I am seriously considering getting married again. I am the wealthy one and I thought about prenuptial agreement lately. But my boyfriend doesn’t feel comfortable with it, because he believes that he would never leave me first. He also said, if the marriage fails because of his fault, he would give all his assets to me; but if I am the one who brings up divorce then I should give him some of my assets. He believes by doing this, we both would seriously try our best to keep the marriage work and grow old together. I could not argue with him, and I thought there is some truth in what he said, although back in my head I am still a little worried.

My question: will my assets before this marriage be protected JUST IN CASE the marriage falls if we don’t have pre-nuptial agreement? I remember one friend told me that, by default, California law states that the assets before marriage is not community assets, which means the other spouse is not entitled to it even without prenup. Is this true

I just found out my husband had multiple affairs. I want a divorce but since we have not been in the area long I do not know who is the best divorce attorney. My husband wants to make our marriage work so he is going to contest the divorce. I just want out! I have been searching online for an attorney but I can’t find any comments stating who is the best.
Please no comments on trying to make my marriage work. He has betrayed me in the worst way and I want a divorce and nothing is going to change my mind.
Thank You to all who can give me some advice.
To MMM who is her attorney and who is her husband’s attorney so I don’t make the mistake of going to them?

I have a relaive.She has lived with a man for 18 years.They filed taxes as "married"the whole time.There are a lot of assets involved.Now,the relationship has busted.The house is in "his name"although she has bank records where she has been involved with the payments for the entire time.Now,the man is telling her she must leave,it is HIS house.So,how would the dissolution of a common law marriage work?I mean the division of assets.Should she see a divorce atty?They were never legally married.Anyone familiar with the law please help.Somehow,I am the "answer man"in the family as I know a lot of things…The law isn’t one of them.I’m thinking divorce atty,but am stuck on the fact that there was no marriage.18 years of building assets together though,seems she should be entitled to half?What to do?What is the first step?Thank you in advance

ok I have a problem in my marriage. My husband is verbally abusive uses all kinds of cuss words at me and my family memebrs.I have been married three years In my 30′s now. Ifeel a lot better when he aint at home. I am currently pursuing school in NJ and he works in a different place. So I am feeling peaceful sincehe isn’t around and wish I could continue like this. I feel like talking to him long distance over the phone is better than living with him under the same roof since all we do is curse each other( even I resorted to cussing back at him since he doesn’t stop at all.I told him to change his way of speaking about me and my family but he says tht is the only drawback he has tht I have to live with.That is true coz other than the cussing he is really good. But because of tht one thing – cussing – I find it horrible to be with him. We talked about divorce plenty but he does not really want it but I think I do although not completely sure on this.I feel no love towards him now. I feel he is a casual friend to me. I want advice on how I can change my ways to love him more and think less evil of him. What can I do to make this marriage work coz I really want it to. Yes I am trying now not to respond in a similar way when he abuses me but besides tht what can I do ?

My husband and I have been married coming up on a year in September. We recently hit a rough patch (passion dwindling, we’re completely faithful) and we both agreed to making this marriage work, I understand that the 1st year is usually the hardest. But as a wife, what are some tips that I can make sure I do (on my end) to make hubby realize that marriage is so worth it? Anybody out there that has been through please send advice. I really appreciate it! Thanks.

Well, I’m 19 and I’ve only been married for two and a half months. I’ve been reading through this marriage and divorce thread for the past couple days, and I have to say I’m a little scared! I love my husband like crazy and I really want to be with him (happily) forever. Things are going great right now, but I just wondered if maybe you guys could tell me what’s made your marriage work or what caused your marriage to fail so I can make sure my own marriage is successful. Thanks in advance!

My spouse and I are considering going through a trial separation to see if we can work out some of our issues prior to divorce. From what I have researched, it is most common for one person to stay in the home while another moves out. The situation that I have though is that we are renting an apartment and the lease runs out in April. We can’t really afford to resign there and get a second apartment but we could afford two smaller apartments. Do you think it would still work if we both got our own places on a six month lease? If we work it out sooner we can always move back into one apartment for the few remaining months and then buy a house or rent a larger apartment at the end of the lease term.

I jsut know that it’s not typically done like this so I’m looking for any possible issues that may arise. It will be a bit tougher for sure too because we really will have to split everything up as if we were going through a divorce sense we’ll both be moving. I don’t know what else to do though, it’s either this or divorce and I would like to give it a shot. Any advice on how to make it work more smoothly would be great!
a lot of you have mentioned counseling so it’s probably wise to mention that we have been in counseling for over a year now. There has not been any cheating involved but there has been major lies and deception including massive debts, dissapearances, and job changes. I’ve done everything I possibly can to make the marriage work and feel at this point that I simply can not rely on him to take care of himself or his family……which makes it difficult to love him.

I thought that a trial separation would prove to me one way or another if he is really committed to growing up and taking care of his life and in turn our life. I don’t believe in divorce in theory but I have been lied to and decieved beyond anything that would be considered acceptable. I just want to try every last resort before divorce and feel that this may be one last option.

Neither of our families live near us to move in with and I don’t want to sign another year long lease together if it isn’t going to work out.

I need advice. If you made a huge mistake and cheated on your spouse, and now you and your spouse are trying to make your marriage work, and things are going well..but all the sudden things are not going well and you are working through stuff, when one day all the anger comes back, and everything the cheater says is wrong..even "i love you" is wrong..how does the cheater comfort and support the heartbroken spouse? are there phases people go through when recovering from being cheated on? I want to understand. Please help.

I have a relaive.She has lived with a man for 18 years.They filed taxes as "married"the whole time.There are a lot of assets involved.Now,the relationship has busted.The house is in "his name"although she has bank records where she has been involved with the payments for the entire time.Now,the man is telling her she must leave,it is HIS house.So,how would the dissolution of a common law marriage work?I mean the division of assets.Should she see a divorce atty?They were never legally married.Anyone familiar with the law please help.Somehow,I am the "answer man"in the family as I know a lot of things…The law isn’t one of them.I’m thinking divorce atty,but am stuck on the fact that there was no marriage.18 years of building assets together though,seems she should be entitled to half?What to do?What is the first step?Thank you in advance

I have filed the paperwork for divorce with the court but I have not had them served on my husband yet. I am now thinking maybe there is a chance to reconcile and I do not want him to get served divorce papers until I can see if he is willing to make our marriage work. He doesn’t know that I went ahead and filed and now that he is considering working on our marriage, I am having second thoughts too.

How long can I put off legally serving him without retracting the divorce petition? Live in California.