Which places would you suggest I learn to find how online dating can be used to find real love and not only sexual encounters?

After 16 years of marriage- Two years of of arguing and 3 months of sleeping in seperate rooms and things being really bad- I find myself in counseling (he promised my son he would try everything he could to make it work).

However, I have learned that
1. He loves me but doesn’t know if he is IN love with me (are we 12?)
2. He doesn’t feel an attraction towards me anymore- which is why he isn’t sure he is IN love with me.
3. He doesn’t like to talk much because when we do- (in his eyes) it always leads to a fight.

I KNOW he isn’t having an affair (yet anyway).

I work on the counseling assignments- he just flows through day to day- he barely even says hi and goodnight- could he just be pushing for me to be the one to leave- so that he doesn’t have to look like the bad guy and could say -well, I went to counseling, I tried?

Thanks all-

Sad Mama
I said ALOT were kids- not ALL for those who seem to be taking offense.
I’m sure…

I take VERY good care of myself. I am always well prepared (hair – makeup – clothes) . The one night I went to dinner by myself because I was angry- I had 4 different men come and talk to me. (No it wasn’t a bar).

My wife and I just recently agreed upon a trial separation. I could go into a lot of detail about it but i’ll just ask my question. She is the one who wanted to separate because she says she wasn’t happy with the way I treated her and my son. I don’t hit her, demean her, drink too much, stay out too late, and never cheat on her. It’s just some little issues that I think could had been worked out by trying but she said she has been unhappy for a long time with me. She never let me know this so I could try and fix it. I thought she was always happy. Anyways she has moved out and she told me she wasn’t in love with me anymore. She also told me that she woke up one morning and just felt like she would be happier on her own with her and just the baby. I ask her if she thinks the separation will help. And she says she doesn’t know and I have also asked her if she wants to get a divorce and she says no. She moved back home with her parents and took the child. She is trying to make a living back at home living with her parents so she can get her own place and just raise our son on her own. I help her out with child support since she is not in the same state anymore. I want us to work out especially for our child but just the same I want us to work out because I think we still have something together even though she does not see it.

My questions are:
1. How am I to know what she wants?
2. How long should I wait before moving on?
3. What are some questions I should ask her to see if she does want to get back besides the regular "will we ever get back together?"
4. We have been separated for about a month now. What should my next step be in my situation.

Thanks for the help.

Me and this girl broke up after 3 1/2 months. (I 29 she 25) Initially she told me that she lost the spark. She wanted to stay friends badly!. I kept asking her i wanted her back sweetly. We fought over the next 3 weeks about getting back. She said things like you cant force it, give it time, etc.. Then she started to call me a crazy person cause i persisted and i know i did. Last night i get a text from her telling me the reasons for a break up. My charm got old. She was no longer attracted to me cause she is outta my league, she felt i was buying her love and my asskising got sickening and now she says she will never be friends and wants nothing to do with me. I think i pushed her to far. Will she ever talk to me again. Has anyone ever had someone talk to them again after something like this. I really just wanted to stay friends. Saw her recently and she said hello. We tried to talk but she said she has nothing to say? The happened to her? She said she will regret the breakup. Why
I saw her this past weekend and we tried to talk, but she said she had nothing to say to me. We hang out at similar places and she talks to my friends. I treated her so well. She always told me how lucky she was to be "stuck" with me and i am the best. Told me she wanted to marry me etc.. have kids and all. All of a sudden you lose feelings. Makes no sense. She did just get out of a 2 1/2 yr verbally abusive relationship which ended in a restraining order, which I come to find out she has started to text him again, nothing more and the texting started while we were together, of course she denied, but I have proof. I guess i was a rebound or what. Do you guys think she just realized she didnt want to be in a relationship cause she was not ready?? Or was she just confused, she is a Gemini and I am a Pisces? Any advice on how I should deal with this?

Me and this girl broke up after 3 1/2 months. (I 29 she 25) Initially she told me that she lost the spark. She wanted to stay friends badly!. I kept asking her i wanted her back sweetly. We fought over the next 3 weeks about getting back. She said things like you cant force it, give it time, etc.. Then she started to call me a crazy person cause i persisted and i know i did. Last night i get a text from her telling me the reasons for a break up. My charm got old. She was no longer attracted to me cause she is outta my league, she felt i was buying her love and my asskising got sickening and now she says she will never be friends and wants nothing to do with me. I think i pushed her to far. Will she ever talk to me again. Has anyone ever had someone talk to them again after something like this. I really just wanted to stay friends. Saw her recently and she said hello. We tried to talk but she said she has nothing to say? The happened to her? She said she will regret the breakup. Why
I saw her this past weekend and we tried to talk, but she said she had nothing to say to me. We hang out at similar places and she talks to my friends. I treated her so well. She always told me how lucky she was to be "stuck" with me and i am the best. Told me she wanted to marry me etc.. have kids and all. All of a sudden you lose feelings. Makes no sense. She did just get out of a 2 1/2 yr verbally abusive relationship which ended in a restraining order, which I come to find out she has started to text him again, nothing more and the texting started while we were together, of course she denied, but I have proof. I guess i was a rebound or what. Do you guys think she just realized she didnt want to be in a relationship cause she was not ready?? Or was she just confused, she is a Gemini and I am a Pisces? Any advice on how I should deal with this?

