Some Christians believe that dating should only come when you are ready for marriage, some say that dating prepares you for relationships and marriage.

What do you think?

For over a week my wife has been acting distant and disinterested in me.

She blames: work pressure, pressure about leaving China and coming to Australia to settle, leaving the company with a really good impression in case she has to return to China (yeah I hate how these people like to leave options open too), pressure about the failing health of her family, boredom with me.

I’m crushed. She just won’t let something go that happened to us a while ago (before marriage). Where I became good friends with a girl and packed up my things and left for 24 hours (because I was so upset with something that happened). I came back the next day and it did hurt us both. I never did anything with this girl but my wife was so upset at the time about me lining up another girl and trying to move on. I did that out of anger because she was getting more and more abusive to me and ran out until 2am to KTV with a bunch of blokes.

Anyway, we got on with it and I came back. We tried to work through it and get over it. BUT she hasn’t been the same since. She told me she still loves me so much and has shown that through small affectionate signs but the sex and bedroom intimacy has completely gone. The past 4 nights have gone something like this: I’ll try to kiss her and initiate, she’ll just roll over and ignore me or lie there like a doll. I’ll then give up in tears and leave the room and break down.

The night before last, she apologized for not being able to give me sex. Said I’m still young and she understands. I’m not trying to put demands on her… Last night she saw that I was horny and was playfully me touching me and then when I wanted more, she rolled over said she was tired and went to sleep. She has changed into something like a manipulative woman that’s just playing around and no longer serious to me. Now I feel like I am banging my head on a wall. We just got married and now she is doing this and treating us like a joke. No wonder I want to weigh up options and think about getting out.

I’m at wits end. She says she loves me so much and to not get upset and things will be fine – she’s just worried about her work and has big pressure.

She hates it that I have a mate who is a player. I don’t go out with this guy but rarely invite him around for drinks at my house. I’ve told him I’m married and not into playing around but since the incident with that girl, my wife has become so distrusting that when I made a comment about her going overseas for her work and having 2 weekends without her, she shot back ‘so you can go and f**** other girls then’. After that I said to myself that this girl doesn’t just have problems with what happened, but I seriously doubt she loves me.

So, I’m weighing options. We only have 3 months to go before we go back to Australia together.

1. Stay here and keep working and earning money until it’s time to go. I’ll see her on and off and be her support. Be there in case she is in the mood to be intimate. Her support but also in some ways her toy.

2. Go back to Australia before her. Problem here is that I won’t be earning any money during the time before out planned wedding in December. It will take some time to find a job. <– this option might be a good idea as a trial separation. Yep, I’m thinking along the lines of a separation of longer than what her work normally affords. I’d still be committed to her, just I’d be getting established in Australia and have access to counseling if I decide to and time to think with the support of my family.

3. Continue to stay here. I’ve talked at length with a close family member about these things and they reminded me that I can try to stick it out in China for a couple more months (even if that means us not being intimate or doing anything together – just kind of exist together without the full range of intimacy is no different to just being in another country I guess). Come back together and then see how things go without her work pressure. She might change completely. Certainly I’d have all of her attention – she won’t know anybody or anything and will have to rely upon me.

I never went with another girl. I did message that girl and consider going out with her but never did that because I needed time to process my feelings – esp. if I was going to make a permanent break. After all, we had been together for 2 years and I realized I couldn’t just throw that away. That tells you how far as I was pushed to make the decision to move out (she had messaged me earlier after leaving in anger and told me she was moving all her stuff out and leaving). Her text to me set me off and I packaged things out of anger.

She sometimes brings up the incident about the girl. Today she saw me getting so upset with her comments that she backed down and said not to worry and think so much and that the business with the girl was a small problem. That mo
I’m 28 and she’s 25. I began to wonder if it was a lack of attraction to me. Bored with me?? That’s bs. But then she turns around and talks about saving for a house and a good future. She was on the webcam laughing and talking away with her cousin’s bf last night but when it came to bed time, she hugged me, kissed my eyes (a sign of affection), started fooling around and then rolled over and went to sleep. All signs of a lack of interest in me. I am teetering on the edge of leaving.

it is too long and expensive to be annuled in the philippines so i wish to divorce in australia so i can marry my new partner..what do i need to present in an australian court of law.?Do i need permission from thePhil consulate to divorce a Phil marriage in Australia.And can I marry my new loved one soon after the divorce,if granted.

Let’s say that there is a married couple who has teenage children, and the wife/mother files for divorce from the husband/father. Then, either while the divorce is occurring or after it has completed, the husband/father divulges to the children that since the mother has broken the marriage, that causes the children to be considered bastards.

What is your opinion of this being told to the children? Is it truth or not truth? And should it be divulged at all?

how to help marriage

I have several questions concerning a divorce I am going through. If anyone is an attorney, or has legal or divorce experience, that would be great. I feel and have been told that our divorce should be very simple- we were married for just over a year, both of us our college students, no kids, no real estate. We acquired only a few items during our marriage. The day we split up, my wife drained our savings account, not a ton of money, but still relatively a lot for college kids (around 00.) Now, I have recieved her divorce paperwork, and am preparing my answer. She is asking that I help pay the remainder of the lease in the apartment we were in, even though she is the only one living there. Also, she is asking for 0 dollars a month alimony. I’ve spoken with a lawyer and he said that if this were to make it to court (let’s hope it doesn’t) he would be very suprised if a judge ordered alimony in a case like this- not kids, we both are in school, only married a year. Also, he said it is unlikely that i would be required to help pay where she is living, and that a judge would rule that that money she took be split up. I’m hoping if her and I cannot work this out between ourselve that a mediator can. Would a mediator tell her that it is not likely she will get alimony? I would love to keep this out of court, and think that with how simple and low-key it is, we should be able to do that. Also, I have a classic car I’ve had since I was sixteen that I rebuilt with my father- she put that she wants part of that. My lawyer told me there’s no way, because it was mine long before she came into the picture, and since we were married such a short duration, it has not become a marital asset. Anyway, sorry to be so longwinded, I just really would like some opinions and some clarity on this subject, thank you.

I read somewhere that legalizing gay marriage nationally would help the country’s economy. Is this true? In what ways? Please provide a source.

Because "gay marriage" apparently gives "marriage" a bad name…

My mums has just got married. She has only been with her partner for about 2 n half years. Before she met him she paid of her mortgage so she owns a property valued at around £200,000 which she worked for all her life.. Her husband has nothing I mean nothing worth valued in his life. I’m worried cuz she didn’t get a pre nub b4 marriage.. And she has been married to him for 2 weeks and already she has withdrawn £25,000 outa her mortgage to pay for bills and to share with her new hubby! So already he has gained money from her. And the type of person he is he is Manipulating to get her to get stuff.. But she can’t see it… To me I’m fuming I think it’s all wrong! I no it’s my mums money and she is her own person but who does he think he is by letting her do this!! How would this make you feel? What would you do? Every time I mention to her she should get a pre nub she ignores me or says he won’t take nothing! But you never know! need help n advice

My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage allot. It’s something we both want right now and we can only think of like 5 people to invite that we actualy like.
So what are some things we could do INSTEAD of an actual wedding, but still something to remember
Lol no vegas! We don’t have money like that