This guy and I are roomates. Sex to him is about feeling close and intimate. He really loves touching..even if it doesn’t lead to sex.
He basically wants to be emotionally close. I’m not ready for that. Also, he basically wants me to sleep with him in the same bed with him most nights..no sex involved. I like my space and don’t really want to sleep with him in his bed every night.

Last night I refused to touch him and sleep with him in his bed.
He then told me that he we will never touch eachother again.

Can someone explain this?

to sleep in the same bed with your boyfriend. Even if you don’t do anything?

My husband and I got married two years ago. Six months after we got married, his mother threaten to kill herself (depression) so we have to moved from California to Florida to take care of her. The problem is my husband got a job right away but me after more than a year of searching I still cant find any employment. My mother in law never talks to me, she just sleep, eat, sit and watch tv but ignores me most of the time. My husband doesn’t want to take her to nursing home. For me in the house with a depressed person and the new environment and no employment really affected me both mentally, physically and emotionally. I feel I am falling into depression also. My self esteem is low and I feel sad all the time. I feel the only way to get back to my old self is when I start working. I was thinking of moving back to california, so I can work again. My husband is a good man but I feel right now his main priority is his mother. We live that we are more roommates than a couple. We never had sex for 6 months now because his mother sleep in the couch in front of our room. Do trial separation ever work or we will just ended up separated? Thanks

Even though my husband of 12 yrs made me sign a prenuptial agreement before we married/he did his grocery shopping and I did mine. We were married for 9 years and He did not sleep with me for 3 yrs before I had an affair. I left him for 4 months after I left town to find work b/c due to health reasons, I lost my job and I found it difficult to find another one. My husband was placing a lot of pressure on me to find a job and to supply us insurance. My children lived out of town and I found a job while visiting with them. I met my employer and we fell in love. After 4 months my husband promised me that he would do many things differently. He tore up the prenuptial and bought me a nice car in which he paid cash for. But he has stalked me for the past 2 1/2 years and I cannot stand the pressure any more of how he is treating me. I went back to him b/c I felt that it was the right thing to do. My boyfriend is sweet and loving and wants me back. I have decided to go back to him.

Don’t even bother answering this, unless you are going to be serious.. becuase i am upset enough, without immiture people pushing my buttons..

So everything was fine and dandy.. and i was supposed to stay at his house and he was like oh well i am with my friends and i was like oh well will you be home then for me to sleep over still and he was like no i am not going to go home early to hang out with you.. so i argued for a little and then i was just like ya know im done with this .. so i stoppd talking to him and i was waiting for him to initate the convo.. and about a week passed and he didn’t bother talking to me. I was talking to his sister and she was like well you know he was hanging out with his friend and some girll.. may i add some girl that he was sexually active with before me.. so thats when i broke. I called him and was like hey, and he said hey. And i was like why havn’t you bothered texting or calling.. and he said idk i didn’t feel like it.. and i was like oh.. and i was like well ya know i know you have been hanging out with that girl and he was like so.. and i was like yea.. that is like a low blow if i am sitting around waiting for you to call me and you are out with other girls.. and he was like oh and i was like well are we together or not and he was like idk what i want.. and i was like i don’t understand how you can say that because i didn’t even do anything and now all a suddon you don’t know what you want.. and he was like well i got to go i am at my friends moms house.. and then we were texting and what not.. and he told me he don’t think that he wants to be with me right now.. and i was like well it aint fair for me to be waiting around.. so if we aint together now we aint together ever again and he was like i don’t know what i want.. he said that it don’t matter how much he ditches me(which happens way more then that 1 time) he said it is his life and i need to leave him live it however the eff he wants to.. and i was just like what do i even say to that.. he said i complain all the time.. he used to live with me and we spent every day and min together.. and then about a year ago he moved out and it was still us seeing eachother at least 3 times a week and everything was fine.. but then he stopped wanting to come to my house at all and i didn’t want to be at his house every night.. and he was like if i don’t stay over u b* if i hang with my friends instead of you you b* its my life leave me live it however i want.. what do i even do or say to that… i mean he don’t know if he wants to be together or apart.. so what do i do or think… i am a wreck and he is out with his friends with no fears… the thing is he is being really immiture.. he don’t like his job.. because he don’t want to grow up and work.. and he don’t want to commit to me anymore i guess because he wants to be like a little kid and never enter adult hood he just wants to be with his friends playing video games.. and i guess i am to serious for him.. please any advice of what to do,or say to him.. my head is spinning

My husband and i have been married for 6 months. When we got married he was a full time student on a VA loan, and other than the weekends spent most of his time at the library. He is no longer taking classes because he took too long to register and all the classes he needed were already filled for the semester. So he is at home, taking our 1st grader to school and picking him up in the afternoon, and casually looking for work. So I’m working an 8 hr job M-F, i have to cook dinner most nights, because he gets offended when our son doesn’t like his cooking because he makes vegetables.Lol! I cant seem to make him understand that the least he could do is clean up the house! This weekend i spent an hour and cleaned up all of the living spaces (our house is kinda small, and i try to keep it relatively clean). Monday he slept all day, but made dinner that night… Tuesday he slept most of the day, then reheated Mondays dinner…. and he sleep on Wednesday and then took our son to church that night. When i got home tuesday i wasn’t feeling well and was in bed by 6 and then out of the house again by 7:45 the next morning. Wednesday on my lunch i went groceries shopping, and then dropped of the groceries at the house. When i walked in the house it was trashed, food on the floor on the counters, dinner still in the pot on the stove, coffee grounds on the counter, clothes all over the living room that he was folding, and because he was working on it, i didn’t ask him to pick anything up or clean anything. When i got home after work he was asleep and nothing had been touched, including the groceries that i had asked him to put away. Luckily we have a duplex and our neighbors have another young child so our son was at there house playing. This is not the first time this has happened, he keeps telling me that i need to tell him what needs to be done, and i have tried. I have made a list, i have asked him every day to do the dishes and just because i didn’t ask him this week, he didn’t think it needed to be done! I wish that he would understand that no matter how old i get i will never like messes everywhere. Id love him just pick it up because he loves me and appreciates that im working all day so i can pay all the bills with my income. Which isn’t much…. How do i make him understand that i feel like I have a teenager and what i want is a husband!

