I was just wondering about this recently and wonder what you all think.

One other thing I was wondering is; some people say that prenups aren’t necessarily a sign of mistrust in the relationship. Some feel that it genuinely helps, and if the partner involved agrees with it, it means they really love their future husband or wife.

I think it’s a sign of mistrust for this reason; with a prenup, if the couple feels that they may divorce in the future, then they don’t trust that they will be fair with splitting the money, etc, with each other. Why marry someone that you feel may cut throat you after a divorce? That doesn’t sound like trust. Shouldn’t one marry someone they know would never do that to them because they really do love and care for them?

If not, shouldn’t everyone just get long term girlfriend/boyfriends with preparations to trade spouses like trading cars after 10 or 15 years?
Thanks for all of your well thought out answers. In response, you’ve all generally stated that Prenup’s are good and not a sign of mistrust. I think Prenup’s or marrage isn’t for everyone. I think it all depends on the individual and what they want in life. I think it takes a very strong bond for a couple to know they will never divorce or need a prenup. A bond with the same strength that some parents have for their children for life..the bond of knowing you’ll always be family and will never harm one another in any way including finacially or physically, etc. Not all families have that bond, some do and they are lucky. Clearly many spouses don’t have that bond, but some do, and it takes a lot to know you even have that bond to begin with. Some couples try to act like they have that bond when they clearly don’t, and get divorced. It’s probably the most difficult thing to obtain in life, which is why I think many people may find it unbelievable to achieve.

Just my thoughts.

why or why not? If you don’t, I’m forced to assume you’re just in it for the money?

Would you guard your money from everyone else’s desires for your money?

There are countless dating sites that are preying on innocent people with fake profiles or false messages or anything just to get one’s money. Does anyone know of a good and HONEST dating site, hopefully free?

she has no job and no money he might try to kick her out of the house and sell it. can he kick her out after she signs the papers? or cant she live ther till the house sells. she has no money for a divorce lowyer.

I don’t understand what’s the big deal? I see 99%of the couples that divorce hating each other bitterness and unhappiness, the woman trying to rape the guy in court and take the children and the money, even if she doesn’t need it just for spite…why don’t men have more prenups when they get married, do they fear that women would not sign them and dump them? if so isn’t that a signt that she was after your money and after your hart so is actually better that she left because you are not going to be victimized? women outhere…would you sign a prenup?

Hears my case; I would like to add my name to my husbands bank account but I worry child support will take his money. I have a child from a previous relationship which I am surrendering my rights over to her aunt. After words if I add my name to his account will child support take his money for my arrears? No current child support.

I know that a lot of men and women here have completely different views.

I have tried twice to be the very best husband that I could be. The first time, I failed miserably. No cheating, we just weren’t made for each other, but I still could have been a better husband,

The second time around, I did everything that I could do to be a great husband, and this time, I turned into a paycheck, nothing more, nothing less, and I divorced her.

How many people, if you were dating, the romance (and I do mean romance, not sex), was great, loved each other’s company, would find the proposition of a prenuptial contract insulting?

I ask because I’m just not going to hang myself out to dry financially again. I make very good money, but I earn every cent of it the hard way.

What do you think?

What forms do I file to take him back to court to collect the money he owes me and has failed to pay?

I have seen a lot of support groups (online and off) for non-custodial parents who feel they are getting ripped off by the system. Is anyone aware of support groups for custodial parents who are trying their best, but not collecting any support from the non-custodial parent to help take care of their child. I am referring to a middle-class hard working divorced custodial parent and an irresponsible, spiteful, lazy non-custodial parent who has blatantly refused to pay, but there seem to be NO CONSEQUENCES for his actions. I know that in the end he will lose, but that isn’t helping to pay for food, clothes and childcare. My thought is that I should not try to "reinvent the wheel" if someone else has figured out a good way to get the system to help them. Besides, I always thought that more could be accomplished when you have more people putting their heads together.

Thanks!
I have been working closely with the child support agency – they said that they are back-logged almost one year on reviewing criminal child support cases. He falls into that category. The only other option is to hire an attorney out of state & take him into court with no guarantee that the judge will take a hard position with him. I am trying to find a way to get what the court has ordered by working within the system – impossible to lay out a lot of money that you already don’t have with no guarantee you’ll get it back. An attorney has been involved. The support group approach is more to find out how other people may have succeeded. It’s sort of a last ditch effort…
Driver’s license suspension – no big deal to him. This has happened more times than I can count. He makes one payment, gets the license back and quits his job. If he spent as much time and effort working as he does ditching child support, he’d be very comfortable financially.