We are Oregon residents and plaintiff discovered that prenuptial agreement states that wife is not entitled to extra $ for marital assets just the set amount that was written? Even though he signed and agreed to this settlement, he is angry he and his attorney (who wrote the original pre-nup) missed this detail. So he feels like he is getting screwed out of extra $ and is quite mad about it. Now a malpractice suit is being investigated on his attorney. Will this money be subtracted from my settlement? Or will his attorney’s insurance cover her mistake, or will it just stay as it is because we both signed? It was submitted to courts for Judge signature but I’m pretty sure was not signed by judge yet. Any knowledge on this?
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I don’t intend to get a divorce. But my husband is immature when it comes to dealing with his feelings. I understand why and am giving him time to come to grips with his issues. We were attending counseling together but he doesn’t want to go back. Meanwhile, I want to work on my own issues (we both had terrible childhoods). The counselor thinks that I should work on my issues but made the statement that our marriage might have been a mistake because my husband has a hard time dealing with things.
Should I continue seeing this counselor for my own issues? or seek a different one?

would like a child within the next two years…or more…but not sure if I’m ready to be a single mother…anyone who’s been there or any advice? I already that once I’m financially secure I had hire a nanny when I work from home or run my own business..and I’ll ensure to have great support groups but joining different mom’s groups etc. Just don’t think I need a man to do that. Women do it all the time. I was raised by a single mother..just circumstantial. I’ve been married now going through a divorce..and don’t think I’ll get married again…and almost 30 years and well don’t want to wait too long…but I’m just newly single and want to enjoy life…HELP HERE. thanks.
Bear in mind I know it won’t be easy..but I plan to have positive male role models in her life…as I didn’t have which made me want to seek out my father which only turned out to be a mistake. So I realized that I can do it but the right way right?
Here’s thought ~ what if my donor is someone I know but not in a relationship with and what if I have more than one child with that person through artifical insemination. What if he’s a "known" donor or a donor that doesn’t mind being sought out…that’s possible too right?

so one of these guys, KISSED me at a party a few weeks back while we were both drunk…we said it was a mistake and we would leave it at that. the other guy is just really nice and i really like him. i work with both of them. marriage is failing and my husband is moody and bossy and has a terrible temper. i am leaving next week for a week of a trial separation. i feel like i may be throwing away a good thing but i can’t get my mind off of these two!! help!

I have been married almost 5yrs. I have a 13yr. old son from a previous marriage and now I have a 4yr old girl from my current marriage. I know the damage it did to my son and I don’t want to get another divorce but there is no love in my marriage. My husband and son can’t get along for 5min. and I am tired of being in the middle. I have tried counseling for myself but that isn’t going to change their relationship. I made a mistake getting married but wouldnt give up my daughter for the world.
I am almost 8yrs older than my husband and when we married he had never been in a very serious relationship. We had our daughter right away because I was almost 40. I feel I rushed him into marriage long before he was ready to be a husband or a father, let alone a step-father. I had reservations about his parenting skills before I married him, but did it anyway. We were both brought up in very religious families and I thought that would help out marriage. Unfortunately it hasn’t. I am not in love with him anymore, can I still make it work for the children

My fears are that perhaps I will make a mistake, that I will divorce him out of anger and resentment but I still have feelings.
However you can still love someone but be very very unhappy and I have tried EVERYTHING for 12 years.

Have you ever divorced someone out of desperation for change??

ok, so i went out with this guy for 7 months. we were really close, and he finally broke up with me in april for another girl. i gotta admit, even though shes a bit too hyper and energetic, shes way more fun than me.

i’m 16 btw.

so it was heartbreaking at first, and we still decided to be friends, and we still talked when we saw eachother in the halls and stuff. He wasn’t a jerk and ignored me or anything. it was ok i guess. over the summer i didn’t see him AT ALL… which honestly helped because i got over him for the most part.

