Alright, so my story needs a lot of detail. And please, I’m looking for thoughtful, long-ish answers, I created this account just for this question haha…

My boyfriend and I have been going for almost 10 months. But the thing is, we’ve gone out before (3 months), but he broke up with me (and this was during the beginning of 2011). But around June, he finally told me that he’d regretted his decision almost ever since he broke up with me. Now, I was going out with another guy at this time, but I broke up with him to be with this guy again. We started going that last summer; it was the summer before we both went off to college. The first three-ish months were great, we were both really happy.

But I guess life got in the way. College got in the way, my jealousy got in the way, my feelings that college was totally not what I had expected got in the way; it caused me to take it out on him and this probably butchered our relationship. My boyfriend is the sweetest guy, and I really mean it. He’s chivalrous and kind, and funny and smart, but he’s also shy and not really talkative. I’m kind of the same way, so our personalities don’t mix well.

Now that I’m back home for summer vacation, I feel like it would be a good time to break it off now that I’m with my close friends again – I really would need their support if we really ended it. The reason why I’m thinking of breaking up with him is because during my year at college, I was probably the most depressed than I have been in my entire life over one person. I didn’t understand why I was feeling this sad/unhappy/emotionally exhausted/crying all the time over such a sweet person. Neither of us were doing anything wrong (and don’t even mention the cheating thing. He would never.), but the year was just…terrible. So I want to breakup really soon, just to save both of us, I get the feeling that he’s not really happy anymore in this relationship, despite him being the one who wanted to start the relationship in the first place. But (and I hate to bring fb into this because it’s such a dumb reason), when I see other girls post on his wall, my heart starts breaking and my resolve to do anything falters, and I know this feeling is just going to worsen after the breakup.

Even though I’m the one breaking it off (and it’s probably only because we’re both really stubborn and don’t want to hurt each other, so I have to take the initiative), I’m still going to be the one who’s hurt more.

Can you guys please help me/give me advice on how to cope with a breakup?

I have had some experiences that have made me incredibly jealous while in a relationship with somebody. My jealousy has been the main reason my past two relationships have ended. After my last one ended I realized it isn’t the girl’s fault, it is mine. Is there any kind of free counseling I can receive to find the root cause and eventually fix this problem so I can have a healthy relationship?

Ok this may be a little long, but how can anyone really give me good advice unless i tell the whole story.LOL.

Ok so I am 26 my ex BF is 32. SO we are not youngsters by any mean.
We have been together for about 2 and a half years, yes we have had our ups and downs nothing major by any means for the most part we have got along really good. There has always been some jealousy issues on both sides unfortunately but that’s just who we are I guess. Well to try and make a long story short, I got laid off back in December and money has been very tight. I have been very actively seeking other employment but its been very hard with the economy the way it is. So anyways while being at home all day everyday pretty much..My Bf has not liked it much at all. He had complained a little about me not having ALL the laundry done, and not like cleaning all day everyday. Apparently that’s what he expects me to do considering im not working. I will tell you my house is never dirty or a mess. I keep it very clean! No i do not scrub floors daily but honestly i don’t feel its necessary! Honestly his problem is that i am on the computer a lot and he is jealous or something i don’t know. SO needless to say 3 weeks ago he just came out and told me he no longer wants a relationship. I was in shock…we were not fighting or anything! And like i said we hardly fight. But after many talks etc..He basically tells me hes sick of being taking for granted. He is blaming it on himself cus he says this always happens to him in every relationship hes ever had because he just gives 100% and ends up getting walked all over. And i honestly do see that i did take him fro granted in some ways so i know where hes coming from. Although i begged and pleaded that i would change and make things better and he says "no" he just does not want a relationship he wants to be alone bla bla bla. BUT he wants me to stay as long as i want and we can be friends/roommates. SO i stay here and its almost still like we are bf and gf. We cuddle at night, eat dinner together, share the same bed, still have sex together etc.. He even still buys me anything i need or want, takes me to dinner etc…So i am just really confused right now…and dont know what i should be doing. I can say that i am now doing a lot more around the house like he had asked me to do before, i am basically waiting on him hand and foot now to just show him that i truly am sorry and he is right i did take him for granted.