It is more than that she also shows little love or affection for me. We have children and were filing for divorce (caught her trying to cheat) until she became disabled. I am at a point now I want to find someone in a similar situation for casual sex and I don’t know what to do.

I don’t like Valentines day,I don’t know why,anyway
What are your favorite love and romance movies that you love watching around Valentines Day to get you in the mood to have some fun at night?

I went online to look for someone to lie and have sex with. Unfortunately I found her. She had been hurt bad before and she was honest with me but I led her on. Even though I knew I never wanted a family I still lied. At that time I never even loved her enough to marry her but I led her along.

I lied to her from the begginning. She cried and begged for me to show her love, have sex with her love her but I was too selfish. In January, she found out that I was looking for other women online. I was saying mean things about her to total strangers. I have had sex with a woman but I have not told her that but she suspects it

Even after finding out the messages online, she set up to see a counselor, I was never honest so she said we just stop. She said I was embarassed by her weight but i denied, it was true. Meanwhile all this time the pain is building in her and in May she kicked me out of the house.

She asked for time but I never respected her. Instead I called everyday and cried and begged. I did not understand why she needed time. I honestly do not know why I was begging her because I am not sure if I love her otherwise I would not have treated herlike I did.

When she filed on Friday, she said I had hurt her so much than anyother man in her life. She is now on antidepressants and going to couselling. She said she had been talking to another man at work and nothing more and she says this is the best for both of us.

Meanwhile all weekend I have been thinking and realise I was a selfish evil man who never deserved her. She was a wonderful woman and so unfortunate that I met her. I cannot see why I should go on begging her to try our marriage because I am not sure if I really love her and if I can keep the promise not to hurt her.

Here is what this divorce has made me realise, at one time I knew how to love ut I got hurt by one girl and vowed to myself that I will never love anyone and I feel now I need to work on that. I dont know where to start and I’m afraid that I might even not be able to love again.

I do think that being away from her is the only way to know if I loved her on not and the only way to fix myself from the burdens I brought from the relationship I got hurt and subsiquently the dishonest and unfaithfulness.

I even gave her herpes and she forgave me. I am angry and cry when I think what I have done to her. She was genuine but I was dishonest from the start. All her dreams will not come to be because of my selfish inconsiderate behavior. At 30 yrs she wanted a kid and a family and now her married is over in just a year.

Please what should I do? How should I deal with this? I am hurting, For the fact that I am losing a phenominal woman, and the fact that I might never know how to love anagin and hurt another woman.

How to say happy valentines day my love in arabic in english writing?

Yet, still wants to play house. He got me to agree to refinance the house to lower our payment which was a success. Now, he wants to sell his truck and dump that payment and purchase an old car that will be paid for.

He tell me he is not pushing to work on us "YET" but, wants the debt paid and if he feels better when the debt is gone he will keep trying in the marriage. He always says he wants divorce yet throws me crumbs that give me hope that it won’t happen. I don’t get it? He says he loves, but not enough to be married. Yet he still has sex with me and I still take care of my duties around the house like its all normal. We have 3 kids and I am currently not working due too having an infant that is 7 months and day care is outrageous in cost. Plus, gas is high. Its cheaper if I am home. We are surving an affair that has been over for 14 months. Yet, he called his affair partner just to get back at me during a fight and said he did it on purpose to hurt me. WTF?!? Now he tells me if I wait for the debt to go away and he feels better about us then he would be happy, but if I don’t wait he is ok with that too. We’ve been through hell since I found out about the affair almost 2 years ago. I had a bed ridden pregnancy and she was 2 months premature and in the NICU for a month. He confessed his love for me on our front porch when she was coming home. I’ve still been working through the pain of infidelity and I am now at a place to give the marriage one more chance, but he says he is not in that place anymore and just wants our debt gone before he decides. He confuses the crap out of me. He wants us to join a gym together and he makes other future plans that he involves me in. But, he has filled out divorce papers himself and sits on it and wants me to fill out my side of it. I don’t want too. So is he cake eating or terribly confused??? He says we’ve done to much damage to each other over the years and that’s why he wants out. Yet, he cooks for me, talks to me kindly