I want to get rid of him as i think i made one hell of a mistake, and i haven’t said a word to him since we left for the apt. Is divorce possible before 24hrs accrding to US law

(Married 21 years, no kids, I’m disabled. Divorced in Alaska)

I just received my divorce decree & the Judges ruling. It is SO obvious that this Judge is so in the wrong! I swear he was paid off or something. My ex is a contractor & has on more then 1 occasion worked out deals with lawyers & a judge in Montana to take care of his legal problems, like he did some building on the Judges house in exchange for him excusing all of my ex’s traffic violations. I have no doubt he’s capable of doing this again.

What happened at the trial was unbelievable enough (ie. when my ex was exposed for ILLEGALLY selling our house in 8/09 & took & spent 0,000 from it, never accounting for most of it, he did it without my consent & against court orders, to which another judge was considering holding him in contempt of court for, but this judge didn’t care, he got irate with me saying I was "wasting the courts time by even bringing it up" & that my ex "just made a mistake & it didn’t matter anymore…") When I tell anyone any of what happened, they think like I do, this Judge is not just unfair & bizarre, he’s outright WRONG!

The rulings however, is so outrageously unfair, I was SO SCREWED, I can’t begin to list the absolute insane rulings by this judge, who was 100% in my ex’s favor & 100% against me. I believe its at least in part because my ex could afford his lying lawyer & I couldn’t find a lawyer who would help me since I had NO $, so I had to do all the research myself. Trust me, I did NOT want to represent myself, but I had no choice, so I used whatever means I could, still having to spend 00 in legal & research fees (that I had to borrow because I have NOTHING since my ex financially abandoned me 16 months ago, before I even left him! Which BTW, I left him because of his abuse & neglect, I’m also disabled & often bedridden for months at a time, which I also proved in court that my ex contributed to my illness & harmed me physically, even poisoning me. All of it, according to the judge, "doesn’t matter.")

I filed EVERYTHING correctly & even presented my case exactly as I was supposed too, my ex AND his shyster lawyer both admitted at the trial that their records were incorrect about several things, admitted that my ex DID sell the house illegally. I proved this & so much more, I proved everything!!!

6 hours worth of a crazy trial, I was married for 21 years, I’m sick, my ex is an abusive lying mentally unstable barbaric dishonest JERK & I proved it all in court!!! & I still got screwed royally! I just can’t believe it.

I didn’t ask for tons of money, I just needed help with medical bills & some security, something??? After 21 years, I’m sick & he’s an admitted lier, he is in possession of hundreds of thousands of dollars (in $ & in marital property & assets,) ALL of which was proven in court, I’m in possession of a broken down 12 year old car & my laptop & 2 barstools, & I begged the courts for help, for 10 months I begged them, & I got NOTHING!!!!! Not even help to pay for medicine. I just don’t believe this!!!

So…. what can I do? How do you fight a judge?
Can you appeal a divorce case?
Can I have the judge investigated some how? Someone told me I can file a complaint, but then what? What happens after a complaint is filed? Does anyone care about complaints filed like that?
Someone else suggested I contact the newspapers in Alaska about this Judge, what do you think?

I got the court transcripts just sent to me too, BUT they’re just summarized, all of it, there isn’t ONE complete sentence in the entire thing, & some of it is even missing??? They’re not even full transcripts!

Everything is so blatantly obvious to me that something fishy is going on & I don’t know what I can do about it. Is there anything I CAN do? Anything at all? (Please don’t tell me answers like "Get a lawyer." I need real answers, this is my life, my whole life, this isn’t petty! I need some advice!

Help me, please, someone?
Cliff: Don’t talk about what you don’t know! & trust me, you DON’T have a clue what you’re talking about!

Have been married for almost 9 years (have two children). He cheated on me for the first time while away with army during the time around our first anniversary..tried to work thru it and then cheated on me again after 4 yrs of marriage. He even left me for her only came back when I got a job (before this was a stay at home mom) and started having lunch with co-workers. Well last year I made a HUGE mistake and cheated on him. I have begged for forgiveness and said I am so very sorry. But, every day since I am belittled and treated like dirt. I cant go to the store without him or he accuses me of cheating. I am tired of being called a slut or whore, etc. But I don’t want our marriage to end because there was a time when we were happy. Any ideas how to deal with a jealous and controlling husband?
I need to admit I was super selfish and wrong for what I did. I just want forgiveness and to "start over".

