I’m 37 & my bf is 40. We’ve been dating almost 1 year. When we started dating I was married- but legally seperated. My divorce is still not final because of some marital assets we are fighting over. I realize this divorce is taking forever. I’ve not lived with my ex for over 1 year. My bf’s not the reason we are getting a divorce, just wanted to clear that up. My bf suddenly started saying we are committing adultery & reading bible verses to me everytime we talk. He lives 500 miles away, so we don’t see each other but about twice a month, although it has been nearly a month since we’ve been together. He thinks we should wait until my divorce is final before we continue seeing each other. I think that’s bull!! Sounds like an excuse to get out of this relationship to me…btw, i have a steady decent paying job, my own house, car & my kids are still in school here, He doesn’t really have a job at the moment, lives with his dad, has nothing to leave behind. His kids live in 2 different states. What do you think?

Is that ReEnlistment Bonus considered both your money?
Or is it only belong to the soldier?

Basically my sisters husband reenlisted, and recieved ,000
He says he wants a divorce when he gets back.
But the money already went into their account.

Since they havent even started divorce proceedings, when they start to divide marital assets, does the bonus belong to him only, or is it shared between them
Again, because they havent even started the divorce proceedings.

But she wants to know if she can get in trouble if she spends half
whats sad is that after years of faithful service to this soldier…he found someone else over there and i giving the mother of his child the shaft.
And trying to just kik her out.

If anything he should help her instead of threaten her.

Married for 5 years w/ 1 child. He has millions. She has nothing in her name (his doing so she couldn’t leave him.) She borrowed every penny possible from family. Now her atty has dumped her because there is no more money- after 1 year of representation and just 1 month from final hearings. He will get 75% custody and all marital assets because she has no money and is a good liar – (he says he works so many hours, he needs to have the child more days- judge believed him even tho schedules were presented that showed him working 70+ hours weekly. He prefers to leave child with his parents so he can avoid child support.)

She doesn’t qualify for pro bono because they base everything on his income. He was ordered to pay temporary maintenance but hasn’t- contempt charges were filed but will not be addressed until after final hearings so does absolutely no good.

Is there seriously nothing she can do????
above should be- "HE is a good liar"
As for atty- she is filing for reimbursement for some legal fees but was told this could takes ages. Pro Bono and Legal Aide inquiries have all turned her down after seeing husband’s income. Apparently they believe she must have access to SOMETHING. Also, the few temporary maint. payments he made previously, were enough to keep her just above "poverty" for the full 6 mos they are looking at- she will meet their requirements 2 mos after final hearing. Again, his atty’s thinking.

We have finally finished negotiating our divorce settlement. We did nearly all the negotiations ourselves with some guidance from our separate lawyers. (we have a 52 pg prenuptial agreement that his current attorney wrote 7 years ago) We live in Oregon. The last paragraph in our prenup says that husband shall pay wife pre determined judgment amount (set amount per each yr of marriage) less 50% of marital assets. Well, neither he or his attorney who had written this paragraph caught on to this word "less" After we both signed, me on Wednesday and him on Thursday, Friday morning in an argument, I spewed out that his attorney is an idiot she didn’t even pay enough attention to her own writing bla bla. Well later that day when i saw him, he was FURIOUS! He says he has been cheated out of ,000 dollars, of it half of retirement valus for the 7 years, and he’ll make damn sure that his attorney recovers this for him through a malpractice suit. I have opened up a large can of worms with my big fat mouth. My attorney called me later that day and said there looks to be an investigation. His attorney says it was unethical of mine not to point out the error. But we really did the negotiating ourselves.. Does anyone know anything about this kind of thing. I feel like he has signed this thing that we worked out and was ok with it. Can it be undone. Please no comments about my loudmouth, I already know..
The man is wealthy, very wealthy and I raised his kids for 16 years. This mistake is nearly half of total settlement..Who in their right mind would have pointed this mistake out before hand?

Me and the guy i want to divorce got married in michigan and moved to new jersey to help our now closed immigration case. No he didn’t get a green card because after i realized he didn’t marry me for the right reasons and after he moved in with his girlfriend from his country i left him and moved back to michigan. him and his girlfriend moved to new york. it’s been almost 2 years later. I met the most wonderful guy who knows all about my situation (who is american) and we’ve talked about marriage (we been 2gether 4 six mos). I haven’t been able to locate the guy i want to divorce. He is financially well off (his dad is a muslim religious leader) and i told him and his grilfriend i only want 00 to fix the credit he destroyed and he can have the rest of the marital assets then POOF can’t find him anywhere. I know he coul have been deported because immigration gave him 55 days to go back to ghana africa (thats whe hes from) but i doubt it. he might be in bronx new york with family.

I’m in the early stages of a divorce – his idea. I’ve begged for him to join me in counseling or for us to separate – he won’t, so I am pretty sure he has another agenda. I have been faithful to him and have put up with a LOT of daily interference from his ex including things I have proof of that he doesn’t know about.

