My husband and I are going thru a divorce he left me with a 4 year old child and gives me only 300.00 monthly we own a few investment properties that my husband controls the tenants will only give him the rents I only have a small income legal aid wont help me at all I need help and the lawyers want money up front someone please help me my husband is trying to take everything from underneath me and he even told me this I have no family I only go to work and home my family was my life and I dont no where else to turn PLEASE HELP ME

We have finally finished negotiating our divorce settlement. We did nearly all the negotiations ourselves with some guidance from our separate lawyers. (we have a 52 pg prenuptial agreement that his current attorney wrote 7 years ago) We live in Oregon. The last paragraph in our prenup says that husband shall pay wife pre determined judgment amount (set amount per each yr of marriage) less 50% of marital assets. Well, neither he or his attorney who had written this paragraph caught on to this word "less" After we both signed, me on Wednesday and him on Thursday, Friday morning in an argument, I spewed out that his attorney is an idiot she didn’t even pay enough attention to her own writing bla bla. Well later that day when i saw him, he was FURIOUS! He says he has been cheated out of ,000 dollars, of it half of retirement valus for the 7 years, and he’ll make damn sure that his attorney recovers this for him through a malpractice suit. I have opened up a large can of worms with my big fat mouth. My attorney called me later that day and said there looks to be an investigation. His attorney says it was unethical of mine not to point out the error. But we really did the negotiating ourselves.. Does anyone know anything about this kind of thing. I feel like he has signed this thing that we worked out and was ok with it. Can it be undone. Please no comments about my loudmouth, I already know..
The man is wealthy, very wealthy and I raised his kids for 16 years. This mistake is nearly half of total settlement..Who in their right mind would have pointed this mistake out before hand?

There’s 2 properties, one worth 0k & the other worth k. The properties & my ex husband are in Alaska, I’m in Colorado with a disability, making it impossible for me to travel there & take care of things myself. They are in his name only. I do not have any knowledge of real-estate or property laws & I have been severely screwed over by my ex, his shyster lawyer & the divorce trial Judge already. I trust no one in the so-called "justice" system anymore.

My ex is supposed to sell the properties (that are considered marital assets) & he gets to pay off any & all of HIS debt with the proceeds, then whatever is left over, he is to give me 60%. But nothing is selling & he keeps adding all he wants to this so called debt. He now claims it is k & he has recently implied that I’m liable for half of it. Which I’m not. But he’s got a lawyer & judge in his back pocket & will do whatever it takes to screw me over yet again.

Well, he just made me an offer to settle, but I don’t like it, at all. Its sneaky & deceitful, just like him.

So, do I need a lawyer? What kind of lawyer should I get, a property lawyer or divorce lawyer, or something else? & which state should I look for one, Colorado or Alaska? I do not have any money to hire a great lawyer, not that I know how to find one anyways, & I know that lots of lawyers offer free consults, but will this be enough to get the legal advice I need? How do I find the right lawyer?

We have no children together & were married 21 years. My name is not on the properties, because he bought them as part of his business while we were married.

Any suggestions would be helpful. Thank you!

Let’s say me and my wife are thinking about our future, and we might get divorced…

If we get divorced now, we are in a messy battle.

But is there such thing as creating a contract/document that details the marital assets of each spouse in case there is a divorce?

Like…not a prenup, because we’re already married…but a nup…an agreement to safegaurd ourselves in case we get a divorce?

Thanks!
Wow, there sure are a lot of BS answers from non lawyers and people not even trying to understand what I’m asking.

I’m not asking IF she’ll sign it. I’m not asking SHOULD I have gotten a prenup…

I’m asking about a post nup…I didn’t know the name of it. It sounds like it is possible, and I will consult with an attorney.

My wife is the one who wanted a divorce, and now she is changing her mind. I don’t know if I want to trust her again, so I would rather sign a post nup to protect myself. If she loves me, and means what she says…that she doesn’t want my money, then she should be okay with it.

I want to hear from mens perspective and womens.

I want to hear from the person who originally thought it up
- how did you draw it up, how did you originally bring it up?
- what are the key points you chose to include?
- would you do it any differently?
- why did you do it? (insecurity in relationship, didn’t want to lose your life’s work or sacrifices you had made to accumulate a house, business etc)

And from the person who had it brought to them:
- what did you think when your partner showed it to you?
- had it already been discussed or was it a surprise?
- was it easy to swallow or did it make you bitter they would ask you to sign it?
- was there anything specifically included that you really didn’t like or was an issue?
- did it change the relationship or your view of your lover
- how did you go about interpretting it
- did they read it to you and explain it or just give it to you and tell you to read it on your own?
- did you bring it to a lawyer to have it reviewed?
- did you ask to change anything in it?
- was there a negotiation process to having anything changed and how did it work, was it just you and your hubby talking it over together or did you both draw it up on paper first and hand your terms back & forth until you could agree? were there lawyers involved in negotiations?

