My wife and I just recently agreed upon a trial separation. I could go into a lot of detail about it but i’ll just ask my question. She is the one who wanted to separate because she says she wasn’t happy with the way I treated her and my son. I don’t hit her, demean her, drink too much, stay out too late, and never cheat on her. It’s just some little issues that I think could had been worked out by trying but she said she has been unhappy for a long time with me. She never let me know this so I could try and fix it. I thought she was always happy. Anyways she has moved out and she told me she wasn’t in love with me anymore. She also told me that she woke up one morning and just felt like she would be happier on her own with her and just the baby. I ask her if she thinks the separation will help. And she says she doesn’t know and I have also asked her if she wants to get a divorce and she says no. She moved back home with her parents and took the child. She is trying to make a living back at home living with her parents so she can get her own place and just raise our son on her own. I help her out with child support since she is not in the same state anymore. I want us to work out especially for our child but just the same I want us to work out because I think we still have something together even though she does not see it.

My questions are:
1. How am I to know what she wants?
2. How long should I wait before moving on?
3. What are some questions I should ask her to see if she does want to get back besides the regular "will we ever get back together?"
4. We have been separated for about a month now. What should my next step be in my situation.

Thanks for the help.

I was having a discussion with a friend of mines and came up with these songs that were hits during their time but couldn’t think of any others that actively condone or promote infidelity and were widespread hits!

Ooops, got another one, "Everything I Miss At Home" by Cherelle!

Please…R&B only! Can anyone help us add to the list?

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Hi guys… I have been out of the "dating game" for some time now and recently accepted Jesus into my heart and became a Christian. I would like to find others in my area who share the same faith as I. Which is the best Christian dating Site on the web currently? Bless you

My marriage has been tested with a lot of life challenges, sexual inconsistency, and loss of affection. Both of our personalities have changed over the years and greatly after the birth of our first child (now 13 months). It wasn’t until mid-August we actually had a huge argument, and 2 since. I have never seen this side of my husband and the rage in him during disagreements. In addition, third parties have intervened and accused him of drugs, steroids, or an affair… all of which there is no evidence of, but some red flags that have made me wonder at times.
I have entered counseling figuring I should get a jump in case the "d" word invades our relationship – at which time I will have to be committed to an insane asylum!
I have had 3 appointments and have made great strides with a lot of soul searching. I am excited to reclaim my life and get back to the person I was before we were married and for the first few years of our marriage. He has decided to come to a session with me this evening and I am feeling anxious….
I am not confrontational, and my patience is wearing thin, so I am just making myself a little crazy about tonight.
If you have had any success with marriage (couples) counseling please share suggestions/feedback.
Thank you!

Lately my boyfriend and I have become more intimate and when he fingers me I don’t moan, i just breathe loudly and say things like "that feels really good" and "yeah right there". Partly its because im really nervous because I have never done that with anyone, but I know im ready because we waiting a really long time. But he always asks me if it feels good and if Im okay. Do you think its bad to be quiet and not moan, and guys would this bother you?

I have been in a relationship for 5 yrs. It has been really great but lately I have just felt the change. Soon, I want to settle down and start thinking about marriage, a family and when it comes up he says that is something he wants but not now, understandable because we are 25 & 26, what’s the rush? This weekend he was acting strange towards me and I took it like he didn’t want me around and when I asked him what it was all about he pulled the whole "I need guy time" thing which is cool and not a problem, I have never held him back from doing anything he wanted to do… ever. Later in the conversation it came out "we are just not the same people, we want different things and I don’t want to let you down" he went on to say that he has never been on his own since he moved from his parents house to his ex-gf’s house then in with me. Is a trial separation in order? Is this just a phase? Is he scared of the marriage? Should I stop wasting my time with someone who doesn’t want what I do?

My office is having a "Valentine’s Snack Day" and I have no idea what to bring…any and all suggestions are greatly appreciated! Thanks!
recipes are greatly appreciated. =)

It seems to me that a lot of people here, and even in person, are quick to give marriage advice, even when they are divorced. If I were divorced, I would shut my mouth or say something like, "I am the wrong person to ask." I have only known one man to do this. Obviously, if you are divorced, sorry, but your marriage failed and your advice will probably match. I find most divorced people are bitter or not very forgiving, generally stubborn. All traits that led them to divorce that most do not end up fixing.

Please dont answer if your gonna say "after your married".

Because that is completely false. Sex is an act of love between a couple whether their dating or married.

i just became engaged.i’m 33 never been married or have children,worked all my life at a good job.i have multible stocks,bonds,and savings accounts that = over 100k.my bf is divorced with a child a huge debt(30k) from his exwife with no other savings.he is a very "devoted" dad(what his son whats, his son gets) and has already told me his son is his 1st priority and he will never love me as much as his son.now add a very controling,money loving exwife to the picture that guilts my bf into giving her anything she wants.he already gave her more money/personal property than the courts ordered and continues to do so.i have played with the idea of a prenup with my bf but hes not for. its a trust thing he said.if i pushed it he might do it but it would damage our relationship.i love my bf and he loves me but i will allways be second to his son and if push came to shove i don’t know what would happen.what can i do to protect my money other than a prenup?