I had a affair behind my wife’s back. My ex-mistress has filed for child support and medical support (1 year old son will be on my health insurance). Paternity test came back positive. Is there any way to keep the child support and medical support a secret from my wife? I’m not ready to tell her yet!

My fiance and his ex have a daughter together. My fiance has never had rights to his daughter because the mother won’t let him see her and his name isn’t on the birth certificate. We filed for shared parenting and a paternity test is scheduled for April 29th. The magistrate guaranteed that he will receive his rights once she has that test. At the court date she was not at all impressed with his ex and made it clear to her. As a result the ex has deleted all her internet contact (email, myspace, facebook) and refuses to talk to my fiance. He tried to talk to her boyfriend to get her messages, but her boyfriend just blocked him. So now, apparently, she wants the contact to be between me and her boyfriend. Which makes no sense, but thats beside the point. I’ve found an attorney who will draft the plan for a low fee and my fiance and I are offering to pay the entire fee if his ex and her boyfriend will cooperate in agreeing to the terms. That way we won’t have mediation or more court dates. We can just give it to the magistrate, tell her we’ve all agreed, and then file it. That will be the end. I think that this is more than fair of us to do, but I don’t know if they’ll agree to it or not. How would you expect someone to react in this situation? Will they take it badly, or do you think they’ll see reason and take advantage of our offer?
None of us are financially well off, but his daughter means a lot so thats why we’re offering to pay the whole fee.

Second, we know its his daughter. Everyone knows its his daughter, but we have to get it legally established.
I agree, I don’t think that these discussions should be taking place between myself and her boyfriend! I even mentioned that at the end of my last email. I asked that she reply to my fiance and said that I think the current form of communication is ridiculous. However, my fiance is an incredibly loving man. He NEVER wanted to be out of his daughter’s life and he’ll do anything to be her daddy. We’re both working insane hours to the point that we barely see each other to make sure that we can pay our bills and afford all these fees for his daughter.