My brother is married, but going thru a separation right now ( his wife asked for a trial separation) So of course he’s beside himself and I made the mistake of telling my friend this. Because they were an "item" before he met his wife. Anyhow, my brother sent her an innocent email asking her what kind of person she thought he was while they were dating. And now all she talks about is my brother. She sends him emails regularly. But like a fool he is responding, keeping the letters going. He says that he still loves his wife & at 1st he said he wanted to work things out with her, but lately he’s be doing nothing but bad mouthing her and thinking of getting a divorce. And I am wondering how much influence my friend is having on him. She herself is single and longs to have someone in her life, and frankly, I think she sees what she wants in him, They’ve got a past, plus he’s got a new baby, and she loves babies. So she’ll have no problem playing "mommy" to his child.
Everyone can see this but him. I know he is distraught, but I really fear for him if he continues to further engage her in conversation, she ( I think ) is reading more into this than there is and I think will push him to chose her or his wife( trust me, I’ve known this woman for 10+ yrs)
What can I do as his sister?
My brothers wife also took off her wedding band. To me, this states " Hey guys, I’m available" . I probably shouldn’t have told my friend anything. maybe he wouldn’t be talking to her if he thought she didn’t know anything about the situation.
I don’t know if she is going to any kind of counceling, but I know my brother is.

Time and I’ve already realized that I made a HUGE mistake! This man has changed at what seems like over night. He refuses to work unless its in a field that he wants to be in. (which he has no experience in and sucks at) he has major anger issues and is lazy as the day is long! And I pay for everything outta my pocket! And I have kids too. (they aren’t his) Advice pls…

Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.

I’m not sure what to do, I cant stop crying, feel like the separation was the worst mistake I’ve ever made.

Got married in 2005 all was fine, we had our ups and downs then we were pressured by his family to buying a house, I was ok with it as it meant moving forward but things changed. We saw less of each other, after a long commute we’d argue a lot, sex was non existant and I felt more isolated.

Coz I’m from another country he insisted to get my parents over to stay with us, it worked wonders we became a lot closer, things were going well after a year of worry (my side) then I was told by a stranger he cheated on me. I confronted him – it was true.

Naturally I freaked out, tried living together but argued and fought daily, constantly in tears, then I suggested a trial separation for 6 months to find ourselves. We were still in contact, but never really saw each other. Every time we talk we fight. I met someone – yes I know, and things are ok.

My ex then started dumping all debts & mortgage on me, I had no other option but to get my boyfriend to move in to help me out. I sought legal help and am now taking him to court for maintenance. I’m not coping financially and even now I still love him deeply. I cant lose my ex, it’ll be the first time seeing each other – in court. What can I say or do when court is over to make things right, even to try being friends? I love him sooooo much and it kills me to be apart. I hate my life now and everything in it. He was the one I married, how to get my marriage back? I tried asking him back but he’s still angry. I haven’t heard from him since 5 December.

A friend of mine has joint physical custody, and is allowed to have his son every other weekend. This was not actually his decision. The wife had divorce papers drawn up along with custody papers together. He was so ready for the divorce to be finished, and trusted her, so he did not read the papers. No, he will never be stupid enough to make that mistake again. He wants to know how much it would cost to have papers drawn up joint legal and physical custody between him and the Mother. If anyone has dealt with a similar situation, or has any information about what it costs please let me know.

Is she that desperate to win she would dump her poor old Crooked husband? Did Bill make a mistake when he allowed her to run? And why does Jim W chew on other peoples used Condoms?
why does the decider sound like they have black knuckles?

I’m just wondering who out there has done this after a breakup when you’re really devastated and think it was a mistake of theirs, and you keep trying to get them to talk, but they begin to ignore you and won’t respond. Have you ever been "guilty" of this? What happened in your situation? I’m looking for your experiences.

We have finally finished negotiating our divorce settlement. We did nearly all the negotiations ourselves with some guidance from our separate lawyers. (we have a 52 pg prenuptial agreement that his current attorney wrote 7 years ago) We live in Oregon. The last paragraph in our prenup says that husband shall pay wife pre determined judgment amount (set amount per each yr of marriage) less 50% of marital assets. Well, neither he or his attorney who had written this paragraph caught on to this word "less" After we both signed, me on Wednesday and him on Thursday, Friday morning in an argument, I spewed out that his attorney is an idiot she didn’t even pay enough attention to her own writing bla bla. Well later that day when i saw him, he was FURIOUS! He says he has been cheated out of ,000 dollars, of it half of retirement valus for the 7 years, and he’ll make damn sure that his attorney recovers this for him through a malpractice suit. I have opened up a large can of worms with my big fat mouth. My attorney called me later that day and said there looks to be an investigation. His attorney says it was unethical of mine not to point out the error. But we really did the negotiating ourselves.. Does anyone know anything about this kind of thing. I feel like he has signed this thing that we worked out and was ok with it. Can it be undone. Please no comments about my loudmouth, I already know..
The man is wealthy, very wealthy and I raised his kids for 16 years. This mistake is nearly half of total settlement..Who in their right mind would have pointed this mistake out before hand?