My ex-boyfriend and I decided to try couples counseling to try to work things out. Before I get into that, he always told me that I needed god in my life. He would try to get me to go to church but I always refused because mainly I’m not that religious.So, today he finally got a hold of this counseling group and he wanted me pick out a counselor with him. He presents this Christians Counseling brochure of different Christian Counselors. He said this is the only place he could find. What a liar, it pissed me off, he knows that I’m not Christian, not that religious, and I think its a biased approach of thearapy. I told him I would try it,(to see his reaction) then he put down his head and had this smirk on his face, thats what set me off. I felt he was trying to trap me into a Christians approach to life and he did that on purpose. I’m still upset but I feel bad about not giving it a chance and in a way I feel I should stand my ground and not give in to this point of view. Am I wrong?

Hello..
Could you please give me advice on force marriage? My cousin has been forced to arranged marriage and she has done everything in her power to tell her parents her point of view.

So, please could you give me some strong points that she could say to her mum.

Our culture is Bengali/asian.

Thanks and no hate please(racism)

Ok so let me first start off by saying I’m not even in a relationship of any kind currently, I am just looking at this from a logical point of view.

That being said, I cannot understand why some people would be so offended that their partner asks for a prenuptial agreement. The argument is made that their partner does not trust them and does not truly love them since they are asking for a prenuptial agreement.

However, in my opinion, I do not see the harm in signing a prenup. If you truly loved your partner you would sign it because if you did not sign it then it seems to me that YOU would be the one who is worried the marriage may not last for life, and you want half the assets should things go south. If you were really sure that you were going to be married to your partner for life, then the prenuptial agreement will never have to come into play, will it? That addresses the issue of true love concerning prenups. Just because your partner asks you to sign a prenup does not mean he does not love you.

Secondly, addressing the issue of trust. I can somewhat understand why the partner asked to sign a prenup may be a little offended and feel distrusted. However, really think about how our society is today. Our divorce rate is FIFTY percent… 50%! How many of those couples out of that 50% do you think trusted each other completely and were sure that they would never divorce? I assure you, there were quite a few couples in that statistic where that was the case. So even if you completely trust someone, things can happen, things can change, nothing is certain in life. So why is it such a big deal that someone would want a prenuptial agreement just incase something unexpected happened? This means that they would not be screwed, it would be a fair split of the assets as drawn up in the agreement.

It’s not like we’re in the age where only men can work, those days are long past. If a divorce occurs, both partners are ABLE to take care of themselves afterwards. Men and women are now both equal in the eyes of society. If your partner asks you for a prenup it DOES not mean that they do not love you… that they do not trust you… or that they expect the marriage to fail. You can never predict what will happen in life down the road, so why would you not be smart and protect yourself?
I don’t know trusting your partner is all fine and good…But as I said before the divorce rate is 50%… so you have a 1 in 2 chance of divorcing… those odds are not really that great to me. So if you are wealthy you stand to lose half of your wealth which really hurts for a 1 in 2 chance… it’s a big gamble. Even if you feel you trust that person completely anything could happen. So in a gambling point of view you have a 1 in 2 chance to either find eternal love… or lose half of your assets. Why do that when you could have a 0% chance to lose half of your assets but still a 1 in 2 chance to find eternal love?
@GaryB if you have to keep bending over backwards to compromise until you break, in my opinion that is not a happy relationship. Sometimes it just happens that people marry and they find out they are actually incompatible. Oftentimes this happens when people rush into marriage. Why keep compromising and stay in a marriage you’re unhappy in when you can just divorce, move on with your life, and find someone you ARE happy with instead of staying in a miserable relationship out of obligation?

I have identical twin daughters. They were born on march 21 , 1984. One of them was born at 9:10 am and the other at 9:30 am at aundh ( which is near pune ). Both of them are doing good in their occupation. I wanted to know when they will marry ?

I am really eager in knowing the answer. I truly respect astrologers point of view and would like to know only the same,

I have just found out that i am pregnant, 6 weeks and 4 days. I am a muslim and i am from a strict muslim background (pakistani parents) i have just found out that i am pregnant, i was considering on having an abortion, as the grounds for me to have that is that it is against islam to have a child outside marriage, my parents will kill me, also even though i am in a relationship with my boyfriend it is not exactly stable and i also suffer abuse from him, he said to me if i didn’t get rid of it, he’d punch my stomach. I dont know what to do? i need an islamic point of view, i’ve commited a sin, but if Allah didn’t want me to have a baby he wouldn’t have given me one. Is this a test from Allah? Am i eligible to have an abortion in Islam? Is it against Islam if i do decide to have the baby but then give it up for adoption to a muslim family? I need help with options, i have 2 weeks to decide what i need to do. Please muslim brothers and sisters, i know i have commited a sin, but i need help and advice from a muslim point of view.

I know a guy who was married 7 years, no kids, both people worked. She was a bitch on wheels, he met someone new and asked for a divorce. She got the house and he has been paying alimony for longer than the marriage.

In a world where women claim equality I really don’t get what he even owed her beyond half the assets they aquired dring their marrage.

Anyone have a good explanation from a feminist point of view?
During the marrage she actually made more money than he did.

I have a wonderful girlfriend- I foresee us getting married one day. But I am thinking that I would like for her to sign and agree to a prenup agreement. You see, I want to have money saved up for the car of my dreams. I have already told her that part.

I don’t intend nor hope that the marriage fails- but it could happen. You just never know. Hence, I want to know for sure that she wouldn’t try to take away that money that I save up, if we ever decided to go our separate ways. Does that make sense?

I am reasonably sure that an attorney would be able to find out about my secret account- certainly if she informed him/her of its existence. I hope and pray that this never happens- but I can’t predict the future.

So, I feel reluctant to talk to my sweetheart about this. If I try to see things from her point of view, I can understand why it may bother her if I wanted to have a prenup. It may even suggest that I feel that we may not stay together forever.

What do you think?

If the mother gets a very well-paying job on the other side of the country and the husband refuses to move can he prevent the mother from taking the job and moving with the children? Divorce is most likely imminent.

Thank you for your answers.
For those of you who are saying I’m selfish, you don’t know anything about what is going on or what is involved here. I understand your point of view, believe me, and I would make absolutely sure that my girls would see their father on a regular basis. This job would be something very special and meaningful, especially as they get older. The husband is being selfish by expecting his wife to give up a life-long goal, one she’s been working at for at least 20 years, just because he doesn’t want to move. He is a very selfish person in general, BUT a very good father and I would never want to take my children away from him. I’d have to weigh the good with bad and even IF I get this job (it’s a VERY competitive field…but I do stand a reasonable chance of winning) it would even start until this time next year. It would be a very tough decision but it would be kind of similar to getting a job as an NFL football player and not taking it because you couldn’t move.

My significant other and I are both dealing with feelings of insecurity and jealousy over one another, which automatically leads us to the subject of infidelity. Are there any spiritual or new age books that help with this subject? I’m not exactly interested in a religious point-of-view, but more of a self-help or psychological book that unravels the egotism behind these topics.

I’m conducting research about racism and would appreciate PROFESSIONAL input, not a point of view. My topic is how certain variables of someones upbringing will effect their point of view on interracial marriage. What I need is a list of these variables that create a persons point of view on the topic. I know this is a million dollar question but would appreciate Any input. Thank you