Because they are women. They truly did have a good reason. Men on the other hand, are pigs, and should know better. Now why is that?
Women cheat and everyone says oh its okay the guy wasn’t doing his part, he didn’t make her feel loved, he didn’t sleep with her enough and in divorce courts the judge says cheating has nothing to do with division of assets.
But when a guy cheats its apparently his own fault, he must of ruined the relationship somehow on his own,

Women complain about it ALOT more than men do. On TV, when this happens, it’s viewed as perfectly OK for the woman to raise hell on him whether it be physcially, emotional, mental, verbal, or even start destroying his personal possessions. Even though this had nothing to do with cheating, but rather it instead a man forgetting his wedding anniversary, do you remember that movie "Cop and a Half"? This short, stubby guy named Bobo forgets his anniversary with his wife and she throws things out the window on him and throws up all his baseball cards, yet it’s viewed as OK, even by the cop played by Burt Reynolds before the couple gets back together minutes later. BUT, if she cheats on him, it seems like everyone thinks he’s supposed to be OK with it, and try to find oout what he did wrong to make her cheat on him. Why can’t men start destorying her personal possessions or raising hell on her in some sort of way? If it’s OK for women to do this if she finds out, then what’s wrong with it being vice versa??? Maybe she wasn’t giving him enough sex, and wasn’t giving him enough affection, then surely that’s justified, RIGHT? Just like vice versa???

I just don’t understand, a relationship is suppose to be a partnership, yet in all relationships it seems its always whatever the women wants, if the guy can’t do it then he is automatically a horrible person, but is not allowed to ask his wife of anything apparently. If the guy wants sex and the women doesn’t he is a pig and needs to control himself, but if a women wants sex and the guy doesn’t then oh something is wrong with him and her friends say to leave him.
What is up with that?

ok, so, this is gonna be long, but i need help. i make 90% of the money that comes into our household. some of it, is not legally made. but me and my husband do both work. i pay 100% of all the bills, utilities, gas, toiletrees, etc. my husband, pays for none of it. he usually spends at least half of his check on drugs, whether it weed, or pills. not to mention, my husband has 2 children, by 2 different women. he is supposed to pay child support, but he doesnt. he hasnt made a payment on either one since february. i have even given him money on more than one occasion to pay it, and he has spent it on himself instead. he says because i make so much money, i should pay for everything. and that i should just hand him over money for whatever he wants. he says a marriage should be 50/50. but he only says that when it benefits him. like, i should give him 50% of my money, and he should keep all of his. he gets mad because of the amount of support he has to pay, and i tell him, a lot of men have to get multiple jobs, thats what happens when you have kids to take care of. i forgot to mention, im also 14 weeks pregnant. i have been sick, my doc took me off work for 2 weeks, and he gets mad cause he still has to work, even though he only works less than 20 hours a week. and he calls me lazy, even though i cant help that i am tired ALL THE TIME!! he tells me that "his ex wasn’t lazy when she was pregnant!" which just hurts. because i get tired of being compared to her!! not to mention, he has cheated on me, at least 5 times that i know of. and everytime it happens, it’s my fault. i either made him so mad he cheated, i didnt sleep with him enough so he went elsewhere, i didnt show him enough attention, its always me that drove him to it. but he has hurt me, and screamed at me, and even threw things at me, since ive been pregnant, and have i went out and cheated?? no. of course not. i feel like, if i didnt have any money, he wouldnt be here. he says he loves me, but acts like this. just like now, i have no sex drive, im sick, and pregnant, and of course he gets mad cause im not in the mood. and yes, sometimes i am a bitch, but i feel as if it is 100% justified. i just need help on what to do. please give me advice!

My husband and I have been married for two years and have a 9 month old son. In two years, we have managed to experience situtations that couples normally experience throughout the years. He’s cheated and been abusive verbally and we argue constantly. We don’t even sleep in the same room anymore. We don’t hug or kiss or anything. Its like were glorified roommates. It’s starting to hit me that my marriage is dying. The saddest part is that it doesn’t hurt because I love him. It hurts because we’ve been together for so long and built a family. I don’t love him as a husband anymore, only as the father of my son. But I want to find love in him again and maybe start over. How can I help save my marriage? Is it too late? Or is it better if we split up? I wanna do what’s best for my son and family.

I’m so nauseated all day, I’m irritable, and I have lower back pain that makes going to sleep uncomfortable.

I got married last month and we’ve been having unprotected sex since. The first day of my last period was June 15, 2010. My mom thinks I’m making up symptoms to be pregnant, but I really am nauseous and it feels so gross especially after I eat.

I haven’t gotten my period yet, but I took a pregnancy test 3 days ago and it was negative.