My Fiancee is cool- but she annoys me a lot-

for example, right now, she is threatening to dunk me into a vat of mayonnaise. I have a severe mayonnaise phobia. LOL.

Okay, please understand, my Fiancee makes me laugh many times by making fun of my OCD- but she is a very sweet girl, and is compassionate and supportive of me, especially regarding my mental illness.

In any event, she wants to get married immediately. I don’t.

We have a lot of issues with trust, money, finances, etc. I know that she and I need counseling, which, by the way, we are starting next week with a Christian counselor for couples.

I told my Fiancee that we have to get counseling FIRST before getting married. She disagrees, and says that it won’t make any difference if we go ahead and get married THEN get counseling. I believe it would behoove us to get counseling first.

Would things be more complicated if we get married first, before having gotten counseling? Why or why not?

My friend got hrt on the job, to the point of where he was almost paralyzed. His wife has become very shrewish and its a very sad long story, They have a 5 year old son and, my friend has no money for an attorney , the shrewish wife has a small trust and so has gotten an attorney. My friend has no support system ( i live several states away myself) and he needs help.He CANNOT afford a lawyer. Legal aid and all that have been a bust, he is in debt and living on his disability from work. He was talking about suicide as the wife is a control freak and going to make sure he never sees the kid except ON HER TERMS (she is not a well woman has some OCD and control issues BIG TIME it seems like ) My friend bought them homes and supported them by driving a truck and she is going to charge that he was never home, but he was supporting them. he never fooled around. they live in Texas. we have searched the internet for support groups and legal help to no avai
The woman badmouths my firend to the little 5 year old son, has said Daddy never bought you your toys that she did,, but of course my friend was on the road and the wife got the PAYCHECK to take the boy to buy toys. its breking my heart and I am worried, my friend is a good guy and needs some serious help all he wants is fair divorce so he can see his son and have a healthy relationship with the boy but the wife is not letting that happen she seens to need to destroy my friend. she was very belittleing of my friend in front of the child and even my friends family that went to Texas to visit him.
emotionally involved?, my friend is suffering and I an trying to help as much as I can by finding resources. you are an idiot

I would like to become a counseling psychologist. Specifically focusing on addiction, OCD, and other tendencies. Would my best bet be to major in the general Psychology or should I look for more majors in Counseling Psychology.

Would it be okay to major in general psychology? Would this give me more options, yet still allow me to lean more towards counseling rather than clinical?
I also am not really interested in doing it within a school, like being a "school counselor" or anything of that nature.

& also, what type of counseling do they offer? I just want individual couseling, maybe something for depression, anxiety, & OCD but I don’t have money or insurance. Thank You.

I have been married for 9 yrs and we have two very small children (both under the age of 3). For years we have been drifting apart for several reasons (my husband has OCD which caused years of stress, anxiety and hurt feelings, he was controlling, verbally abusive, I closed myself off to him, didn’t communicate, etc). Things came to a boiling point last year and I asked for a separation. My husband begged me to stay, we started marriage counseling, and with help of medication his temperament and mood have improved some. Things of course are not 100% great but there is less stress in the house than before and he has been trying.

Now the problem is me. I can’t seem to get myself back to the place where I feel close to him like a spouse should. I love him as a friend and as the father of my children but I am not in love with him. I like spending time together with him and the kids as family time but I don’t enjoy his company one on one anymore. I don’t want him to touch me, I don’t want to touch him or be intimate. And as much as I try and force myself to do these things with him I just feel empty doing them.

I have told him all this, which hurts him. He doesn’t just want me to be his friend, he wants his spouse back. I don’t blame him. I want my spouse back too. I want to feel those feelings towards him again but I just cant.

Now our house is finally sold and I am at a crossroads at what to do. Should I continue on with him and buy a new house, or should I take this opportunity not having a mortgage and ask for a trial separation? I know living apart will be hard because of the kids but I feel like getting away from him is the only way I will be able to think clearly about all this. I feel that time apart will either make me see how wonderful he really is and how I do love him, or will just confirm my fear that we are better apart.

Should I stay or should I go?
We have been in marriage counseling for over a year now, going every week or every other week.

I am looking to find a chat group for people with anxiety disorder, depression, adhd, ocd, and similar disorders. Ive been doing some searching but I can’t seem to find many chat rooms that are active and have more than 3 people in them. Im basically looking to chat with people who have similar issues and discuss medications and such.
Any help would be grateful. I go to a psych already, just looking for people in the similar "mind state" that i’m in that I can chat with in real time.