My daughter n-law told me she wants to divorce my son who’s a soldier currently serving overseas in Iraq now. Actually she wants a legal seperation. Why? No kids, don’t own home yet. whew! why now over the internet & not tell him 3 mo ago before he left? or wait until fall when he gets home? He’s clearly very upset by this. She claimed other soldiers including other members of her family she talked too thought she should tell him now before he gets home. I disagree Concerned he wont be focused on his duties which could affect all there safety & can’t do anything about it until he’s back home. Any good advice? gets 10pts.

I was married for 18 years,suddenly my wife said that she did not love me any more. We have two teenagers and I love them with all my life, we been separated now 3 years and she is now giving me hints, I feel she wants me back in her life. I trully need some good advice.

my boyfriend and i plan to get married after college before we go into the military together. it’s really the only option if we want to be together but we are so committed to each other, and have a wonderful, amazing, loving relationship.
we love each other so much, and realize that a young marriage can be difficult, especially paired with a stressful military lifestyle

my boyfriend and i were talking about our upcoming junior year, and he mentioned that he really wants to get closer, make our relationship stronger, and just become more emotionally prepared to start a marriage (you can tell how serious he takes this)

we go on a lot of dates, and share a lot of things together, but i was wondering if anyone has any advice to prepare for marriage, strengthen out relationship even more, or even advice for a younger couple starting out.

we basically just want to go into our marriage with a great foundation to build upon.

thank you all for you positive advice, and just take note that no, we are not too young to get married, yes we do have stable jobs and finances set up, yes we love each other, and that we recognize that marriage takes a lot of work and is not easy. all we want is some good advice before we take this huge step.

thank you all!
haha no no we aren’t joining the military in order to be together
we just happen to be both in ROTC so we will be in the military after college

hahaha really?
okkkk again some more clarification
i’m 20 years old, and going to be a junior in college
and we do have our careers in order. a military commitment.
and yes, i realize that it’s not always guaranteed that we’ll be stationed together, and believe me, we’ve done our research on this matter alone.
we plan to participate in the joint domicile program, and we also have other things going for us that increase our chances of being stationed together.
thank you mix4rest! we are actually religious, and my mom has been trying to get me to watch fireproof with my boyfriend! haha

and min, thank you for your honest advice. finances are something we talk about A LOT. what we plan to save, spend, where our priorities are, etc. we’re trying to foresee potential problem areas and avoid them

My nine year old son has been living with his father for two years. Lately his father has developed a serious drinking problem and it has affected my son socially and mentally. I would like to get custody back but besides hireing a lawyer, how do I need to prepare for this fight? Can anyone who has been through this situation (especially women) give me some good advice? Where do I start? Only serious advice and answers, please.

so… last night i was out having fun and i knew that i would end up watching the guy i like and his fairly new gf make out the whole time. fortunately that didn’t happen.

He showed up and was talking to her at first then when i was about to leave i ran into him and he looked really bad. and i knew something was very wrong.. so i said "are you alright?" and he said "no, i’ll tell you later" then he left.

Now thinking it over, i know that they definitely broke up. because if they hadn’t they would’ve been standing together the whole night and she would have been there trying to make him feel better.

so when he decides to come out and tell me… i want to make sure i have good advice or just something to say to make him feel better.. what is the best breakup advice you’ve ever gotten? what made you feel better??

Thanks so much! =)

Okay, my friend’s boyfriend wants her to have sex but she wants to be pure until marriage. Now, her boyfriend is pissed. She wants to break up, but she still likes him. She is afraid that if she continues a relationship with him, it will only get worse. I need good advice/help, ASAP please and thank you!!
Thanks to gene and sthomp. You two "win."
Thanks to gene and sthomp. You two "win."
mamaw too thanks guys shes talking with him right now.
well, texting but you get it

did you get good advice from this section or any other section on Y/A and it helped save/improve your relationship or marriage?
If so, describe your experiences. I wanna hear them all!

I’ve been married for almost 20 years, and our children are almost grown. I’ve been thinking alot about how life would be alone. I love my husband very much, and he is the best husband any woman could ask for, but I’m lacking desire—I don’t know if I’m in love with him. So is life good after being married so long, or even a better ending, what can I do to fall back in love with him. Please give me some good advice.

Ok this may be a little long, but how can anyone really give me good advice unless i tell the whole story.LOL.

Ok so I am 26 my ex BF is 32. SO we are not youngsters by any mean.
We have been together for about 2 and a half years, yes we have had our ups and downs nothing major by any means for the most part we have got along really good. There has always been some jealousy issues on both sides unfortunately but that’s just who we are I guess. Well to try and make a long story short, I got laid off back in December and money has been very tight. I have been very actively seeking other employment but its been very hard with the economy the way it is. So anyways while being at home all day everyday pretty much..My Bf has not liked it much at all. He had complained a little about me not having ALL the laundry done, and not like cleaning all day everyday. Apparently that’s what he expects me to do considering im not working. I will tell you my house is never dirty or a mess. I keep it very clean! No i do not scrub floors daily but honestly i don’t feel its necessary! Honestly his problem is that i am on the computer a lot and he is jealous or something i don’t know. SO needless to say 3 weeks ago he just came out and told me he no longer wants a relationship. I was in shock…we were not fighting or anything! And like i said we hardly fight. But after many talks etc..He basically tells me hes sick of being taking for granted. He is blaming it on himself cus he says this always happens to him in every relationship hes ever had because he just gives 100% and ends up getting walked all over. And i honestly do see that i did take him fro granted in some ways so i know where hes coming from. Although i begged and pleaded that i would change and make things better and he says "no" he just does not want a relationship he wants to be alone bla bla bla. BUT he wants me to stay as long as i want and we can be friends/roommates. SO i stay here and its almost still like we are bf and gf. We cuddle at night, eat dinner together, share the same bed, still have sex together etc.. He even still buys me anything i need or want, takes me to dinner etc…So i am just really confused right now…and dont know what i should be doing. I can say that i am now doing a lot more around the house like he had asked me to do before, i am basically waiting on him hand and foot now to just show him that i truly am sorry and he is right i did take him for granted.

Although also in the mean time i am also doing little things to make him jealous..which some may say childish but im so hurt..i dont know what other choices i have at this point. Him and I both have our own myspace pages and last week i changed my relationship status to single, and excepted add requests from random guys. And wow he cought on to that one quick..he went in his and changed his to single and started adding a bunch of girls..I dont know if he did it because i had or if thats just what he truly wanted to do. He also added this girl i have really disliked for along time (ex co worker of mine) and i kind of feel he did it to make me mad..SO anyways needless to say its like when i act all strong and make him think im moving on, he gets all jealous and mad, He even tells me it bothers him, but he still will not give in and take me back! I just dont get it. Hes just so stuck on the "i don’t want to be in a relationship right now, and I dont know for how long i may feel this way." Anyone have any advice at all. If you need any other details to maybe help you answer this question any better feel free to email me also. nikki_0982@yahoo.com

I need advice on love. I like this guy at my school and I think he likes me too but I’m too afraid to talk to him. He’s a bit shy around me too. So, please, I need some advice. I’m really need good advice. It’s been like a few months now that I liked him and never talked to him. So, can you please give me advice?