I was in a three-and-a-half year live-in relationship with my ex-girlfriend; the breakup was mutual. We remained on good terms after I moved interstate. I have been completely destroyed since the breakup and I have no idea when I’ll start feeling okay again. It’s been eight months and I still cry every day. I walk, play squash, practise tai chi, see a psychologist, don’t drink or do drugs. She has a new boyfriend now and I recently decided to sever contact as it’s too painful.

Okay here’s the deal…. my divorce has been going on for almost 2 years now. The only agreement filed with the courts is our separation agreement which outlines everything form visitation to the marital assets. It’s basically the bulk of the divorce papers but my lawyer is dragging it out and that’s a whole nother story…. anyway my question is this:

My ex is very incosistent with his visitation. He’ll stick to it for a couple of a months then stop taking them on certain days (he gets every other weekend and every other Monday- the Monday falls when it’s my weekend if that makes sense). This has been going on since we have been separated. I offer him more parenting time when I ask him if he wants to keep them when I’m working and he sent me a text saying he doesn’t have to take them any other days than his visitation days. Legally he’s right but from a parental standpoint I would think he would want to take them more if he really wanted to be an active parent. He calls our children and openly puts my oldest child in the middle (He’ll tell him "well tell your MOTHER I said….. " or "It’s your mom’s fault…" – fill in the blanks with whatever you’d like. I don’t do that and as angry as it makes me I don’t talk badly about him to my kids. I really try not to address him at all unless need be. At this point I try not to speak to my ex at any point. He calls to speak to the kids and I hang up the phone after they are finished. I took my middle son to a psychologist and the doctor basically said my son’s behavior problems are caused by the way my ex treated us all from the very beginning (it was an abusive situation and he did go to jail for domestic battery). What he saw from the beginning of his life span has caused emotional damage. Basically enough is enough and I cannot have any further damage done to my kids. I want to move 2000 miles away for a new job, a new start and hopefully establish a more stable environment for my kids. My separation agreement does not specify how far I can move. The only law in plac eis the state law which is I can move anywhere in the state, but if I want to leave the state I have to petition the court for a removal and show why it’s in the best interests of my children to move. I have begun gathering statistical evidence about schools and all of that but what else should I gather? Crime statsitics? Or everything in comparison to wher ei live now? I know for a fact I’m moving into a better school district.

I realize this move would mess up his already inconsistent visitation but I am willing to try to do a visitation that would allow him more time throughout the year than he currently has available to him now as well as transportation costs to get them back home, liberal web visitation, a reduction of child support if need be. I just need to get away from here and away from teh things he does to my children. This isn’t healthy for anyone and I’m sick of seeing them hurt.

I have primary physical custody we only have joint legal and he shows little interest in their schooling or doctor’s visits as is. I know I need to find an attorney but after the mess my divorce atty has caused I’m almost ready to try this pro se. Any input? And please save the "you shouldn’t take them away from their father" stuff- when he causes emotional damage to my children that they don’t deserve the environment needs to change and if moving away helps alleviate that I’m going to do it.

I want to be a psychologist with atleast a Master’s and then hopefully PhD.
But I want to be a marriage counselor.

How much would a marriage counselor with that level of edu. get paid approximately?

nyc here.

My husband and I are going to attend marriage counseling. We are both Christians and are leaning more toward going to a pastor than a psychologist, but I just wanted some other opinions on the matter. Thanks

See my previous ? for more info:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvsXr.PYHfFJwolB.uquo3bty6IX?qid=20070520201211AArmguh

So I finally was able to get my boyfriend to make us a couples’ counseling appt which is free thru his work. We’ve been to 5 weekly sessions and I feel that we are getting nowhere! Instead of working on concrete problems (he’s irresponsible and it stresses me out) we spend half the session doing silly worksheets like "the 10 myths of love" and talking about how bad our childhoods were. Worse, I feel like whenever I do bring up an actual problem, the counselor turns it around and explains that my bf acts this way because he’s still acting out rebellion towards his alcoholic father. I think she’s enabling my bf to act like a child instead of taking responsibility for his actions in the present! Is it a case of "you get what you pay for" or is this how counseling really works? What should I say? Our last "freebie" appt is Fri.
No, I am far from perfect. In fact, I think each of us has some issues that would benefit from some individual counseling. However, we don’t even talk about either one of our problems!!! The counselor (she’s not a psychologist) spends a good 10 minutes each session searching thru her file cabinet for little questionaires and worksheets to give us. She also starts the sessions at least 20 minutes late every time. I mean, I know we’re not paying for this but if I wanted to sit in her office and take quizzes, I would buy a Cosmo at the supermarket. My bf doesn’t really seem to agree – he thinks we need to give it more time and he doesn’t want to rock the boat. I also think he’s secretly relieved that she’s letting him get off so easy.

I want to be a Psychologist. I’ve rarely seen Counseling Psychology when researching. It’s always Clinical. What is the big difference between the two? And how long would i have to go to school? People tell me different things.

I am considering a career as a relationship/marriage expert, and I want to figure out the best course of action to do so. I assume that a Bachelor’s degree in psychology would be the first step, but don’t know where to go from there. I know that in order to be a practicing psychologist, usually at least a Masters is required, but would like some help figuring all of this out. If someone could give me the course of action that they think is best for me, I would appreciate it.

Thanks ahead of time!

I’m in my mid twenties, living in the U.S, and I used to see a psychologist and psychiatrist for my depression, alcoholism, and Borderline Personality disorder. I can’t afford it anymore, so I am looking for someone who can do this in their spare time, or who can refer me to a good site with professionals or students who are practicing.
I am interested particularly in ONLINE sessions.

I want to be a psychologist eventually and I would like to be one solely for children of divorce. Is that possible?

I just started therapy (individual) with a systemic psychologist because i have depression, how effective is it? how long will it take?