Me and this girl broke up after 3 1/2 months. (I 29 she 25) Initially she told me that she lost the spark. She wanted to stay friends badly!. I kept asking her i wanted her back sweetly. We fought over the next 3 weeks about getting back. She said things like you cant force it, give it time, etc.. Then she started to call me a crazy person cause i persisted and i know i did. Last night i get a text from her telling me the reasons for a break up. My charm got old. She was no longer attracted to me cause she is outta my league, my asskising got sickening and now she says she will never be friends and wants nothing to do with me. I pushed to far? . Will she ever talk to me again. Has anyone ever had someone talk to them again after something like this. I really just wanted to stay friends. Saw her recently and she said hello. We tried to talk but she said she has nothing to say? The happened to her? She said she will regret the breakup. Why would she if she wanted it over!
I saw her this past weekend and we tried to talk, but she said she had nothing to say to me. We hang out at similar places and she talks to my friends. I treated her so well. She always told me how lucky she was to be "stuck" with me and i am the best. Told me she wanted to marry me etc.. have kids and all. All of a sudden you lose feelings. Makes no sense. She did just get out of a 2 1/2 yr verbally abusive relationship which ended in a restraining order, which I come to find out she has started to text/talk him again, nothstarted while we were together, of course she denied, but I have proof. I guess i was a rebound or what. Do you guys think she just realized she didnt want to be in a relationship cause she was not ready?? Or was she just confused, she is a Gemini and I am a Pisces? Any advice on how I should deal with this?She said she will regret the breakup. Why would she if this is what she wanted? Any helpful advice to move on or what could come of this. Thanks so much!

Me and this girl broke up after 3 1/2 months. (I 29 she 25) Initially she told me that she lost the spark. She wanted to stay friends badly!. I kept asking her i wanted her back sweetly. We fought over the next 3 weeks about getting back. She said things like you cant force it, give it time, etc.. Then she started to call me a crazy person cause i persisted and i know i did. Last night i get a text from her telling me the reasons for a break up. My charm got old. She was no longer attracted to me cause she is outta my league, she felt i was buying her love and my asskising got sickening and now she says she will never be friends and wants nothing to do with me. I think i pushed her to far. Will she ever talk to me again. Has anyone ever had someone talk to them again after something like this. I really just wanted to stay friends. Saw her recently and she said hello. We tried to talk but she said she has nothing to say? The happened to her? She said she will regret the breakup. Why
I saw her this past weekend and we tried to talk, but she said she had nothing to say to me. We hang out at similar places and she talks to my friends. I treated her so well. She always told me how lucky she was to be "stuck" with me and i am the best. Told me she wanted to marry me etc.. have kids and all. All of a sudden you lose feelings. Makes no sense. She did just get out of a 2 1/2 yr verbally abusive relationship which ended in a restraining order, which I come to find out she has started to text him again, nothing more and the texting started while we were together, of course she denied, but I have proof. I guess i was a rebound or what. Do you guys think she just realized she didnt want to be in a relationship cause she was not ready?? Or was she just confused, she is a Gemini and I am a Pisces? Any advice on how I should deal with this?

Me and this girl broke up after 3 1/2 months. (I 29 she 25) Initially she told me that she lost the spark. She wanted to stay friends badly!. I kept asking her i wanted her back sweetly. We fought over the next 3 weeks about getting back. She said things like you cant force it, give it time, etc.. Then she started to call me a crazy person cause i persisted and i know i did. Last night i get a text from her telling me the reasons for a break up. My charm got old. She was no longer attracted to me cause she is outta my league, she felt i was buying her love and my asskising got sickening and now she says she will never be friends and wants nothing to do with me. I think i pushed her to far. Will she ever talk to me again. Has anyone ever had someone talk to them again after something like this. I really just wanted to stay friends. Saw her recently and she said hello. We tried to talk but she said she has nothing to say? The happened to her? She said she will regret the breakup. Why
I saw her this past weekend and we tried to talk, but she said she had nothing to say to me. We hang out at similar places and she talks to my friends. I treated her so well. She always told me how lucky she was to be "stuck" with me and i am the best. Told me she wanted to marry me etc.. have kids and all. All of a sudden you lose feelings. Makes no sense. She did just get out of a 2 1/2 yr verbally abusive relationship which ended in a restraining order, which I come to find out she has started to text him again, nothing more and the texting started while we were together, of course she denied, but I have proof. I guess i was a rebound or what. Do you guys think she just realized she didnt want to be in a relationship cause she was not ready?? Or was she just confused, she is a Gemini and I am a Pisces? Any advice on how I should deal with this?

my boyfriend/finacee has left me after 3 years. He said it is because he thought i was always looking for something else. Yes I admit I took it hard and tried to contact him alot. He is now going to change his number (do you blame him?) and when he told me all of this he sounded so rational and unemotional.
What is the best way to get over these feelings and deal with grief in the best way possible? Will he ever look back and what are the chances of him contacting me? While I don’t think we can be together now (he was very rude about it and even told me of an encounter he had with a girl after our breakup) I guess I just want to know that I menat something.

