I was just wondering about this recently and wonder what you all think.

One other thing I was wondering is; some people say that prenups aren’t necessarily a sign of mistrust in the relationship. Some feel that it genuinely helps, and if the partner involved agrees with it, it means they really love their future husband or wife.

I think it’s a sign of mistrust for this reason; with a prenup, if the couple feels that they may divorce in the future, then they don’t trust that they will be fair with splitting the money, etc, with each other. Why marry someone that you feel may cut throat you after a divorce? That doesn’t sound like trust. Shouldn’t one marry someone they know would never do that to them because they really do love and care for them?

If not, shouldn’t everyone just get long term girlfriend/boyfriends with preparations to trade spouses like trading cars after 10 or 15 years?
Thanks for all of your well thought out answers. In response, you’ve all generally stated that Prenup’s are good and not a sign of mistrust. I think Prenup’s or marrage isn’t for everyone. I think it all depends on the individual and what they want in life. I think it takes a very strong bond for a couple to know they will never divorce or need a prenup. A bond with the same strength that some parents have for their children for life..the bond of knowing you’ll always be family and will never harm one another in any way including finacially or physically, etc. Not all families have that bond, some do and they are lucky. Clearly many spouses don’t have that bond, but some do, and it takes a lot to know you even have that bond to begin with. Some couples try to act like they have that bond when they clearly don’t, and get divorced. It’s probably the most difficult thing to obtain in life, which is why I think many people may find it unbelievable to achieve.

Just my thoughts.

I really need advice on this one.I live in Canada Alberta and i signed a prenutial agreement thinking we were getting married now if there is no wedding does this still stand in court we have been living together for 6 yrs and he treats me like a partner in a busines not like we are in a relationship at all.
Please help dont know which way to turn anymore

I know this question may sound silly and a little selfish but if you were going to couples counseling with your partner to try to move your relationship on because he cheated and can’t stop lying about stupid things then would you still pay half the fees? Just that in one way i look at it like is our relationship and i could have just left if i wanted to but the other way is that i love this man and want things to work but it was him who ruined everything, him who said he would do anything to make it right, and him who suggested this so should i just leave it for him to pay. it’s 40 pounds per session every other week. We are both in a position to afford it. It’s just i’ve always been a giver and hate to be selfish.

Thanks for any thoughts.

Also i know many of you will object that i stayed with him but…. well you know lol

My in laws have proposed to help my husband & I purchase a home by them paying for it out right & having us pay them back instead of a bank. Mainly so we can save on home owners insurancce etc… They want to buy the house & put it in there name with my husband as a co-owner incase something where to happen to them. It sounds like a great idea but I’m not comfortable with my name not being on the deed as they are not giving us the home but rather buying it & having us pay them back so I feel it’s a loan. The house also needs ALOT of work & we’d be paying to fix it up. This is a big investment & I feel that I am not protected in all of this should something happen. the inlaws tell me it’s a marital asset but it seems to me that it would be an inheritance & if something where to ever happen I would have no rights. It’s already caused friction in our relationship when I bring it up. Need advice!!!! Has anyone done anything like this before? We live in FL.

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months today. I caught him flirting with his ex online pretty heavily. He didnt want to break up, I just was sick of his the lying and I dont think he has a lot of self control. I miss him so much. I am sitting her wondering if I made the right decision. We spent all our free time together…that is why it hurt so bad when I found instant messages he saved on his desktop becuase he had to be slipping that in when I was either shopping in route to his place or something like that. I really miss him alot..I think I made the right decision but I am wondering if I should try again. He mentioned that he has managed to screw up every relationship he has been in because he did stupid things and he is just trying to protect hmself. Do you think couples counseling would be good? What would you do if you were I?

Hears my case; I would like to add my name to my husbands bank account but I worry child support will take his money. I have a child from a previous relationship which I am surrendering my rights over to her aunt. After words if I add my name to his account will child support take his money for my arrears? No current child support.

I was wondering because my child shouldnt have to suffer the shock of a custody battle, but I still want the upper hand just in case mommy get scandless again.
I am not trying to use my child as a tool I am tired of her mother displaying a Godlike complex and holding my daughter for ransom but I dont want to destroy the relationship that she has with her mother and i would like to develop a relationship without the threat of not being able to see her again.
if i must justify

I would like some input. This guy and I have been dating on and off for years. We recently started dating more seriously. He mentioned that we had a closed relationship, but we never spend any time together. He is a single father of four and just started a business. Should it bother me that we never do anything together?

According to Colorado State Law – if a couple is married, and the wife is named beneficiary on a life insurance policy, and the couple divorces – but the policy is awarded to her in the divorce decree – does it still go to her if she has re-married upon his death – or does it default to his children? The policy was paid into for 30 yrs while they were married, and she is listed as the sole beneficiary. The insurance company is trying to fight it saying that the form that lists her as beneficiary lists her relationship to him as "spouse", which she is no longer. Thank you for your help

We were in a relationship for 10 months, and he broke-up with me out of the blue. He said he didnt want a girlfriend right now but when he did it would be me. I wasnt sad even tho he did it threw a text msg. we still talk and everything but it’s been like 2 months and he hasnt asked me back out yet. should i go ahead and move on? O yeah i’m in the 10th grade.