I am in need of advice for marriage. My parents have liked this guys and they had mentioned and introduced him to me. And he did ask my hand for marriage. The only problem is I don’t know much about his past as I have only met him few times. The thing that scares me he has indian background so I don’t know how strong he carries the tradition and rituals. I am also indian background but because I been in US for so long my thinking and habits have changed a lot. He been in States for 5 years and pursued his MS here.
He does have huge family like 3 sister and 3 brother and their kids so it huge tribe.
Its been so hard for me to make decision I don’t love him yet because it is an arranged marriage but final decision is in my hand. And he asked me like three times what is my answer. To me he seems very family oriented. Also he is four years bigger than me so I don’t is the age gap too much.
Please let me know what I can expect from person who is raised in India as compare to person who is raised up in US.
thanks!!!

Although the Am Bar Assoc estimates that as much as 50% of couples using FAmily Court had violence (and there are higher estimates), this politician seems to believe it is a "gimmick" used to get a better deal.

In fact, many battered women (suffering from PTSD, depression, nervousness, appear "unfriendly" according to "friendly parent" policies) lose custody to batterers (appear in control, charming even). See The Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Stop Family Violence for info on this topic.

How can this politican get away with stating this?

This article states:
"A town official’s comment that many women use domestic violence claims as a "gimmick" during divorce has angered supporters of a group that helps abuse victims.

The Conway Board of Selectmen voted 4-1 against ,500 in town funding for Starting Point, which offers a hot line, shelter, support groups and advocacy services for people who have suffered domestic or sexual abuse."

"Dickinson said he was sorry he upset some people.

"Hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn," he said.

But he said those who took offense should harness their energy and show up at a deliberative session March 2 to overrule the board’s Wednesday recommendation.

"They shouldn’t be running around gnashing their teeth. They’re wasting time," he said. "They should try and take advantage of this thing. But I don’t want to talk to a group of 20 raging women individually. I want to talk to a group of women who seriously want to get the appropriation increased."

Voters will make the final decision on the proposed funding in April."

http://hosted.ap.org/dynamic/stories/N/NH_DOMESTIC_VIOLENCE_GIMMICK_NHOL-?SITE=NHMAL&SECTION=STATE&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT

Doodle – in fact, fear is the biggest predictor of a woman’s (IPV) murder….so obviously, we do not take her sense of fear seriously b/c we do not prevent 1500 women a year from being killed.

I use credible stats from WHO, CDC, DOJ, etc. and understand that women, in fact, are more often the victim than the victimizer and actively seek solutions to this problem. These organizations dont just use "self reports" – they use surveys, crime data, shelter use, etc. Thanks for sharing, but I prefer credible stats from credible sources.

Last night I was watching intervention on TV. The husband and wife split on and get on with their new lives. One of their daughters is completely heartbroken and both parents miss this. Fast forward a few years and she is on meth and stripping to make a living. Here is a link to the show:

http://www.tv.com/intervention/show/34392/summary.html

I think there are some situations where divorce is a legitamate final decision but I also think this is done sometimes for selfish reasons and not necessary.

Work hard on your marraige and please your mate in all ways. Put your spouse above all else and if you don’t know what they want ask. If you can not be fulfilled together at least agree to have a peacefull house for your children and when they are out of the house then seperate. If there is abuse, adultry or addiction then yes divorce may be what you must do. If not try to make it work and put your wants aside for a few years for the sake of your children.

What do you think?

I am going through a divorce. The attorney’s on both sides have removed themselves from the case due to lack of payment. There is one last court appearance prior to the judges final decision. It was suggested to me to file a motion to default. I do not understand what I should do.