Would you ask your fiance to sign a prenup?

I was just wondering about this recently and wonder what you all think.

One other thing I was wondering is; some people say that prenups aren’t necessarily a sign of mistrust in the relationship. Some feel that it genuinely helps, and if the partner involved agrees with it, it means they really love their future husband or wife.

I think it’s a sign of mistrust for this reason; with a prenup, if the couple feels that they may divorce in the future, then they don’t trust that they will be fair with splitting the money, etc, with each other. Why marry someone that you feel may cut throat you after a divorce? That doesn’t sound like trust. Shouldn’t one marry someone they know would never do that to them because they really do love and care for them?

If not, shouldn’t everyone just get long term girlfriend/boyfriends with preparations to trade spouses like trading cars after 10 or 15 years?
Thanks for all of your well thought out answers. In response, you’ve all generally stated that Prenup’s are good and not a sign of mistrust. I think Prenup’s or marrage isn’t for everyone. I think it all depends on the individual and what they want in life. I think it takes a very strong bond for a couple to know they will never divorce or need a prenup. A bond with the same strength that some parents have for their children for life..the bond of knowing you’ll always be family and will never harm one another in any way including finacially or physically, etc. Not all families have that bond, some do and they are lucky. Clearly many spouses don’t have that bond, but some do, and it takes a lot to know you even have that bond to begin with. Some couples try to act like they have that bond when they clearly don’t, and get divorced. It’s probably the most difficult thing to obtain in life, which is why I think many people may find it unbelievable to achieve.

Just my thoughts.

I don’t understand what’s the big deal? I see 99%of the couples that divorce hating each other bitterness and unhappiness, the woman trying to rape the guy in court and take the children and the money, even if she doesn’t need it just for spite…why don’t men have more prenups when they get married, do they fear that women would not sign them and dump them? if so isn’t that a signt that she was after your money and after your hart so is actually better that she left because you are not going to be victimized? women outhere…would you sign a prenup?

I just want to know who can request a prenup? Can a bank request a prenup if the person getting married has assets and open loans or is this solely the decision of the person to marry?

I don’t understand what’s the big deal? I see 99%of the couples that divorce hating each other bitterness and unhappiness, the woman trying to rape the guy in court and take the children and the money, even if she doesn’t need it just for spite…why don’t men have more prenups when they get married, do they fear that women would not sign them and dump them? if so isn’t that a signt that she was after your money and after your hart so is actually better that she left because you are not going to be victimized? women outhere…would you sign a prenup?

i have a great job and a big bank account and i don’t like being with women that like my money

so i want to be with this lady and i asked her if she would sign a prenup! she said no so i got and told her to get in the car i was taking her home! we were at dinner!

I don’t understand what’s the big deal? I see 99%of the couples that divorce hating each other bitterness and unhappiness, the woman trying to rape the guy in court and take the children and the money, even if she doesn’t need it just for spite…why don’t men have more prenups when they get married, do they fear that women would not sign them and dump them? if so isn’t that a signt that she was after your money and after your hart so is actually better that she left because you are not going to be victimized? women outhere…would you sign a prenup?

did donald trump have a prenup with ivanna???? if he did why did she get so much out of him when they got divorced

i know what a prenup is but what if you dont have time to get one and you want something after you get married? is there something like that? thanks in advance

and, believe it or not, they sometimes include a clause that guarantees the man a romp in the sack a certain number of times per week. Given that this is legal and documented consent, is the man therefore entitled to that number of romps per week without additional consent? If he is denied consent by his wife (we’ll assume that marriage itself isn’t an act of consent), which consent takes precedence? Can she claim rape when he has documented consent in the form of a prenuptial agreement?
Optimus Prime: It’s not a matter of human rights, but rather of consent. Granting consent in a contract doesn’t violate the arbitrary, often-shifting definition of "human rights". Given that she is legally bound by the contract to give consent, does that superecede any subsequent denial?
Ellesar W: It’s not entirely hypothetical as this is an increasingly popular prenuptial clause. I think it’s safe to assume that a woman wouldn’t be in the mood at least one time during their marriage. And that begs the question as to whether or not any sex that occurs at that point is consentual or whether it is rape.
Cloudcity CC: But what about the consent explicitely given in the prenuptial agreement? Does that not count?
Optimus Prime: Yes, my question hinges on that key word you gave: "immediate". Laws are not written such that consent must be "immediate" and I doubt that whichever of the numerous "human rights" documents you’re citing specifies that consent must be immediate. In that case I’m describing, there is pre-existing consent in the form of a prenuptial agreement, and a subsequent denial. Does indian-giving apply to consent?
Jack: I have a prenup (though it doesn’t include the clause I specify) and it is very common practice these days.
Tracey: I’m merely challenging the absurd feminist contentions that virtually all sex, unless the woman repeatedly says "yes" which each thrust, constitutes rape.
Optimus Prime: Can you cite such a law?
The Planet: I don’t disagree and I think such a clause dehumanizes the spouse whom you are supposed to love and support until death. But they nonetheless do exist, and I was curious as to what people thought this meant as far as consent. Although I believe that the act of marriage itself is consent.
Optimus Prime: I’m afraid that I can’t just take you word that one consent supercedes the other. Can you cite an actual law?