I entered into "contractual alimony" 3 years ago when my husband,and I, divorced. This was actually property division. My attorney neglected to explain, I didn’t have much recourse for obtaining these payments if my X "appeared bankrupt," and persuaded me to agree to these terms, because of my mounting legal fees (my Xhusband so generously took care of all legal fees related to the divorce.)
We live in Texas and had a very large estate, which, somehow, the vast majority of, was never revealed by my attorneys. I feared at the time of divorce he would do exactly what has now happened. He owns his own business in Texas and throughout the US, as well as worldwide. My xhusband feared I would be asking for a review of the divorce based on fraud. He managed to defraud me out of a huge portion of assets, scattered worldwide. Within the US, assets were strategically placed under the companies he supplies in materials. As part of a network buyer program. He has worked these last 3 years on moving all assets, (pleading a fraudulent bankruptcy) within the US, out of the country "umbrella’d" under an overseas trust we created long ago..during our marriage. (This trust was set up by his German aunt, who has since died.)
He has worked diligently on expanding his overseas business, and arranging numerous new trusts under the one that existed during our marriage (he claimed the trust when his aunt passed, and does not have the ability to close it. Only create more trusts underneath of it. I now know this was done during our seperation.) Obviously, my attorney neglected to ever unveil our "real net worth" during the divorce. These last 3 years he has carefully managed to appear as though he has nearly no assets in the US, or what he does have are "protected assets" under Texas law. He appears totally "busted." Needless to say, I was supposed to be paid over many years for our arranged "contractual alimony," (property division,) and he has stopped all payments. I am struggling at the moment to get a judgment. I am hopeful to gain this at my next court hearing. But, this judgment wonn’t do me a lot of good, unless, I know where to collect overseas assets. I have gained a lot of evidence of these overseas assets, but, I have exhausted my savings in a custody battle. As well as, legal fees related to the divorce. Of course, I always planned to get back in the workforce myself. But, after the turmoil inflicted on myself, and my children (as a result of his abusive ways, and the length of time involved in our agonizing divorce,) I planned these life changes around the "contractual alimony" agreement. I am speaking with various legal professionals, but if anyone would have something to offer I would greatly appreciate it…..Much gratitude:)

A friend of mine got divorced, from an abusive husband, within this last year. She is in her thirties with 2 kids, after the initial seperation, she moved in with her parents. She is still so frighted of her ex-husband that she will not allow herself to move out of her parents house. She is concerned that this whole fear thing is going to ruin her newest relationship, that has been going on for months now. I try to be a support system but she has just recently confided in ny about this matter. I will continue to be here for her. I have been down that road before myself; I know how difficult things can get! I just don’t know the area too well so that she could look for addition support. SHe can’t afford counselling either. Anyway,she does not have internet access so I told her I would research it for her, while she searches the phone books.Also, she already has a restraining order too.

So awhile back I planned a trip with my entire family to go to Vegas for my brothers bday. Since then me and my wife have filed for seperation and we are amidst a custody battle of our son. I remember y attorney saying something about once paperwork is filed I am not allowed to leave state nor my wife. Did he mean myself? Or both my child and myself? Does this mean I should cancel my Vegas trip?

Someone mentioned to me the other day that there are strong contrasts between prenuptial agreements in different countries.

Whilst prenuptial agreements are literally set in stone in places like the US – e.g. the cannot really be contested come a seperation; in the UK, they hold nowhere near as much weight and are most certainly up for contention at a later date.

Does this have any truth to it?
Is there any protection available for British Men in divorce cases nowadays?

[Note: Please don't get me wrong - whilst this question can come across quite selfish in nature to start with, I am only referring to male-protection in cases like divorces that happen after a year or two, but the assets still get split down the middle.

I have no problems with 50:50 seperations in the case of long marriages - often the woman could have been out of work for decades to look after children, and so it is only fair - I refer simply to 'hit and run' marriages.]

What is the cheapest and quickest way to get divorced after 8 years seperation and the other party lives in another country. I live in Florida and don’t have alot of money. I have not had any contact with the other party for the past 3 years and have no way of contacting her. I would like to marry the woman I am with but I am still married.

