My wife and I have been married for 9 years but have been a couple for nearly 15. We have (2) small children, ages 6 and 3. My wife admitted to cheating on me during at a work-related out-of-town conference about1 1/2 months ago. I forgave her and we talked about why it happened and how we would deal with it. Over the next month, things were fairly good between us. I did have trust issues but I thought we were making progress. Just last week, she told me she was very unhappy with life, work, our marriage and motherhood. Since then, all intimacy and affection has bascially stopped and it seems like we are more like roomates than a married couple. On a side note, my wife is on hormone medication and just recently started thyroid medicaion as well. Anyways, we had a long talk about our relationship and we discussed the need to see a marriage counseler. My wife couldn’t explain the reason(s) for her unhappiness and wasn’t able to answer some of my questions concerning her love for me and if she truly wanted to stay with me and the children. During our conversation, she brought up the idea of a trial separation on numerous occasions. This is where I am confused and scared. I am 100%, madly in love with my wife and adore her completely but I keep thinking that it was something I did to make her become unhappy. I’ll be the first to admit that I am not the greatest at expressing my innermost thoughts and I tend to hold my feelings back. I am totally against any type of separation because I believe we made marriage vows to stand together, in either good times and bad, and for me, leaving is not the answer. We have a marriage counseler appointment on Thursday and it feels my life is on hold until either my wife decides what she wants to do or what our counseler suggests. My biggest fear is that the counseler might agree that a separation would be beneficial and my wife would be gone by the weekend.
How do I deal with the anxiety and fear that I am feeling? Do I just need to give my wife time to figure out why she is unhappy? Any help or suggestions are surely appreciated!
The cheating episode occured once, with a complete stranger and they didn’t have intercourse. I am 100% sure that she has being faithful to me since that event occured.
My wife’s explaination for the trial separation: It would give her time to think, discover why she is unhappy and to see if being away from the kids and I would make her any happy. If after being separated, she was still unhappy, it might be a medical reason.

I need help locating free depression counseling and medication in Southern California for a woman that is not working (but wants to) and can’t afford to pay for such services. She’s been unable to locate any service provider that can diagnose and treat her long-term depression. She has been brushed off many times and really needs to find full treatment (counseling & medication) so she can get back on track and find a steady job. Any help/leads to service providers are GREATLY appreciated!!!

I know that in some states, there is an age at which a child’s wishes regarding whose custody he/she is in is acknowledged…
Example- In Wisconsin, once the child is 14, if he writes a paper/letter to the judge explaining why he doesn’t want to go back to .. let’s say Dad’s house ever again (with valid, reasonable reasons), he doesn’t have to go.

Is there such an age in other states? I’m specifically wondering about Utah, but other states would be helpful to know.
In the case that I know of (in Wisconsin), the kids (yes, there were a number of them involved) wrote great letters to the judges, itemizing horrific things their father had done- he had taken away his daughter’s feminine supplies.. then when she bled on her underwear, he took that away too.. and didn’t replace them… yeah, he was a piece of work. Another child was deprived of his ADHD medication when he was with his father (unable to really function without it). The children felt safer, better cared for, etc when they were with their mother. Yes, Mom was a good parent; rules, consequences, chores, etc.. but Dad was just a .. um.. yeah.

Like I said, valid reasons….

I love my family dearly but I can’t help thinking that they would be better off without me. I can’t do anything right. I just cause problems and make everyone else’s life bad. Nothing I say or do is good enough. I’m pathetic and I don’t feel as though I deserve to live. I don’t want to hurt anyone though and that is why I’m still here. My family doesn’t deserve this I know. I can’t see any other way out of my pain. I’ve taken medication and went to therapy but so far nothing has really helped. I don’t want to hurt the people I care the most about. Please some advice.

My husband was married to this woman for 22 yeras. They got divorced in 2004. She never showed up in court so financial portion was pending. She is entitled to 1/2 of his retirement from Air Force, but never applied to the proper office because a judge did not dictated so. Still my husband paid monthly his duties plus extra. When my husband needed her signature for some Veteran affair needs (illness) to help him, she refused to do it; so he cut off the extras in order to pay for his medication bills. Now she is demanding through a lawyer the financial disclosure, alimony and equal division of assets (which my husband has no savings, or any properties). She has properties in Turkey with the value of more than 500,000, 00 dlls. (properties my husband paid with his work during his military work; but he had to give up because he can’t have properties in that country. Added to all this mess, I was told that my income as labor in a warehouse has to be counted also as part of my husband’s income and I have to give a portion of my work to that woman who never worked after he married her, and just left a traumatized man with physical scars on his body of the times she tried to kill him. Is any way to avoid that at least my income which is not that much, be saved from making her life comfortable after 6 years of silent from her?

What can someone do If they are confused into SIGNING a divorce settlement and are under the advice of a doctor on medication for mental treatment.. and do not realize that they are signing a document for unfair or unjust agreements….without police or authorities or violating any laws for a divorce??? Im stuck and want a hearing.

Our 8 month old Lab has terrible separation anxiety, he chews anything he can, even started ripping the skirting from a couch. he has another dog for company, plenty of chew toys etc.. We adopted him from the pound when he was 3 months old.
I do leave the tv on and he has food cubes, he gets plenty of play time and excercise. I think he gets mad because I leave. I do not want to crate him, but it might come to that. Thanks for the advice.
I know that considering medication is extreme, but I feel we are at that point with him, unless we can try something else. Thanks for your info.

my daughters father and i agreed that he will have her every saturday for 4 hours and then an increase to 6 hours. she has chronic asthma. do i have to provide the breathing machine or basically hold a stand point that he needs to purchase his own?

is it fair to only supply the child and her medication and not ne thing else?
im sending her with her inhalers, and the albuterol sulfate. the breathing machine wasn’t covered by insurance i am asking that he does provide his own. i can’t rely solely on an irresponsible indiviual to transport essential medical equiptment back and forth.

I was never married to the father of my children. He was agreeing to the terms that I set out, now he wants to go and change them because our 5 year old does not want to see him. She won’t even go near his apartment door! He does not pay a dime to those children. He is not supposed to have time alone with the children because of uncontrolled sezuires and his girlfriend is the same way! They are on medication for that disorder but they never tell me if and when they go through one or more! I would be endangering the lives of the children. He also lives in a run-down apartment. I barely support the children on a 40-hour a week job and going to night school. What paperwork do I have to file and where, for child support and child custody?

Hi. my poor daughter has to take medication and noise spray twice daily. She will not take the liquid medication, she screams and spits it all out. i really dont know how to do it.. any suggestion would be great!