Please help long story about this guy I have been talking to for a while and he wants marriage but this is the story.
In 2008 we had a casual fling but still there was a strong friendship still(although I think there were more than just friendship feelings. At the time he wanted kids and I can not have them and his family wanted him to get married and his work visa from u.s.a expired so he had to go back to India and the feelings at that time were not strong enough for us to marry anyway. In 2008 we did everything together went everywhere together. Then when he got back to his country and was still trying to find jobs abroad in any country he kept saying I want you to go with me where ever he went but still did not want marriage. 3 years have passed and he did get married and for the first 10 months of his marriage he still tried to contact me but I refused to talk to him until one day he told me he got separated from his wife so I started talking to him then they got back together and separated twice they are now separated again and will probably divorce. Also in 2008 when he had to leave me he cried a lot I know because I saw it. Now the closeness we had before is not there but still is strong because we always want to talk because we feel so good when we talk to each other. I have told him many times and am very strong about this i will not just marry him for a green card. The feelings I have now are if he stopped talking to me tomorrow I would be disappointed but would not cry or anything.
He said he wants to marry me for a green card but I told him we did not just have friendship feelings before there is no way and he agreed that before in 2008 it was more than those feelings.
Also when I go out to dinner and a movie then he says in a possesive voice WITH WHO? I told him friends are not possesive in this way. Also we went into a virtual room the other day and all these guys tried to flirt with me and he starting to say to the other guys "STAY AWAY FROM MY GIRL"

He knows I will never marry for green card only this is very clear so if he only has friendship feeling why is he so possesive and is it just that he does not want to admit he has those feelings?
Thanks for helping me and please I want a guys point of view
Also if a guy does not want to admit is what would the reason be for a guy thanks for helping

This isn’t particular usual of me, however I require some formidable form of counseling or advice. My girlfriend and I have broken up on mutual terms- or rather, her decision was made and I omitted the fatal decision. Apparently she "fell out of love", and was uncertain of her feelings in regards to me. We had been together for ten months, and had broken up six months prior, however returned the day subsequent. This was my first relationship, and thus I am not particularly surprised at the outcome. However, she contacted me the day subsequent our breakup, as she was immeasurably emotional and wanted to "inform me" of her feelings. I had perceived a partial chance- a third chance- however, was frightened of acting upon it in precaution of a third breakup. However, she later rectified that this was impossible, and unfortunately, it phased me. She’s present in two of my classes in Senior High School- and is within my Peer Tutoring and Peer Support group (I will not elaborate- it is simple enough to derive from the name). What advice can be provided? How to I endure her presence in my classes, and her relationships with my friends? How do I move on? I’m finding it increasingly difficult, and have no avenues to turn to… How do I "get over" this girl who I loved immeasurably, and experienced infinite "firsts" with her. She has experienced relationships prior to this, if that helps in relation to advice…
I know this is typical, and mundane, however no other avenues of advice present themselves… I want diverse advice, not solitude, etc., and hence I inquired here.
My logic transcended into transparency when I become infatuated with her… Thank you for your responses. I’m not of adequate level to rate, etc, however if possible you would receive an astronomical volume of praise

OK, so I have been married for about five years… For the past 6 months or so, I have been playing hide the salami with my wife’s sister… Now, it IS NOT AN AFFAIR, because there is nothing emotional about it, we don’t talk, or go out, or anything… It is just once and while when my wife isn’t home she comes over and I give her the stiff one eye…

Well, the other week, her mother caught us… Now, I told her not to say anything, but of course she did… And now, my wife has the audacity to mad at me, and her mother gets of scott free…

Her mother was the one who told her, I did the right thing and kept it quiet… I was protecting her because I didn’t want her to get hurt… But obviously, her mother has no regard for anyone’s feelings… She single handedly ruined a marriage and a sibling relationship… This whole thing could have been avoided if she just kept her mouth shut… These meddling inlaws! Am I really wrong here?

My wife and I have been married for 9 years but have been a couple for nearly 15. We have (2) small children, ages 6 and 3. My wife admitted to cheating on me during at a work-related out-of-town conference about1 1/2 months ago. I forgave her and we talked about why it happened and how we would deal with it. Over the next month, things were fairly good between us. I did have trust issues but I thought we were making progress. Just last week, she told me she was very unhappy with life, work, our marriage and motherhood. Since then, all intimacy and affection has bascially stopped and it seems like we are more like roomates than a married couple. On a side note, my wife is on hormone medication and just recently started thyroid medicaion as well. Anyways, we had a long talk about our relationship and we discussed the need to see a marriage counseler. My wife couldn’t explain the reason(s) for her unhappiness and wasn’t able to answer some of my questions concerning her love for me and if she truly wanted to stay with me and the children. During our conversation, she brought up the idea of a trial separation on numerous occasions. This is where I am confused and scared. I am 100%, madly in love with my wife and adore her completely but I keep thinking that it was something I did to make her become unhappy. I’ll be the first to admit that I am not the greatest at expressing my innermost thoughts and I tend to hold my feelings back. I am totally against any type of separation because I believe we made marriage vows to stand together, in either good times and bad, and for me, leaving is not the answer. We have a marriage counseler appointment on Thursday and it feels my life is on hold until either my wife decides what she wants to do or what our counseler suggests. My biggest fear is that the counseler might agree that a separation would be beneficial and my wife would be gone by the weekend.
How do I deal with the anxiety and fear that I am feeling? Do I just need to give my wife time to figure out why she is unhappy? Any help or suggestions are surely appreciated!
The cheating episode occured once, with a complete stranger and they didn’t have intercourse. I am 100% sure that she has being faithful to me since that event occured.
My wife’s explaination for the trial separation: It would give her time to think, discover why she is unhappy and to see if being away from the kids and I would make her any happy. If after being separated, she was still unhappy, it might be a medical reason.

I’ve tried breaking up with her quite a number of times now but I keep going back on my decision whenever I see her in so much pain. It’s not that I stopped having feelings for her but I keep flirting with other girls and taking it a step too far. And it’s not like the other girls are better than her so I don’t know what my problem is. But still, how can I cope with the thought of her in pain when we break up?

What the hell do I do (besides grow a pair) when I want to break up with my girlfriend and she flips her **** and does nothing but cries and gets all obnoxious. Whats the easiest way of ignoring it and just ending things. It has been 2 years so my feelings are strong for her but its time to move on.