i’m in band, so band camp started in august, and i saw him again. we said hi and talked. then later that day he called me and asked to hang out. i accepted. he told me that he was having trouble with his g/f (the one he broke up with me for) and how he thinks shes crazy, and sometimes shes a bitch, and how i never used to be a bitch, and how he misses me and how he still has feelings for me, and how hes thinking of breaking up with her. So i could kind of get wat he was about to do.

he broke up with her the next week and asked to go out with me. Since i was almost all over him, i kind of hesitated. i wasn’t sure. but since our relationship before was so great, i decided to give him a 2nd chance. i mean, he told me he made a mistake and everybody makes mistakes. so yah.

we lasted for only 1 week, and he broke up with me again, and told me that hes rly sorry but he still seems to have feelings for the other girl.

this pissed me off, but we still decided to be friends. but this time… he’s not as close. we started off being close friends, but now he ignores me in the halls at school.

the thing is that when we went back out, i got feelings for him again, despite being over him during the summer. so if it took me 3 whole months of not seeing him at all to get over him, how am i supposed to do it now? i feel terrible. i thought he was rly the one, and the first relationship lasted 7 months!!! i can’t get over him now . i feel horrible. i’m depressed and i can’t focus on my studies. I mean it would at least help if he didn’t ignore me, but he does :’(.

i feel incredibly stupid. ive never felt this way before, and i hate myself for giving him a second chance

how do i get over him once and for all???

PLZ HELP!!!! thanx

7 years ago I went through a divorce. It was war and it was Hell! It took me months before i could even function again. I couldn’t so much as do the laundry anymore for weeks on end. I would lock myself in the place i rented for days and days hoping I would die or something but I didn’t. God took me through that hard process of deep inner healing. Its been 7 years now.
I called my daughtor and she cries out in my ear things that just rip a dad’s heart out. things a little girl doesn’t normally know but are fed to her by a bitter ex!

Now, my friends are trying so hard to "fix" me up. I( am afraid to allow another woman get her "claws" into me again. its scary! They all play headgames.

So what would you all do in my situation. I’ve already joined a divorce care support group for people like me who have survived divorce.
Life isn’t balanced. I’ve gone from job to job, haven’t slept well in years. I mean its a real struggle. So what would you do if you were me?
In the divorce care support group I go to we have 2 rules.
1. No dating in the group. The most common mistake made after a fresh divorce is to get into another relationship before you are completly healed or on the rebound. Its not healthy.
2. Whats said in the group stays in the group. So the suggestion of finding a lady in the group is out! Way out! But it has helped me to see those who have just gone through divorce and relate with them offering some help for them. Thats been nice and they appreciate the shoulder to lean on, but no one gets romantically attatched. Thats a rule! Its for our protection, besides, do I want to face an angry ex husband who may have a gun? No way!!!

I just found out my husband had multiple affairs. I want a divorce but since we have not been in the area long I do not know who is the best divorce attorney. My husband wants to make our marriage work so he is going to contest the divorce. I just want out! I have been searching online for an attorney but I can’t find any comments stating who is the best.
Please no comments on trying to make my marriage work. He has betrayed me in the worst way and I want a divorce and nothing is going to change my mind.
Thank You to all who can give me some advice.
To MMM who is her attorney and who is her husband’s attorney so I don’t make the mistake of going to them?

When she was 15, she was irresponsible and we were harsh, though she was really sorry. Our words broke her spirit and for 3 months she suffered hard consequences. She became a very responsible teen, but for the next 3 years she lived with us she was always sad, resentful, depressed. She never felt as part of the family again. At first we told her she had just suffered the consequences of her actions, had to get over and didn’t coddle her. Hubby didn’t change his attitude, but I got worried w/ that behavior and tried unsuccessufuly to comfort her. I only caused more pain, so I sent her to counseling but didn’t work. She went to college, we both missed her bad but realized she was much happier from us. Today she lives on her on, is doing great on her job but since graduation we could hardly talk to her. Yesterday we finally talked. She relived those days and cried a lot, her pain shocked us. She said she can’t have a relationship w/ us. Her mistake was to leave her 7 yo bro alone for 20 min when she was in charge of him to talk w/ friends. He was run over by a car, though had no severe injure. He never blamed her, they love each other.