My husband and I have a terrible relationship with his sons mother, we try so hard to have a positive relationship with her but she does everything she can to keep the relationship negative.

the child is 5 and his father and i have been married since he was 2 … our relationship is great, he loves me with all his heart he calls me his second mommy, he doesn’t remember a time when i was not in his life.

she treats her sons father like he is a piece of crap who doesnt deserve to be in his sons life

( keep in mind he has been in his sons life since day one, pays 200% more child support then he is required to monthly and has for the last 3 years, for the first 2 years he paid the required amount in full every month tho, he has his son the last 3 weekends in the month and has liberal access during the week that he uses to see his son 4 days a week for 2 or more hours after school. he is very involved with his education he does his home work with him 2 nights a week and speaks to his teacher about his progress once a week, he calls him every night at 7:30 to ask him about his day and say good night.. and so much more but i want to get to the point of my question)

she just feels with all her heart that the child is HER child and nobody can say anything to her… she wont even be civil with us for the childs sake she refuses to communicate and when we try she only starts arguments… we have resorted to keeping all communication strictly to email, and she still starts arguments over email ….we do not take the arguments personally and we DO NOT FULE HER IN ARGUMENTS … my husband and i both agree to never let her upset us to the point that we argue back, when she is rude and rambunctious we stay polite and calm…emails really help with that because it gives us the time to relax and reply appropriately.

SO that brings me to my question …. is there relationship counselling for the 3 of us to go to so we can work on our relationship?

at least so we can get to the point that we can be in the same room…
what happens if the child is in the hospital its like we cant go because his mother will make a scene
or at his wedding or graduation…

so she has filed for sole custody we are in the process of filing our response and i thought it might be a good idea to ask the court to order some kind of relationship counselling

im not saying i want to be her best friend or anything but the 3 of us need to be able to communicate simple messages at the least right?

what kind of counselling should i request?
you clearly did not understand the question …. WHO said he was a player .. and WHO said he was not raising his child … he NEVER cheated on any body … they dated for 10 years then when she got pregnant she broke up with him saying she wasn’t ready for a serious relationship AFTER he proposed 2 times … he did everything he could to keep there relationship together including going to relationship concealing and she said no .. she just didnt want to be in a relationship .. she has been single since then .. not even gone on one date… i put all that effort in to giving details of the situation so you would understand that he is a GOOD father who is there for his son every day … what part of
HE CALLES HIM EVERY NIGHT AT 7:30
HE HAS HIM EVERY WEEKEND BUT THE FIRST WEEKEND IN THE MONTH
HE PAYES 200% MORE CHILD SUPPORT THEN REQUIRED
HE PICKS HIM UP 4 NIGHTS A WEEK TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER
not to mention they where completely broken up before i met him and he told me about his son an
HOME WORK FOR A 5 YEAR OLD:
every night he has a book to read, the parents are required to fill out a form about how he did with the book, eg: to hard/ to easy /had trouble with 4 letter words /or what ever the comments you might have
work sheets:
eg, colour all the rectangles yellow, draw 5 squares, trace the rectangles THINGS OF THAT NATURE
he has a numbers book, a shapes book and a letters book all with multiple work sheets and he is required to do a specific number every night
ALSO he is in tutoring and his tutor gives him various assignments … eg; find 3 things in your house that look like a square … and so on
PLUS he has flash cards for letters and number that we do every weekend
maybe the education system is different in your country .. im in ontario canada
ALSO he started school when he was 3 years old .. he went to a private school he wore the cute little sweater vest and everything … he had a year of pre school when he was 3, then a year of junior kindergarden at 4 and now he is in kindergarden at 5 .. and its his first year in public school … next year will be grade 1 and he will be 6 and im sure the home work will continue

For a project, I have to decorate a Valentine’s Day card. I need some new ideas besides cutting out a heart.

How do u tell your 15 yr. old son that u want to divorce his Dad without him hating you?Are there any good online support groups?for my son and myself?where do i go when i dont have a job?Im 49 and have never had to work,but to raise my kids. Im scared and just want someone to open up their heart to me as i have suffered my entire life.I need some positive advise and soon as im giving up…..

Well there’s this guy (were both 17) and when i first moved to my new high school everyone hated him. He was called emo and cutter, on my first day (which was three years ago) I got a English partner assignment. Nobody wanted to be partners with Danny So I said I’d be his partner. We became like best friends and he told me everything, he told me why he used to cut himself and how people know he cut himself. Now he is happy and were still best friends but something happened yesterday. I was over his house and we were in his room and I was singing how to touch a girl by jojo but I stopped singing after the first chorus because he was stroking my cheek and feeling my heart. We kissed and ‘it’ just happened (we had protected sex with a condom). He told me he loved me and i feel the same way but I just can’t forget what we did. I’m a Christian and wanted to keep my virginity till marriage but I don’t even know how this all happened.

How do I repent for this sin? (like what should I say and can I just ask for forgiveness from home or do I have to confess in the church?)

