! I am confused by this entire situation and am wondering if the best way to handle this is to go to couples counseling. I also suspect that my husband may be depressed because he never seems to want to go anywhere and really just keeps to himself. Any suggestions?
I actually used to play the same online game and stopped because I realized that I wasn’t really getting that much out of life by spending so much time online.

I am considering counseling because I believe that we need a mediator in because my husband gets defensive when he feels that he is "being attacked" verbally (it’s part of his defense mechanism). I am hoping that a third party can help stave some of those feelings and that we can actually talk about the issues.

I am frustrated because I do love him, but I feel that I have changed a great deal. I am taking online classes to get a Masters degree on top of my normal work week and am trying to improve our lives over all.

I’m increasingly spending time with colleagues from work and am discovering that I miss interacting with other people and discussing academics. I can’t remember the last real conversation that I had with my husband and, believe me, I’ve tried.

When I first met Seba I did not know he was extremely poor. I just figured he was always happy to be in the park with his daughter. But after spending time with him I did find out from his mother of his situation, and I accepted him for it and did not let that determine rather or not I truly care for him. When we go married I was told by many of my friends that I should make him sign a prenuptial. I never once mentioned anything like that to him. I knew that he loved me and I did not want him to think that I put my money before him. I figured that if I would have asked for a prenuptial that would have offended him, thinking that I thought he only wanted my money and not me. We’ve been married for almost 19 years now and I’m sure I made the right choice. I wonder why when its reversed and the men are the ones who have the money make their wives sign a prenuptial before the marriage? It makes me wonder why then are they marrying her?

My fiancé and I are saving up money to hire an attorney to attempt to gain full custody of his 8 year old son from a previous marriage. I love my fiancé and his son, we also have a baby on the way in August and I know the best situation for his son would be to live with us. His ex wife screwed up his credit and somehow got full custody of their son while he was away in the coast guard. They were supposed to get joint custody and he signed some papers before he left, but somehow she got full custody and now he only gets his son every other weekend.

His ex wife is a stripper now, parties a lot, does drugs and is very selfish. She has no interest in spending time with her son or teaching him anything and has even hit him in the past, but wants custody because of the child support she gets (which I’m sure is not spent on her son because we have to buy him everything and spend what little precious time we have with him helping him in school because he’s falling behind, instead of getting to spend quality time doing fun things with him.) Their son doesn’t even live with the ex wife; he lives with her sister and mother. She refuses to stay in contact with my fiancé, we never know where she is and she even tried to move to another state a while back without telling anyone.

I want to know what I need to be doing now in order to have a solid case against his ex and prove she’s an unfit mother when we take her to court. I recently found out that she has not even been claiming the child support she’s been receiving for like 6 months in order to continue to get welfare benefits. His son needs to finish his childhood years in a healthy environment with loving parents and I’m worried that we might not win the case because I know his ex will fight it just because she doesn’t care about anyone other than herself and is a child. Her sister, which is taking care of their son now, is a good person and doesn’t even like her sister so I think she might testify for us in court and I think she’d agree that it would be best for the son to be living with us. We haven’t talked to her about this yet because I don’t want it to get back to the ex wife what we’re planning until we can actually afford to make it happen.

My boyfriend and I broke up, and he still wants to continue spending time with me. I told him that it’s best that we don’t because we need to get over the past and move on e.t.c. We argued over it and he started getting upset so I gave in. We have hung out a few times since and while he is a really awesome guy and I still love his friendship, it’s making things hard for me because it’s reminding me of all the little things that contributed to our break up.

I know that if I tell him that we can’t see each other he will become depressed and sad, because he said that I was his first love and not seeing me is the hardest thing. Should I still tell him that no, I can’t continue to see him like this or what?? I don’t want to hurt or upset him because he is so kind to me.
to "ancient gear master" – stop making childish assumptions. If you have to know, he is really possesive and controlling which destroyed our relationship in the end. Happy now??? Get YOUR facts right before you let YOUR irrelevant problems out on Yahoo answers lol

i need serious help just don’t know where to start!
im trying to get out of danger i dont need ridiculous answers

im married now for 6 months my husband is controlling abusive mentally physically verbally im pregnant and scared for my baby’s life i cry a lot cause we fight and its just bad. hes put his hands on me a lot of times i havent called the cops cause im scared but now im fed up w it and tired he keeps me from doing a lot of things like spending time w my mom my family and i are very close he says that i have duties adn responsibilities we live far from home and visit once in a while and the time that we do we stay at his moms house i dont mind but i want to see my family w out him sometimes cause i mean what is he gana do w a bunch of girls wanting to spend time and get their nails r something done? i feel like hes suffocating me i feel like an object hes manipulative and plays the roll of the husband trying to change the day my baby kicked for the first time i got slapped in the face and pushed and fell to the floor i have a rug burn
i wnt to know how a lawyer will help me?
where do i start looking?
if i leave our place and go w my family will it affect me while filing for divorce or child custody?
hes a marine should i be scared of going to court and fear that the judge will be on his side?
if i have proof of this on text msgs and pics do i have a chance ?
all i want is full custody of my child for the baby’s own safety and supervised visitation and child support.
i dont need anything materialistic out of this i just want to be safe!

I have been married for 9 yrs and we have two very small children (both under the age of 3). For years we have been drifting apart for several reasons (my husband has OCD which caused years of stress, anxiety and hurt feelings, he was controlling, verbally abusive, I closed myself off to him, didn’t communicate, etc). Things came to a boiling point last year and I asked for a separation. My husband begged me to stay, we started marriage counseling, and with help of medication his temperament and mood have improved some. Things of course are not 100% great but there is less stress in the house than before and he has been trying.

Now the problem is me. I can’t seem to get myself back to the place where I feel close to him like a spouse should. I love him as a friend and as the father of my children but I am not in love with him. I like spending time together with him and the kids as family time but I don’t enjoy his company one on one anymore. I don’t want him to touch me, I don’t want to touch him or be intimate. And as much as I try and force myself to do these things with him I just feel empty doing them.

I have told him all this, which hurts him. He doesn’t just want me to be his friend, he wants his spouse back. I don’t blame him. I want my spouse back too. I want to feel those feelings towards him again but I just cant.

Now our house is finally sold and I am at a crossroads at what to do. Should I continue on with him and buy a new house, or should I take this opportunity not having a mortgage and ask for a trial separation? I know living apart will be hard because of the kids but I feel like getting away from him is the only way I will be able to think clearly about all this. I feel that time apart will either make me see how wonderful he really is and how I do love him, or will just confirm my fear that we are better apart.

Should I stay or should I go?
We have been in marriage counseling for over a year now, going every week or every other week.

I as curious if spending time apart is a good thing for a relationship. Does it make you appreciate the person more or can it cause more problems.