Background info:
I have worked hard to get where I am, love my family, but do want to protect myself should things take a turn down an unexpected road. Also, I am having trouble bringing up the idea of a prenup, and would rather not do one if we don’t need to because I don’t want to "doom" our wonderful relationship ( we have been through a lot, she has overcame drinking problems, debt lifestyle, etc and now we live within our means and now enjoy a somewhat simpler life). I want to build our life together and have that take precedence. But also make sure I don’t lose all I’ve worked for should something happen.

***Even More Notes(for those of you who really want to know)***
I love my partner, will always be 100% faithful and do plan on spending the rest of my life with them. I want to get married, but we have had relationship issues (fine now) and am worried that if I don’t get something in writing then I could wind up having to support them. Heaven forbid that were to happen I have no qualms about paying my my fair share to make sure the kids have what they need! But I wouldn’t want to have to support an ex who chose not to work.

I am mainly worried about my real estate (that I do not own at this point but the deed is in my name and we live there now with our children). It’s only one house at this point, that has been bought while we were together in our relationship but 100% by me – I pay the mortgage and don’t ask for any rent (it seems silly even saying that!). For all intensive purposes – we are married and I work/ support the family while they raise the family and do not work. We live in a state where cohabitation is not a common law. How do prenups deal with one partner choosing to stay home and raise the children? Is the law in most states such that partner who stays home supposed to be compensated by the other partner?

Parter does not have great credit (amassed debt before our relationship) and I do not want to be responsible for that though maybe theres no way around that – I have helped them pay this down a little at a time. I do plan on buying more houses as a part time real estate business – owner occupied duplexes and such and then renting them out, but as they are owner occupied would my partner qualify as part owner if we were to get married and then split up even though her name isn’t on the mortgage?

My husband and I have one child together, we don’t own a home, or even an apartment, we live with his parents. I have all the money, he doesn’t have a job. I just want to know if everything goes smoothly and we agree on simple terms with our daughter what will the cost be. I keep my stuff he keeps his stuff. No issues just a plain divorce with no lawyers. What do you think it would cost?

My wanted a divorce after being married for 3 months. She treated me horribly and I left after we had been married for 7 months. I literally begged her crying to keep our marriage together. I went to her parents and asked them for help in keeping our marriage together.

My wife insisted that her mind was made up and she wanted a divorce. Her parents supported and financed her filing for divorce. Her parents even helped her conspire to file a restraining order against me and prevent me from seeing my baby.

After fighting through the restraining order and eventually winning 50/50 custody she began delaying the divorce proceedings. She changed lawyers 3 times and delayed submitting documents requested by my lawyer.

A year into the divorce proceedings she decided that she wanted to hold off on the divorce and try to work things out.

This doesn’t make sense to me. She got child support even though we have 50/50 custody and similar incomes. After we have invested a combined ,000 in legal fees she wants to hold off on the divorce when we can just end it now. We don’t have any marital assets and the marital debt is less than 00 and it was all incurred by me.

Can someone please explain this to me?

one of my family recently founded out that she was cheated by her husband. They are in divorce proceeding right now, and her husband wanted to claim half of marital assets, even though about 90% of their joint asset are earned by her. While it’s true under the law he is entitled to half of everything they own, she feel given the fact that he cheated, he should at least be apologetic (which he is definitely not right now, in fact, he has just moved that uber classy other woman into the house they shared and flaunt the whole thing right in front of her) and only take away what he put into the marriage. anyway, she is feeling really hurt and angry right now and she is thinking about fighting him in court, even if it means she’ll used up all her remaining resources. While i can relate to and understand what she is feeling right now, i honestly donut think that a good idea, as the likelihood of her winning is small, and the only people that will be laughing by the end the this is her lawyers, is there a good way for me to help her let go of the hurt she is experiencing and allow her get into a state where she could make objective decisions that is best for her?

2 1/2 years ago, my soon to be ex leaves me and the kids. throughout these past years i and the kids have gone through the grieving process of the loss of the marriage and family. while getting through this with the help of counseling and support groups, i’ve come to the impression that once a person has decided to up and leave; unbeknownst to their significant others, they have already gone through the grieving process to the point that once they leave, they are in fact "done" and "gone". running with that thought, i have presently come to a state of confusion as to why, since the time my soon to be ex has filed for divorce (aug. of 2007), he has become more angry and hostile. many of you are probably assuming it has to do with the "mess of a divorce". well our lawyers compliment us on how easy we are to work with because we are reasonable, nice, and not coming into it all with "things up our sleeves". i stay out of his life except for the kids. yet he tries to be all over mine.

my brother wants to file for an emergency custody for his daughter. will the court need to inspect the house? what are the procedures for this? are there any lawyers out there who’s specialty is child custody & wouldn’t mind giving me some FREE information? =)

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!