My ex wife and I are tryng to get divorced, long story short there was a family law standing pretrial order saying a bunch of stuff about not being able to get rid of stuff, add debts…etc. However, she went and moved down to south florida with her parents where she lied and said she was a single person and was put on the mortgage with her parents. Now I know she is not a "single" person as we are not divorced yet becasue she wont file necssary papers..but isnt that contempt..I mean she went out and got in on this debt with her parents..which I have no idea how she got approved since she does not work! Meanwhile I am stuck waiting on a divorce hearng in Aug. to deal with the fact nothing is being done. Should I have my lawyer file contempt charges? How do I notify anyone of her fraud saying she was a single person… technically that is a marital asset right?
All Iknow is after we went to mediation I we agreed would pay her 2 years back child support and let her dad adopt our child.. that was the last time I saw her. She packed up and moved with her parents. I looked it up on the internet where her and her parents are on the mortgage… but only the parents are on the deed. But the family law order said neither her nor I could incur unreasonalbe or unnecessary debts until the divorce in final. I would not be out for blood, but I went to mediation last year and once I agreed to let her dad adopt the child between us and she split town, her and he lawyer have iled to file necessary papers so we can get divorced and her lawyer will not communicate with mine… so it is back to court and I KNOW she will not be at the hearing in Aug. She isnt going to drive 8 hours for that. I am sure she will come up with some lame excuse and just have it drug out longer.

I’m a practicing mediator, and trying to find out how people find out about mediation. Please answer both parts of the question. Thanks!

how can she get custody back if mediation at the end of that summer the dad doesn’t agree to give child back, and the mediator never scheduled them for another court date at the end of summer.

I have an ongoing issue with my daughters mom and have filed paper work for mediation, which she didn’t attend. How is this going to look in court. We have a court date next week and she is stating that she isn’t going to make that appointment either.. This is a court order and she was served.

Her reason is she just started a new job, but I also just started a new job and they approved the time off.

(Location-California)

A friend of mine has her mediation next week and hasn’t a clue what she should expect as a final settlement or dollar amount to ask for. Her boss physically grabbed her then when she rejected him, he found a way to "get rid of her" (from the office), only 3 days before Christmas. A real S.O.B. if you ask me! Not to mention, she’s a single mother! I mean who does that? Firing a single Mom the week of Christmas? I say she should take everything he’s got and more!!!

Mediation can used be a business, divorce, child custody, real estate, insurance claim, personal injury.

If what you talk about in eeoc mediation can’t be used in court. Would it benefit the employee more or the employer? And would it be better to skip mediation and go to court?

If I ask for monetary damages in mediation, how do I value my claim?

Should I not use names,places and times to answer it or should I decline to answer it, if I think it couldn’t be used in court if mediation fails?

What happens if the other party does not show up for the mediation for our child and you do not have a court date set yet (NO OSC is filed yet)? Would I have to then file the OSC or would my requests in mediation still be forwarded to the court for approval?

This is in CA, Sacramento.

Thanks!