Me and my wife has been married for 4 years and we have a nice little priencess. From last year i am studying outside USA. And on this christmas i will be back home in US. I found that my wife is doing cyber and having relationship with her x bf whom she dated before our marriage. this is very painful. what should I do? whenever i ask her about this on phone she says that she love me as she loved me before .. but her internet profile says something else. I am messed up .. In general, we had a nice marriage or i will say a perfect marriage …no fighting, good sex, and a good and helthy life. but she ruined everything, may be the seperation from me had made us to do like this .. but if i can be loyal to her and dont do anything then why she cant? If i divorce her then is it wise according to Bible? Because she cheated on-line by doing cyber sex.

What u guys think ? Kindly help. Should i end this relationship? because i cant be her second choice. I just cant Please help

Seperation is the hero’s call to adventure

Transformation is the hero’s road of trials

Return is the hero returns to where he came from with a valuable lesson or message

(Sorry this is due tomorrow and i got stuck with this movie and iv never seen it :/)

I am looking into getting a divorce or a seperation (which ever is more cheaper) any advice on what to expect

My wife told me a little over a month and a week ago we were seperating because she needs her space to find herself. We have had very little time together since we bought our house since we have had many indefinate house guests, her friend and her three children, her sister and our niece twice, and her mother for over a year. Plus since her mother lived with us all kinds of unannounced visits from other family. She had Gastric Bypass which I was beside her the whole way and she has said I love her the same as I did before the surgery which she was glad for. During a good portion of this she also did not work. She did however start drinking and going to a local bar. She decided to get a job when the money started getting tight then she got another to keep her nursing liecense. Then she started going out more and more. She then tells me her mom is moving out so naturally I’m happy to be able to spend time with my wife again until she tells me she is moving out soon after.
I asked if we could try counseling to which she eventually replied she had been seeing a therapist for two months. She said she still loves me but doesn’t know who she is surprisingly her family was on my side saying after all the things we’d been through I was beside her through it all and she was wrong for acting this way. So she withdrew from her family, friends and from me. She moved out and told me to move on, I did not. I want nothing more than to work on our marriage and end our seperation. Well after much argueing and accusations on her sideshe has agreed to go to counseling. What should I expect and how many couples that go to counseling actually work things out and stay married? Only serious answers please.

I have only been married for 3 years and have 2 children ages 2 & 4. My children are great but my marriage on the other hand is horrible. My husband is 30 and likes to drink which is oneof our problems cause he drinks to much. Since we have been married that has been one of our issues. There has been times where he will srtart an arguement with me just so he can go out. He has left on a friday and not come home til a sunday or monday and then on monday he says he’s sorry and going to go to counseling wether it’s for anger, drinking, ADD, whqtever he can think of and it usually because I tell him i want a seperation and him out of the house, so it’s like he uses a ploy and says whatever will work to keep him in the house and my stupidity falls for it. I have tried marriage counseling the one time he never showed up and i was there by myself, 6 months later he went again but it was only once and he said he doesn’t need someone who tells him the book way of marriage. If that issue is not enough i have caught him secrectly hanging out with other girls who he states are only his friends but wiull leave me when we are with our family to secretly hang out with these girls and makes it look like something is goin on with them. when we argue he will constantly call me names to pput me down and i pretty much can’t do anything right, i dont; keep house clean enough, don;t pay bills right, don’t parent the kids correctly, don’t work enough, don’t make enough money, there is always something i am not doing right and then he turns around and tells me he doesn’t do anything wrong in our marriage and that i am crazy and need help but when i say i will go to a counselor he says no he doesn’t want me to. he only spends an average of mon-friday 10 hours with our girls and not much time on weekends his weekends are consumed with drinking. he tells me there is nothing wrong with him he is like any other man in america. but this is really starting to take a toll on me and i feel like i am going to go crazy with the name calling mind games. I have had only one night out without him and the girls since my first fdaughter was born who is now 4, and he was sending me endless mean texts the entire night just arguing and calling me names, i never get to go out cause i know it will cause a fight. Please I need all the help i can get right now and advice from everyone. i don’t know what keeps me in this marriage, i never wanted to be in a divorce but not sure if it is the best thing either. i need to do what is best for me and my children….
Thank you for all your responses. I think i needed to hear from others outside my life what to do that i already know in my heart what to do. I am re-living my mothers life so i know first hand the on how the cycle repeats itself. When he is good he is good but i can’t base my life on hoping for good weeks and dont need to always have on break out argument make things better for 2 weeks then right back to drinking all weekend. I am not a drinker and only drink once every 3 months if that and to me my drinking is normal and his is to much