My significant other and I are both dealing with feelings of insecurity and jealousy over one another, which automatically leads us to the subject of infidelity. Are there any spiritual or new age books that help with this subject? I’m not exactly interested in a religious point-of-view, but more of a self-help or psychological book that unravels the egotism behind these topics.

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She is making the argument that if I trust her and plan on being married forever, I wouldn’t be worried about us signing it. However, I must be rational about this despite my current feelings. If something were to happen in the future, say 10 years from now, I don’t want to lose all my assets.

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I’ve been having trouble distinguishing truth from what’s in my head… It would seem as though my wife is fooling around (not sex) with one of my best friends. Now I know when someone has strong feelings of infidelity, 9 out of 10 times they’re correct, but how can I tell if it’s really happening without asking? She would lie anyway. I might just be misinterpreting the vague signals though. I’ve made an accusation before regarding someone else, and I can’t keep doing that based on observations.

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Married alomost 20 years, 3 children. Says he hasn’t been happy in years - and I didn’t have a clue. He wants out. Agreed for it to be a trial period and says he will be there for the kids. Now he is looking in another town for a place to live. How can be be there for the kids in another town? How do you deal with your best friend and spouse leaving you alone? My kids are so active there are many times they are not at home - I will be so lonely and I am so scared of the change.
I have went to counseling and my spouse even agreed to go to at least one session. I love him so much - maybe Iove him too much.
It is the scariest feeling and hard to explain but I know someone ha had the same feelings.
How to deal with them, what can I do to move on during this trial, What ever advice you can give..

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I have been married for 9 yrs and we have two very small children (both under the age of 3). For years we have been drifting apart for several reasons (my husband has OCD which caused years of stress, anxiety and hurt feelings, he was controlling, verbally abusive, I closed myself off to him, didn’t communicate, etc). Things came to a boiling point last year and I asked for a separation. My husband begged me to stay, we started marriage counseling, and with help of medication his temperament and mood have improved some. Things of course are not 100% great but there is less stress in the house than before and he has been trying.

Now the problem is me. I can’t seem to get myself back to the place where I feel close to him like a spouse should. I love him as a friend and as the father of my children but I am not in love with him. I like spending time together with him and the kids as family time but I don’t enjoy his company one on one anymore. I don’t want him to touch me, I don’t want to touch him or be intimate. And as much as I try and force myself to do these things with him I just feel empty doing them.

I have told him all this, which hurts him. He doesn’t just want me to be his friend, he wants his spouse back. I don’t blame him. I want my spouse back too. I want to feel those feelings towards him again but I just cant.

Now our house is finally sold and I am at a crossroads at what to do. Should I continue on with him and buy a new house, or should I take this opportunity not having a mortgage and ask for a trial separation? I know living apart will be hard because of the kids but I feel like getting away from him is the only way I will be able to think clearly about all this. I feel that time apart will either make me see how wonderful he really is and how I do love him, or will just confirm my fear that we are better apart.

Should I stay or should I go?
We have been in marriage counseling for over a year now, going every week or every other week.

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I think/feel like I’m going crazy. My bf moved out of state. We agreed on a trial separation b/c the job market here is so bad. Well, he’s not doing much better there. He has a job, but it doesn’t even cover what he pays out, so the plan to get financially ahead is dead in the water, unless he finds a 2nd and/or 3rd job too.

I’ve asked him to return. I’ve moved into a MUCH smaller space, and have gotten a promotion since he left. We’ve been in this relationship for almost 10 years and I love him dearly. I don’t know how to carry on without him, especially when our plan doesn’t seem to be working. He’s only been gone 2 months. I have days where I can’t think of anything at all. My heart just aches. He says he doesn’t want to return until the financial mess is cleared up because he wants us to have a future together. That if he were to come home to soon, we may begin to argue again and it may lead to a permanent break.

I trust his feelings for me. How do I cope with the loss? I have a 14 year old son, and no family here. I actually moved here to be with him. (ironic) and only a few friends at work, but we don’t see each other socially.

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Is there any way to get through this? If the person is depressed and not happy with their life at the moment, could this be the cause?
Can they improve their state of mind/feelings as they develop their lives/career? Is this a huge red flag?

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We have been married for six years and I treat her like a Queen but she still cannot seem to be happy she has changed her medicines she now takes prozac she also drinks alcohol and cant seem to stop with just one drink .I know she has feelings for me she has agreed to try to work it out but it seems like I am the one with all the problems. We need counseling because someone other than me needs to tell her about the effects of her drinking with her disorder. I love this woman with all my heart But I am afraid her compulsive desicions are going to mess her life up and all I can do is sit back and watch. She is a wonderful person she deserves to get better.

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My spouse admitted to having had an extramarital affair/one night stand. Of course, there was fall out. Time passes along with some hurt feelings;not just mine, and then he does an about face on his original confession has happened. He states that he was was confused and just wanted to be heard regarding what he wants from our relationship??????

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I need love advice from a women?
K check this out. my bff and i were crushin on this one guy for like 6 months. we werent jealous or ne thing but newayz my bff and this guy started going out . they dated for about 3 months and he dumped her. well she was hurt bad for a while but then got over it (shes hot so she got a new guy in like 3 days). but newayz i spend a lot of time with this guy cause we do all the same stuff and attend the same church. i kinda like this guy now, or again. am i wrong for this?? should i tell my bff or hide my feelings?? SOS PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME!!

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