Okay here’s the deal…. my divorce has been going on for almost 2 years now. The only agreement filed with the courts is our separation agreement which outlines everything form visitation to the marital assets. It’s basically the bulk of the divorce papers but my lawyer is dragging it out and that’s a whole nother story…. anyway my question is this:

My ex is very incosistent with his visitation. He’ll stick to it for a couple of a months then stop taking them on certain days (he gets every other weekend and every other Monday- the Monday falls when it’s my weekend if that makes sense). This has been going on since we have been separated. I offer him more parenting time when I ask him if he wants to keep them when I’m working and he sent me a text saying he doesn’t have to take them any other days than his visitation days. Legally he’s right but from a parental standpoint I would think he would want to take them more if he really wanted to be an active parent. He calls our children and openly puts my oldest child in the middle (He’ll tell him "well tell your MOTHER I said….. " or "It’s your mom’s fault…" – fill in the blanks with whatever you’d like. I don’t do that and as angry as it makes me I don’t talk badly about him to my kids. I really try not to address him at all unless need be. At this point I try not to speak to my ex at any point. He calls to speak to the kids and I hang up the phone after they are finished. I took my middle son to a psychologist and the doctor basically said my son’s behavior problems are caused by the way my ex treated us all from the very beginning (it was an abusive situation and he did go to jail for domestic battery). What he saw from the beginning of his life span has caused emotional damage. Basically enough is enough and I cannot have any further damage done to my kids. I want to move 2000 miles away for a new job, a new start and hopefully establish a more stable environment for my kids. My separation agreement does not specify how far I can move. The only law in plac eis the state law which is I can move anywhere in the state, but if I want to leave the state I have to petition the court for a removal and show why it’s in the best interests of my children to move. I have begun gathering statistical evidence about schools and all of that but what else should I gather? Crime statsitics? Or everything in comparison to wher ei live now? I know for a fact I’m moving into a better school district.

I realize this move would mess up his already inconsistent visitation but I am willing to try to do a visitation that would allow him more time throughout the year than he currently has available to him now as well as transportation costs to get them back home, liberal web visitation, a reduction of child support if need be. I just need to get away from here and away from teh things he does to my children. This isn’t healthy for anyone and I’m sick of seeing them hurt.

I have primary physical custody we only have joint legal and he shows little interest in their schooling or doctor’s visits as is. I know I need to find an attorney but after the mess my divorce atty has caused I’m almost ready to try this pro se. Any input? And please save the "you shouldn’t take them away from their father" stuff- when he causes emotional damage to my children that they don’t deserve the environment needs to change and if moving away helps alleviate that I’m going to do it.

My ex-husband and I have a temporary custody agreement that states that we are to each have them 182.5 nights a year yet he hasn’t fulfilled his parenting time for the past 2 years. We are also in disagreement about which school our children should go to next year. I am fed up with it all and want to change the custody agreement. What is the best option(s) for me and/or should I ask for sole custody?

My boyfriend has joint custody, parenting time is totally 50/50. I think he is currently overpaying child support seeing that he has his kids half of the time. He pays their insurance too. Does anyone know where I could find a joint child support calculator? All of them I am finding are only for custodial and non-custodial parents, not joint.

How can I word a statement verifying that a parent (friend) has custody of his child more than 50% time?
Just to clarify, this is NOT for IRS…this is for DES so the child can get health insurance and this is all that DES asked for until the father can provide the paperwork from the courts (his parenting time just changed recently)!

I need someone experienced with modification of parenting time, child support and post decree mediation.

Right now my ex and I have joint legal custody, and we have a 50/50 parenting time plan. Our daughter is 3 yrs old. I am the custodial parent. I was wondering, when she is 5 and getting ready to start kindergarten, what could happen with the custody order? Her father and I live in two different counties. So I guess I’m looking for advice from someone who has gone through this before. I don’t think we will agree on the school choice, so what does the court look at to decide?

I’m about to go to court in Indiana to get visitation of my daughters. I know that the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines call for 7 weeks over the summer for DISTANT PARENTING (my case), but does anyone have any experience with that? Do they typically award all seven weeks? Or is it safe to assume that they usually award a little less? Anyone with experience in Indiana that can offer help would be greatly appreciated.

Back in 2003 I was contacted by Dakota County of Minnesota to take a paternity test to determine child support obligations for the child in question. I was determined to be the father and met with an attorney that help set up mediations for me and the mother to determine an amount of 0/month for support. Medical was not included in that amount… I was ordered to take care of that as well.

I have never missed a payment and the amount is now up to 0/month with the cost of living adjustments and medical is now included. I have been out of work and on unemployment for over a year now and the amount is really starting to make things very difficult for me.

Since the law of 2007 that states that both parents’ income is to be factored in the basic child support obligation, would anyone know if it would be worth having this amount recalculated? The mother currently makes about ,000/year. When I do get a job, it will more than likely be for a similar amount of money.

Please help

Thank you!

(I have used the child support calculator that the Department of Human Services provide on their website, but it seems unclear as it says I would only be obligated to pay ?? That doesn’t seem right.)

The mother has 100% of the parenting time and we have joint custody.

Having trouble communicating with daughters 12,15 & 18. I’ve been living by myself for the last year. Told I ask to many questions. Just trying to find out whats new in thier lives. Am I out of line ? Asked the 15 y.o. "how her sister was tonight" on the phone and she got lippy. 12 y.o. says she glad we didn’t get 50/50 parenting time over attemping to help her with homework. 18 y.o. suggests maybe everybody is stressed, final orders is 3 days away after over year of lawyers etc. 18 y.o. says I ask same questions"like how is everybody". I learned from that to talk about something else. still feel alot of resentment or something. Suggestions are welcome !
I didn’t and don’t want a divorce. Parental evaluator lists 4 causes of failed marriage. Communications, peri-menipause,my drinking and failing health of our mothers(both requiring lots of help (stress).
I made some poor choices drinking to cope with stress and physically assualted wife once in long, long term marriage. I’m accoutable for my choices and kids see I got help for anger, depression and alcohol (haven’t drank in 13 months, no desire). Wife just gave up, won’t even talk about reconcilliation. Justs wants divorce and vindictive and greedy. Not feeling self pity any longer, I changed because, I WAS WRONG and still love her. I know this isn’t the right thing to do, it’s out of my control. Just have faith some day she’ll talk and maybe. Any comments now ? Just want the best for kids and wife.

I need a mediator to help the other parent and I resolve specific issues, such as him denying my parenting time for no reason at all, he keeps my kids from talking to me and me contacting them, and he has not been following the parenting plan. So, I have to get him to come to mediation and I need to address this to him in writing so I need to put a appropriate and professional letter together to suggest mediation and for him to sign and check mark which day works best for him and to send it back to me & the mediator. Any suggestions?