Although also in the mean time i am also doing little things to make him jealous..which some may say childish but im so hurt..i dont know what other choices i have at this point. Him and I both have our own myspace pages and last week i changed my relationship status to single, and excepted add requests from random guys. And wow he cought on to that one quick..he went in his and changed his to single and started adding a bunch of girls..I dont know if he did it because i had or if thats just what he truly wanted to do. He also added this girl i have really disliked for along time (ex co worker of mine) and i kind of feel he did it to make me mad..SO anyways needless to say its like when i act all strong and make him think im moving on, he gets all jealous and mad, He even tells me it bothers him, but he still will not give in and take me back! I just dont get it. Hes just so stuck on the "i don’t want to be in a relationship right now, and I dont know for how long i may feel this way." Anyone have any advice at all. If you need any other details to maybe help you answer this question any better feel free to email me also. nikki_0982@yahoo.com

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I didn’t want to post this in the singles/dating forum because I don’t get "mature" responses.

Anyway, I’ve been dating (very rocky and shaky) my bf for almost a year. The relationship started out rocky. However, we do have some common grounds. We enjoy each others company, we can joke, laugh and talk to each other, etc. Pretty much have fun with eat other – like friends.
When it comes to the relationship, we don’t see eye to eye on things. Don’t want to go into details but sometimes it can get pretty intense. I think we are both at a point where we spend so much time trying to be right and not compromising.

Some issues that have happened are some serious issues that causes a lot of strain on the relationship, a lack of trust on both parts, jealousy, and drama.
The last issue that we had was a pretty intense. So I told him in order for us to be together that you need to go to counseling. I only said this because he said that he wants to change his life because he’s tired of the path that he’s going down. I’ve in counseling myself so I know how affective it is.
I was told that IF he does decide to go that I need to atleast go to some sessions with him to learn how to deal with our relationship and to get rid of the past thinking and ways of how I handle him in the relationship.

My question is isn’t it too early in a relationship to get counseling since we’ve only been dating for almost a year?

PLEASE READ THE ENTIRE POST BEFORE RESPONDING.

I didn’t want to post this in the singles/dating forum because I don’t get "mature" responses.

Anyway, I’ve been dating (very rocky and shaky) my bf for almost a year. The relationship started out rocky. However, we do have some common grounds. We enjoy each others company, we can joke, laugh and talk to each other, etc. Pretty much have fun with eat other – like friends.
When it comes to the relationship, we don’t see eye to eye on things. Don’t want to go into details but sometimes it can get pretty intense. I think we are both at a point where we spend so much time trying to be right and not compromising.

Some issues that have happened are some serious issues that causes a lot of strain on the relationship, a lack of trust on both parts, jealousy, and drama.
The last issue that we had was a pretty intense. So I told him in order for us to be together that you need to go to counseling. I only said this because he said that he wants to change his life because he’s tired of the path that he’s going down. I’ve in counseling myself so I know how affective it is.
I was told that IF he does decide to go that I need to atleast go to some sessions with him to learn how to deal with our relationship and to get rid of the past thinking and ways of how I handle him in the relationship.

My question is isn’t it too early in a relationship to get counseling since we’ve only been dating for almost a year?

I need counseling about my jealousy I can’t live with this I just thinking that one day that my wife is going to cheat with my brother .
She says that she love I know that she is saying the true.

My question is that if I go to counseling do they share their information or is separate

I didn’t want to post this in the singles/dating forum because I don’t get "mature" responses.

