my boy friend just left for college and we broke up. i want to make a change. lol i know it’s steroetypical but i don’t care. also, wheres a good place to meet new people?

We have been legally separated for almost 10 months now. We have an 8 and 9 years old. My ex was emotionally abusive to me. He was not much of an interactive father but he was good to the kids. We have a parenting plan in place but he uses that time to play games with me on scheduling and not picking kids up on time or being late at drop off. He also uses that time to leave me multiple voice mails about the past (venting) also saying bad things to me about me. He sends me pics of girls he is dating, etc… I don’t care about any of that. I just want him to stick with the schedule with the kids and leave me out of it. He says he can’t be a father unless he has contact with me. We go around and around about this. I end up blocking his phone, it is very peaceful. Then he want to start seeing kids again, I unblock his phone to communicate about kids, and the abuse starts again through voice mail and text. I block his phone and we keep doing this over and over again. He wants to go to my son’s b-day party and I told him maybe. Then the pick up and drop off went soar again this weekend. So I told him no, I don’t feel comfortable with you there. Now he is AGAIN threatening to walk out of the kid’s lives. He does have my son on Wed, which is his actually b-day. He can do something fun with kids instead of him always wanting to be in my plans, because he doesn’t know how to be a dad. He did it through me for 9 years.

My question is: My son wants dad to go to b-day, but I struggle because I don’t want to take a chance of him doing or saying something to upset me in front of family and friends. Should I take the chance for him to be there for my son?

Okay I’ve posted a question like this twice now and I keep getting "why break up with her if she’s so great?"

I want to break up with her because I want to break up with her. I don’t care about her the way she cares about me and I don’t love her the way she loves me and I don’t want her as much as she wants me.

I can’t keep dating someone when all I can think when I’m with her is, "I have to break up with her… I have to break up with her… I have to break up with her…"

Personally I support it because if you look to the middle east you can see that theocracies do not work and are riddled with sectarian violence.

Please, no rambling about how it’s not in the constitution, I don’t care, I’m not asking about the legality, I’m asking about the spirit.

I just want to know how you feel about the spirit of separation of church and state and why.

Okay well I’m 14 and I wanna lose 5 pounds (if I don’t I don’t care). But my love handles really annoy me because when I wear pants they look huge and the pants aren’t even tight around the waist (i wear skinny jeans but they aren’t tight around the waist). Do you have any advice on how to get rid of them. I’m a vegetarian and I play basketball softball as well as gymnastics.