Hi there, so to make a long breakup-story short, I dated my ex in highschool for 2-2.5 years, we went to italy together, talked about everything, the whole shebang – not without problems, but who isnt. So I moved to her school of choice 500 km away from home to be with her, (In september), and just this Jan. I caught her cheating, she lied, strung me along, and then I caught her again and she basically told me that she never wants to see or speak to me ever again, and that she’d be happy if that happened….

Aside from making me cry, I got the message and its been about a month or so since weve spoken. But I get really tense about the situation and have conflicting feelings – on one hand whenever I think I might see her I get butterflies (not the good kind) and I start to feel kinda sick … on the other hand, sometimes I think about what she’s done and it makes me disgusted with her actions and the way shes treated me – and the on the other hand, sometimes I really really want her back – and I feel like such an idiot for it but its true …

Does anyone have any advice for me? Its pretty difficult to deal with this stuff, … I dunno … Maybe if you have your own story? Ive never gotten an apology from her for anything, so that kinda hurts too …

Two US citizens got married in Italy, but never filed marriege in the US. Now we are trying to figure out the fastest way to file a divorce. Would that be filing a divorce in California where we both reside? In such a case, do we still have to divide our assets and property into half?

Please i need some women’s advice?

Im in a relationship with a girl with whom I have a lot of history … shes not a one time thing, and we’ve been through quite a bit together. We went to Italy together when we were younger, sat on a rock ledge in Assisi (that no one else found) and stared off into the mountains, talking about how much we loved eacother, etc. I care about the relationship very much. I am a young guy, and I moved 500 km away from my family to go to school with her. Also, we’ve both made minor mistakes in the past, but we both forgive eachother for them.

We get along very well, but recently she has been less interested in me, and more interested in one of her friends (a guy she just met). She told me that he knew about me, so I figured that I wouldnt get all crazy about them being friends and hanging out once in a while. But I found out two weeks ago that she made out with him, and that she told him i was a boyfriend from a long time ago. She then came to me, explained what had happened, and bawled her eyes out (she seemed genuinely sorry). So I said that she needed to delete him from her phone and from her life, and that, although Im really sad and angry, I can forgive her .. it will just take a while for our trust to build again. Everybody makes mistakes, right? And it was a spur-of-the-moment thing, so I cant just leave everything we’ve ever had just for that.

But then (just a couple of nights ago) she told me that we needed to take a break … she told me that she feels pressured by our relationship (which ill admit is probably true), and that she needs some time alone to think about what she did and decide on whether I am the right person for her. I understand this, and I have no problems with giving her time, but I dont know what to do. I did largely lean on her for emotional support (being away from my family and all), but now she doesnt want to talk to me for a while. So its tough …

What do you think is my best course of action? I really do love this girl (we have great chemistry and she has a great personality), and I want our love to work out, above all else. Do you think that she needs some time alone to get her head around things, or is she just trying to soften the blow of dumping me?

Also, can you think of any ways to get her back? I think the one thing about this other guy is that hes more aesthetically pleasing than me. Im a pretty fit guy (cute, even lol ), so Its not like im an ugly duckling here. Ive always been nice to her, it just seems as if shes gone astray at the moment. I guess what im asking is, what is the best way to get her to "want" me again? Im not a girl, so I dont exactly understand how their minds work – but she desired me up until a few weeks ago.

sorry about all the writing! im just going a little nutso here …

b.t.w., I think that (as its her first year of university) shes just caught in a bit of a "stupid-rut" right now. Im a nice guy, and this other guy is a dick. He smokes, drinks a lot, and is sure to break her heart. We have been together for 2+ years, and I just want her to see that I love her the most!!

I’m a father, in the military and stationed in Italy, my son is with his mother and according to the agreement made in court we have joint custody and it was agreed that I would pay for travel to and from where I’m stationed. In accordance with the agreement I’m supposed to submit plans for when I would like my son in advance and pay any travel expenses. Lately however, my ex has been saying the complete opposite and telling me that I need to stay in the area where my son lives with her. In the past when I have stayed there in the area she calls 3 to 4 times a day upsetting our son and making it difficult to keep our son from getting upset. She blames this on me and tells me that I should not take him. She has in the past not stuck to the agreement to the point where every time I want our son I have to go through my lawyer in order to get him. I wonder if anyone else has this problem? Has any1 lost custody 4 violating visitation orders w/out having to go thru custody battles?

I know Philippines is a Catholic country but Italy has a divorce law where Rome is located.

Consider this: our country is only one of two–the other Malta–which do not have a divorce law. Even Spain, Italy, and Latin American (catholic) countries already have divorce laws. The Catholic Church, even in very special cases (especially those who can afford the cost) allows a divorce.

We do have Art. 36 of the Family Code, referring to psychological incpacity as ground for annulment. Note, its annulment, not divorce… there’s a big whale of difference. So far, that’s the way out for couples, and many had to invent, and worse concede to transgressions just to establish the presence of psychological incapacity. And it costs a lot, too.

What idealogy led to the unification of Germany, Italy and caused the breakup of the Ottoman Empire?