Anyway, I’ve been dating (very rocky and shaky) my bf for almost a year. The relationship started out rocky. However, we do have some common grounds. We enjoy each others company, we can joke, laugh and talk to each other, etc. Pretty much have fun with eat other – like friends.
When it comes to the relationship, we don’t see eye to eye on things. Don’t want to go into details but sometimes it can get pretty intense. I think we are both at a point where we spend so much time trying to be right and not compromising.

Some issues that have happened are some serious issues that causes a lot of strain on the relationship, a lack of trust on both parts, jealousy, and drama.
The last issue that we had was a pretty intense. So I told him in order for us to be together that you need to go to counseling. I only said this because he said that he wants to change his life because he’s tired of the path that he’s going down. I’ve in counseling myself so I know how affective it is.
I was told that IF he does decide to go that I need to atleast go to some sessions with him to learn how to deal with our relationship and to get rid of the past thinking and ways of how I handle him in the relationship.

My question is isn’t it too early in a relationship to get counseling since we’ve only been dating for almost a year?
IF YOU’RE NOT GOING TO READ THIS ENTIRE POST, PLEASE DON’T RESPOND TO IT. ALSO, I DON’T NEED TO GO INTO DETAILS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU CAN’T ANSWER MY QUESTION BASED OFF OF WHAT I PROVIDED, THEN THIS IS NOT FOR YOU TO ANSWER!!!
BTW DATING NORMALLY LEADS TO MARRIAGE THAT’S WHY PEOPLE DATE. PLEASE GET A CLUE PEOPLE!!!
SO I TAKE IT THAT MOST OF YOU ARE NOT READING THIS COMPLETELY. I SUGGEST COUNSELING FOR HIM BECAUSE HE SAID HE WANTED TO CHANGE HIS LIFE. I WAS TOLD BY SOMEONE THAT I SHOULD GOT TO SOME OF HIS SESSIONS WITH HIM. I DIDN’T FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH THE IDEA BECAUSE OF THE TENURE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. WE ARE NOT GOING TO COUNSELING FOR OUR RELATIONSHIP. IT WAS SUGGESTED THAT I NEEDED TO GO TO A FEW IF HE WAS GOING TO DEAL WITH HIS ISSUES IN ORDER FOR ME TO LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM ON THE DIFFERENT POSITIVE LEVEL THEN WHAT I’M USE TO IN ORDER FOR US TO BE ON THE SAME PAGE!!!!
First of, I’m appreciative of any advice that people give. It doesn’t mean that I have to agree with it.

The frustration lies in the misunderstanding of my post. May be I wasn’t too clear on what I wanted to say because at the time I posted this, I was very upset. Personally, I think that its too soon – after a year dating. I should have conveyed that in the post. For some reason the post has been misunderstood that I have suggested counseling for the relationship. When that’s not the case. I suggested for him. To deal with HIS ISSUES. I know how effective counseling is – trust me. So I was told once he started counseling to go with him to some of his sessions with him so that I can handle how to deal with the new person and also our issues in the relationship – if we want the relationship to work.

If this message didn’t come through like that, then I apologize to aid in the confusion.

I’m a 16 year old girl and I just have so many issues in my relationship and I know that all the issues are mine, not his. From trust issues to jealousy issues to feeling mad at him because I can’t address the real problems in my life. I even feel myself get grumpy when I know that he’s out having fun without me. I never act on or voice any of these thoughts or feelings because I know that they’re irrational and stupid. But in my heart I just want him to be happy. And I want to feel happy. I know that there’s nothing wrong with him and that it’s all me. But I just can’t stop myself…it’s how I’ve watched my mom be with my dad my whole life. I don’t want to be like this.

Should I get help? I feel really insecure.

My significant other and I are both dealing with feelings of insecurity and jealousy over one another, which automatically leads us to the subject of infidelity. Are there any spiritual or new age books that help with this subject? I’m not exactly interested in a religious point-of-view, but more of a self-help or psychological book that unravels the egotism behind these topics.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. Fights here and there, jealousy issues with me. So on, and so forth. My question is; has couples’ counseling worked for you?
What would I be looking at money wise?