children & divorce and communications issues?
Having trouble communicating with daughters 12,15 & 18. I’ve been living by myself for the last year. Told I ask to many questions. Just trying to find out whats new in thier lives. Am I out of line ? Asked the 15 y.o. "how her sister was tonight" on the phone and she got lippy. 12 y.o. says she glad we didn’t get 50/50 parenting time over attemping to help her with homework. 18 y.o. suggests maybe everybody is stressed, final orders is 3 days away after over year of lawyers etc. 18 y.o. says I ask same questions"like how is everybody". I learned from that to talk about something else. still feel alot of resentment or something. Suggestions are welcome !
I didn’t and don’t want a divorce. Parental evaluator lists 4 causes of failed marriage. Communications, peri-menipause,my drinking and failing health of our mothers(both requiring lots of help (stress).
I made some poor choices drinking to cope with stress and physically assualted wife once in long, long term marriage. I’m accoutable for my choices and kids see I got help for anger, depression and alcohol (haven’t drank in 13 months, no desire). Wife just gave up, won’t even talk about reconcilliation. Justs wants divorce and vindictive and greedy. Not feeling self pity any longer, I changed because, I WAS WRONG and still love her. I know this isn’t the right thing to do, it’s out of my control. Just have faith some day she’ll talk and maybe. Any comments now ? Just want the best for kids and wife.
