I really want to date this girl but i have to talk to her parents about it first because she isn’t really allowed to date guys but she has before. I just need some advice on how to start the conversation on dating their daughter. Please help!

I was just wondering about this recently and wonder what you all think.

One other thing I was wondering is; some people say that prenups aren’t necessarily a sign of mistrust in the relationship. Some feel that it genuinely helps, and if the partner involved agrees with it, it means they really love their future husband or wife.

I think it’s a sign of mistrust for this reason; with a prenup, if the couple feels that they may divorce in the future, then they don’t trust that they will be fair with splitting the money, etc, with each other. Why marry someone that you feel may cut throat you after a divorce? That doesn’t sound like trust. Shouldn’t one marry someone they know would never do that to them because they really do love and care for them?

If not, shouldn’t everyone just get long term girlfriend/boyfriends with preparations to trade spouses like trading cars after 10 or 15 years?
Thanks for all of your well thought out answers. In response, you’ve all generally stated that Prenup’s are good and not a sign of mistrust. I think Prenup’s or marrage isn’t for everyone. I think it all depends on the individual and what they want in life. I think it takes a very strong bond for a couple to know they will never divorce or need a prenup. A bond with the same strength that some parents have for their children for life..the bond of knowing you’ll always be family and will never harm one another in any way including finacially or physically, etc. Not all families have that bond, some do and they are lucky. Clearly many spouses don’t have that bond, but some do, and it takes a lot to know you even have that bond to begin with. Some couples try to act like they have that bond when they clearly don’t, and get divorced. It’s probably the most difficult thing to obtain in life, which is why I think many people may find it unbelievable to achieve.

Just my thoughts.

which absolutely rip into women ? Or would the parents situation not affect your decision either way ?

I’m dating this one girl. I really love her soo much. The only problem is that we will never get to see eachother. Its not like she lives in a different state or anything. Its just that my parents won’t let me see her. I’m only 14 so I can’t drive yet, soon though. Do you think semi-longdistance relationships work?? and how often should you call your girl friend?? i mean if you call her to much there won’t be anything to talk about and if you call her to little she might think that you don’t like her. Any ideas?

My ex wife and I are tryng to get divorced, long story short there was a family law standing pretrial order saying a bunch of stuff about not being able to get rid of stuff, add debts…etc. However, she went and moved down to south florida with her parents where she lied and said she was a single person and was put on the mortgage with her parents. Now I know she is not a "single" person as we are not divorced yet becasue she wont file necssary papers..but isnt that contempt..I mean she went out and got in on this debt with her parents..which I have no idea how she got approved since she does not work! Meanwhile I am stuck waiting on a divorce hearng in Aug. to deal with the fact nothing is being done. Should I have my lawyer file contempt charges? How do I notify anyone of her fraud saying she was a single person… technically that is a marital asset right?
All Iknow is after we went to mediation I we agreed would pay her 2 years back child support and let her dad adopt our child.. that was the last time I saw her. She packed up and moved with her parents. I looked it up on the internet where her and her parents are on the mortgage… but only the parents are on the deed. But the family law order said neither her nor I could incur unreasonalbe or unnecessary debts until the divorce in final. I would not be out for blood, but I went to mediation last year and once I agreed to let her dad adopt the child between us and she split town, her and he lawyer have iled to file necessary papers so we can get divorced and her lawyer will not communicate with mine… so it is back to court and I KNOW she will not be at the hearing in Aug. She isnt going to drive 8 hours for that. I am sure she will come up with some lame excuse and just have it drug out longer.

My wife and I just recently agreed upon a trial separation. I could go into a lot of detail about it but i’ll just ask my question. She is the one who wanted to separate because she says she wasn’t happy with the way I treated her and my son. I don’t hit her, demean her, drink too much, stay out too late, and never cheat on her. It’s just some little issues that I think could had been worked out by trying but she said she has been unhappy for a long time with me. She never let me know this so I could try and fix it. I thought she was always happy. Anyways she has moved out and she told me she wasn’t in love with me anymore. She also told me that she woke up one morning and just felt like she would be happier on her own with her and just the baby. I ask her if she thinks the separation will help. And she says she doesn’t know and I have also asked her if she wants to get a divorce and she says no. She moved back home with her parents and took the child. She is trying to make a living back at home living with her parents so she can get her own place and just raise our son on her own. I help her out with child support since she is not in the same state anymore. I want us to work out especially for our child but just the same I want us to work out because I think we still have something together even though she does not see it.

My questions are:
1. How am I to know what she wants?
2. How long should I wait before moving on?
3. What are some questions I should ask her to see if she does want to get back besides the regular "will we ever get back together?"
4. We have been separated for about a month now. What should my next step be in my situation.

Thanks for the help.

Ok I am asking this question for a friend. The mother and father are still legally married but the father is in jail. The mother has a live in b/f and another child now. She has abandoned the daughter of the child and is planning on giving custody away to her estranged husbands parents whom are not fit to be raising the child. Can the father do anything? They are still married and he is due to get out of jail in about a year.

I know a guy who is really sweet and a good person. I’d be interested in dating him. He has a HS education. However, he’s also a volunteer fireman, volunteer EMT, coaches soccer for little kids, and goes to church twice a week. It’s really important to me to find someone who enjoys giving back to the community and who has God in their life.

However, my parents insist that I don’t date anyone without at least a Bachelor’s degree. Ideally, they’d like me to date only doctors. What do you think?

I’m 13 years old my dad has mentaly and physicaly abused me but he is very clever and doesnt leave evidense. My mom drinks alot and comes home drunk and i dont eat hardly at all. My bestfriend’s mom wants to help me divorce my parents. By the way my parents are divorced and i have a younger sibiling who lives with my dad but she is perfectly fine i am not. I need help please help me!

Is it pretty normal for a grown adult to deal with depression and anger brought on by a parents divorce?

There is more to it then just the divorce. My sister (31yr) and I (24yr) caught my father (55yr) cheating on my mother. The women he was with was 35yr who has kids the same age as some of my nieces and nephews. He has moved this women into our house, spoils her children, and doesn’t really give us kids (5 kids) the time of day anymore. He told one of his confidants that if it wasn’t for my sister and I, he could still be married and have his mistress. He hasn’t tried to contact me in a while. I know he has a lot of anger for my sister because she got my mother a lawyer and blames a lot of things on her. I really don’t know how to deal with this situation. I feel that we have been replaced. ( Side story, My father had a child before i was born. He knew about him but never claimed him. I found out when i was 18 and my other sister and I found him. This forgotten child is now part our lives) So, I know my dad is capable of ignoring his kids. I never thought this would happen to me since i thought i shared a pretty good relationship with him.