to forego unsupervised visitations until the babies are older?

I am willing to let him see the children daily if he’s not unsupervised. Everytime he has ever cared for the babies, even while I bathe, they have gotten physically hurt. He also leaves them dirty and exposes them to the cold, without coats or socks, he loses track of time and lets them stay up until 2 in the morning, he feeds them chilli all day and they get sick. If I ever let him watch after them, he behaves this way and finds it suitable. His parents are very trashy and taught him that this was acceptable childcare. He mocks the standards of a church nursery or the YMCA as being ridiculous.
I documented all of it beginning a year ago in preparation for divorce. I want uncontested.
Tell me some things I might offer him if he’ll agree to always visit them with supervision of another adult.
thank you
I want to tempt him, not legally force him. No child support until unsupervised visits are allowed is the best thing I’bve heard so far.
Remember, I’d like to go the uncontested route, for a plethora of reasons, so courts won’t be involved that way.
I want to get him to agree, sign, and we’ll just file togther. I’m willing to give in efforts to protect them.

ok!!i pay child support and my baby’s mother WILL let me see my child but only at her own home…..she WILL NOT let me take her anywhere..the only reason that she has came up with for me not being able to take her anywhere is…i have brought her back with no shoes on…..and it was cold(had socks)….she is 13 months old, this has been going on since sep pf 2007…never married, do i have any kinda mandatory rights as a father???

My bf pays support for 3 children at 0 a month, plus half daycare for the youngest who is still in daycare, he pays 55 % of all medical costs. He provides insurance on the children. His oldest son moved in with us for lack of his mother doing anything for him. he came to us with holes in his socks! They make the same hourly pay rate, he basically gives her 50 a month after everything is said and done. The 2 younger children are still with her for now and he still has to pay the same amount of support for 2 that he was paying for 3, is this fair?
To cover all the details, she had an affair on him they got divorced and now she cant stand me being in the picture so she uses the children to get back at him. She does not comply with the court order for visitations, his middle son also wants to live with us because he is being shoved to the side for his sister. She treats the 2 younger children totally different, like the princess and the pauper. the girl gets it all and he gets nothing, not even attention. if he is in the middle of a tv show and sister wants the tv, she gets it and he has to stop his show. I dont know if it is normal for parents to show that much favoritism between there children, but I dont do that between my own children and his. His middle son is begging to come live with us, we have to fight with him to take him home after his visits with dad. Dad has begged her for more time with the children and he would still pay her the same support, but she refuses to give him the children any extra time. She has a schedule she lives by, get up 4 :45 am go for a walk, leaving the 10 yr old to watch the 5 yr old for an hour. gets ready for work, kids go to school/daycare, gets off work at 3pm, does not pick children up until 5pm after her second hour long walk of the day and 45 minutes of working on a boflex, she also had a bit of an eating disorder. she only eats salad so the kids get pb & j or soup for dinner, they are ready fr bed by 7:30, so why cant he get his kids more? she doesnt do anything with them.
She always tells the kids that their dad does nothing for them and doesnt help her at all(refer back to the support details) they both make over an hour however thru the divorce he got the house and had to buy a new car, we heat with Oil and god knows the pricing on that these days, her new house is thru work and it is 0 a month ALL UTILITIES PAID, her car is paid for, etc. Yet she could not aford to put decent sock on her sons feet, she interacts with the children about 3 hours a day and wont let him have more time with them. He is thinking of going for partial custody so he can have his children more. Has anyone been in this situation before and what rights does he have to go for this and any advice will be appreciated. He really misses his children and he does help her alot with the kids financially. I dont understand why she puts him down so much and me for that mater when shes the one who had the affair, now its like she uses the children to hurt him because he really loves his kids! I dont understand this at all, even though I am divorced I do not use my children against the other parent, Im just happy that they are involved, isnt that the important thing. I think having a father is just as essential to a child as having a mother. In this case, unless she focuses more of her time on her children instead of leaving them in daycare until closing, why cant he get them instead of them sitting in a daycare, it isnt fair. Its not just hurting him either its really hurting their children as well. ADVICE PLEASE!!!