My husband and I got into an argument last night about money……money seems to be the center of most of our arguments. We are not doing well financially right now.

Every time we get into a rut, he always says "It’s going to get better". It hasn’t.

The reason this question is in the Religion section is because I want some Christian opinions.

Christians, what do you do when you and your spouse have a financial argument? How is it settled? Do you ever have a hard time forgiving each other when money is brought up?

BTW, I am a Christian.

The money situation, I feel, is tearing us apart and I hate to think like that.

There are other things in our marriage that we have problems with too……like when we argue, I don’t like to argu at all in front of other people…..he doesn’t seem to care. He has all these ideas about wanting to get another vehicle, and I don’t really want to and he wants to "Put money into it", etc.

Advice?
I’m not sure how "Christian" my husband is anymore, either. He doesn’t want to even give the 10% tithe that we are told in the Bible to give. I tell him that if we do, God will bless us for it ….. but he doesn’t want to.

If he is supposed to lead, then why isn’t he making the right decisions???

I’m not going to want to let him get a "project car" and keep us in huge debt.

I know a guy who is really sweet and a good person. I’d be interested in dating him. He has a HS education. However, he’s also a volunteer fireman, volunteer EMT, coaches soccer for little kids, and goes to church twice a week. It’s really important to me to find someone who enjoys giving back to the community and who has God in their life.

However, my parents insist that I don’t date anyone without at least a Bachelor’s degree. Ideally, they’d like me to date only doctors. What do you think?

I adhere to mainline Christian beliefs, though a Messianic Jew.

One area I may differ in is the concept of Hell. I believe it is total, absolute separation from God for eternity. I don’t believe the fire and smoke scenario.

What’s your opinion?

I typed it all out a while ago, but I know I heard it on an MP3 online. I can’t for the life of me remember who this was by, or who read it. HELP?

God, help me to greet all those I encounter with a smile instead of a frown, and a soft word of encoragement instead of distain, or even worse, silence. To be sympathetic to the sorrows of others, realizing there are hidden woes in every life. Help me to understand life always rewards me on the terms that I establish, and if I never perform or deliver more than that for which I am paid, never will I have reason to demand or expect any extra reward. For now I know that the angel of happiness and the pot of gold awates me only at the end of the extra mile that still lays ahead. Hold fast to my dreams and plans for a better life, for if I relinquish them… although I still might exist, I will have seised to live.

(there’s more to it but I’m over the text limit)

I need Godly advice… My wife and I have been married for 2 years. She has always left and came back. She filed for Divorced in December. Friday the divorce my wife filed is final… 2 months ago I told her I want to work it out… She told me no but I was persistent. So eventually she came around.Then again she told me she wants a divorce and a few days later she wants to fix it. So I did again… THEN AGAIN she said she wants a divorce… Now with days later she wants it again…. I want to do what God wants… I NEED IMMEDIATE HELP AND GODLY INSIGHT

Ok,I am very religious and my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me.He claims I am mean to him and he don’t care if I stay or leave.Also we have a cute little 17 month old girl,I love Joe so much but it makes me cry to think he don’t want to marry me.I have been with him since March 8th 2006 and that is nearly 6 years and you think he would want to marry me.Also I am 26 and he is 47 so he ain’t getting any younger and he is only been married once and that’s it. I want to also get married and go to church because I don’t feel right going to church knowing I ain’t married to him.I don’t know why he don’t want to marry me but he just don’t.I swore that I would never be with another man other then him whether I am with him or not cause I don’t want nothing to do with men after him cause I have had my heart broken too many times.If I were to write a book about my life it would be the best seller. So answer me what would you do? Should I stay with him or leave him? I want to go to church and live a good happy life but if he wants me to stay with him he would have to marry me so I feel good knowing we’re living right.Not just that but I love him very much and deep down I don’t want to leave him but I love God more then anything and he wouldn’t like the way I’m living right now.So I am terribly confused,should I stay or should I go? All I want is to live a good happy life with a nice family. I just fantasize about me and Joe getting married and we’re going to church and living happy knowing we would have a chance for heaven.But Joe just don’t want to marry me and he says it in a hurtful way too.Also he has schizophrenia so he says hurtful things a lot.But I ignore the things he says, so tell me should I stay with him even though he don’t respect my wishes or should I go and live without him with just me and my baby? He don’t want to marry me cause he also claims we fight too much and stuff but I told him every couple fights,and most of the time we fight its cause he starts it.Always accusing me of things I’m not doing but eventually he learns that I didn’t do whatever he thinks I did.So that is about all I have to say and please answer soon.

Hello all, okay I need help. I have been dating this amazing guy named Cody for eight months.I love him allot and I wanted to marry him. We were talking about it and out of no where he asks me if I would sign a prenup. Now I didn’t think he had anything that would be worth anything. He said that he was a very (unsuccessful) inventor. But then he says that he didn’t say how much money he had because he didn’t want me thinking about money being a factor if he asked me to marry him. I just don’t know what to say to him. I feel overwhelmed. He lied to me! I asked him what else he lied about and if he is actually a inventor like he said. He told me that he doesn’t live in the apartment that I have been living with him for 5 months now. He actually rented the place once we started seriously dating. And that he is a inventor but not as unsuccessful as he had told me. I asked him, how much money do you really have? I wont say how much he said but, OH MY GOD ALLOT. More than a sane person could spend in like ten life times. After a long silence I sad okay, what did you "INVENT" that made you that much money? And he said he cant tell me because the people that bought the the idea was the military and they stipulated that he is to not talk about it to anyone, as part of a contract or something. He said he loves me with all that he is, but he isn’t stupid ether. that people change over time and and if something should happen that I would be more than comfortable for the rest of my days and its a way for us both to be safe. I know he isn’t lying about the money because he showed me his accounts and his house. I mean I’m in my parents house now and this place is big (2500 sq ft) big. but you could fit like five of them IN his house. I just don’t know what to do. I’m confused and rely emotional right now. I’m staying here right now because I just don’t know whats going on. What do i do? What do i say? What am i supposed to think!?! Just please help me..

Many of them I’ve checked out seem to lean on worldly secular advice while ditching prayerful guidance from God on who to marry. Thanks for your answers.

My son is turning 18 soon and has recently begun dating. However his first girlfriend has very small breasts, probably an A-cup. Now god bless his heart, he loves her ever so much, but I’d like to set a firm precedent to avoid future heartbreak.

I wouldn’t want him to be ridiculed by his friends and classmates for ‘going out with a flatty’ as I would have been back in my younger years. Unendowed females are also generally emotionally unstable due to low self-esteem (I don’t want a teenage drama queen on my son’s hands!)

My biggest worry is that many years down the line, their female children would be ‘flat chicks’ as well. I’d like my son to be a spittin’ image of his old man, and to help him avoid some obvious mistakes.

Should I forbid him from dating her or let him figure it out for himself over time?

I want someone who’s devoted to God.