Please help me

First off,please no bashing and don’t suggest counseling-been there done that. I know I have issues …Am legally separated but he is still in the picture,for the kids. I am nurse,surprised that I’m codependent-ha!ha! Husband of 11 yrs, unemployed more than not-currently working.He got into crack,bankrupted us,in and out of rehab 3 times.A week in jail a yr ago finally helped set him straight,I think he’s been clean since.While using(this has been a 5 yr ordeal) he got physically and even more verbally abusive(always was arrogant).I started drinking to kill the pain/cope( I know better… but everywhere I turned to for support backfired on me and…. he is a great b.s.’er,so cops and everyone thinks he is wonderful.Went to Salvation Army when he tried to strangle me,they threatened to take away my kids…) I have had the same fulltime job for 11 yrs,but most of my friends are gone due to down sizing.My kids all have been in counseling and are happy that dad is"clean" and mostly being nice now,so at the last min I stopped the divorce and kept separation.I can’t help but resent him,afraid he’ll relapse,afraid of his temper,refuse to confide in him cuz he uses anything I say in confidence,against me.Threatened me and family when I filed for the D.Dad is real sick,so I won’t leave the area. He just can’t understand that intellectually I KNOW he is trying,but my heart and fear hold me back from trusting. Whacked isn’t it? Are there support groups on line that are completely confidential that he can’t track?? Thanks

My boyfriend is at training right now before he deploys next month. I want to get him something for valentines day, but I have absolutely no idea what. Since he’s away I’ll have to send it, and it can’t be anything too big because he’ll have to take it with him when he gets deployed. Please help because I’m totally clueless here.
He is away at training right now and I probably won’t be able to see him again before he leaves for Iraq. And though I do like the sex idea, it just isn’t a possibility right now.
I realize that he’s getting deployed soon, and a nice knife or gun would be helpful to him, but it IS valentines day so I would like it to be something that’s at least a little bit romantic or from the heart.

On a scale of 1 – 10 (10 being absolutley crushed)
I honesty think in my heart if you can’t trust each other enough to know they aren’t trying to get with you for your money than maybe you really shouldn’t be marrying each other

Yesterday, I went with my boss to Dinner and a movie, In my heart I know I shouldnt have. Im married with a lil girl.
Well during the movie in the theaters, we ended up kissing and few other things, Well the next morning , I went to his house, my hubby was asleep. We ended up messing around.
(Note :My hubby and i Been having problems for awhile.)
This morning I ended up asking if me and my lil girl can stay with him, he said sure. After I left and went home, I was 2seconds tellin my hubby it was over. But chickened out, afraid of the unknown with this boss. Well I tried all day to contact the guy I asked if I could stay with him. He totally blowed me off, and when I did see him later ,he acted like a prick, When I yelled hey why dont u answer ur phone , we went to my car and he got on to me for yelling that ,(he dont want anyone to hear) First time ever said that to me. (shocked)
Well he told me he catch me later, He blowed me off again, wouldnt answer his phone, wouldnt return my calls,

I havent told my hubby what happened, it would hurt him so bad, I still love my hubby with all my heart,
I feel used by this other guy, disrespected, cause for months i thought his intentions were good, But I found out they werent today, I gave in to temptation and I lost.

30 mins ago i called again, asking u arent going to say anything bout yesterday and this morning? he said, what i do is my buisness, who im gonna tell. He was very cold towards me.

Of all the guilt thats eating me up, cant eat,or even rest , threw up 2 times. I did tell my hubby I cant work at my job anymore, and my hubby asked why, what happened, all I said is well he hit on me. My hubby isnt gonna do anything cause I asked him not to.

Right now im at total loss. Was my boss’s intentions towards me ever good? What should i do, to make things right or better without losing my marriage over this mistake.

If you and your boyfriend (or girlfriend) broke up on what were not amicable terms (I was pissed because he broke up with me on AIM) and he says "I’ll still be here if you need me," but you decide we’re broken up and I cannot have to need someone more than they need me. But he decides about 5 months later to send me an e-mail saying how much he hated our relationship after about 5 months, and we went out for 11 months. So you respond and he sends you another crappy e-mail, telling you about crap that you never even knew about, and then says that he never wants to talk to you again and that you should never contact him again. Then a month after that he says "I forgive you, I have no more hate for you in my heart." Should I even dignify him with a response.

7 years ago I went through a divorce. It was war and it was Hell! It took me months before i could even function again. I couldn’t so much as do the laundry anymore for weeks on end. I would lock myself in the place i rented for days and days hoping I would die or something but I didn’t. God took me through that hard process of deep inner healing. Its been 7 years now.
I called my daughtor and she cries out in my ear things that just rip a dad’s heart out. things a little girl doesn’t normally know but are fed to her by a bitter ex!

Now, my friends are trying so hard to "fix" me up. I( am afraid to allow another woman get her "claws" into me again. its scary! They all play headgames.

So what would you all do in my situation. I’ve already joined a divorce care support group for people like me who have survived divorce.
Life isn’t balanced. I’ve gone from job to job, haven’t slept well in years. I mean its a real struggle. So what would you do if you were me?
In the divorce care support group I go to we have 2 rules.
1. No dating in the group. The most common mistake made after a fresh divorce is to get into another relationship before you are completly healed or on the rebound. Its not healthy.
2. Whats said in the group stays in the group. So the suggestion of finding a lady in the group is out! Way out! But it has helped me to see those who have just gone through divorce and relate with them offering some help for them. Thats been nice and they appreciate the shoulder to lean on, but no one gets romantically attatched. Thats a rule! Its for our protection, besides, do I want to face an angry ex husband who may have a gun? No way!!!