Not to mention his lack of supervision and things that his children do that are illegal because of their ages. And the fact that he doles money out to every one – ex (not court ordered) and kids (who live with us) and does not help me with any of my bills.

He does pay the house payment, utilities and most of the groceries (I am very thankful for that), but I bring in groceries too. I had to borrow a car from my parents to drive, when he just bought his daughter a brand new car and is about to buy his son one.

Anyway, I can’t afford a lawyer, so I want to try and go uncontested and gave him a proposal, which gave him all marital assets and a lot of my items that I brought into the marriage almost 4 years ago. I asked for less than ,000, to be moved to my parents and for 1/2 divorce fees. He is saying I am being a golddigger and taking money away from his kids and he wants 1/2 of all expenses he’s paid from the last 4 years of our marriage.

Am I being unfair in what I’m asking in my proposal? What should I do? I cannot afford to retain a lawyer if he contests my proposal. Should I cave in and accept his offer to move me and take my stuff and leave? I would have to file bankruptcy. With the money I could at least pay my bills until I find a job (I lost mine in February when the company I worked for cut 1,500 jobs.). I really don’t want to do that, because I have very good credit, I just owe a lot of money and the ,… would pay my bills for up to a year, etc. until I can find a job. Did I mention I have a lung tumor and have battled cancer for the last year and a half?
To answer WingMan’s question…HE is the one who wanted separate everything. Up until I started dating him, flying back and forth seeing him, doling out gifts to him and his kids as well as money galore to his kids, I was debt free other than what I owed on a college loan and normal monthly housing expenses.

I know, I know…that was STUPID, and boy have I paid for that OVER and OVER, and am STILL paying for those mistakes of doing that! Instead of owing ,000 on college loans now, I owe about ,000 total, and have absolutely NOTHING to show for it but spending almost the last 4 years in hell and about 1 1/2 years prior to that in what I thought was some kind of heaven.

My friend made a confession to me a while ago. To make a long story short, I have a friend who cheated on her husband with another man and got pregnant. Her boyfriend said he wouldn’t take care of the baby unless she got rid of her husband. He pushed her to press spousal rape charges on the husband so they could move on with their lives. He was convicted and she ended up with all marital assets, all because she wanted a new life with her boyfriend and their baby and didn’t want to lose him.

When she admitted it was a lie, I felt bad that he was convicted, but he was a pretty bad husband. He was even abusive at times. That’s why she cheated. But he’s innocent of the rape charge, which is what he was convicted of. What can I do? Should I tell someone? I don’t have actual proof and it might just make it worse. Should I mind my own business?

i have a friend who wants a divorce but he is afraid that his wife is going to take his animals away from him. can she do that? they don’t have kids so there will not be a custody dispute. but what i am wondering is if when they divorce and she gets half of everything does she have a legal right to the animals. is there any legal standings for pets? is it like it is with kids? are they part of marital assets. how does custody for animals work? i know that she can have half the everything like tv, car, house, stuff like that, but i am not sure about pets……..please help me with this one

We are Oregon residents and plaintiff discovered that prenuptial agreement states that wife is not entitled to extra $ for marital assets just the set amount that was written? Even though he signed and agreed to this settlement, he is angry he and his attorney (who wrote the original pre-nup) missed this detail. So he feels like he is getting screwed out of extra $ and is quite mad about it. Now a malpractice suit is being investigated on his attorney. Will this money be subtracted from my settlement? Or will his attorney’s insurance cover her mistake, or will it just stay as it is because we both signed? It was submitted to courts for Judge signature but I’m pretty sure was not signed by judge yet. Any knowledge on this?
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ok my stepfather just gave my mom a divroce notice because he wants a divorce and she has 20 days to respond to it. He wants her to use her maiden name and also wants to split the marital assets. However the reasons he gave for divorce are totally bs as my mom has evidence to disprove all of his reasons. He’s a real retard btw. He’s currently paying childsupport for 3 other kids, and my mom has 3 kids with him. 11 years old, 4 years old, and 1 year old. He makes more mone than my mom. A lot more I think. So my mom wants childsupport for the 3 kids, and she also wants him to keep them on his health insurance, and also wants to keep the house because she has the kids. Do you think she would get this. And also this guy is a complete asshole. My mom was doing a lot of running around around my grandfathers funeral and she was coming in late because everyday they had a "wake" at my grandfathers house which is basically a little get together before the funeral for friends and family and hes telling my mom why is she going to that when shes the host because its her grandfathers funeral. And he’s saying she’s roaming the streets when she’s trying to get everything together for her fathers funeral. And he even called his kid, the 11 year old a bitch, and a pussy, and the police had tos top by after the ruckus was heard. Tell me do you think my mom will get what she was asking for.