breaking up because the guy has been cought cheating with another woman, but the woman loves her man so much, she left the country for a year & come back after a year and the guy wants the woman back with him, claiming to have changed and that he wants to settle down now,she is not sure whether he is telling the truth or he will go back to wat he used to do and hate her again, part of her is scared of being hate and part of says i can not be with another man apart ffrom this one because she loves him so much and she jelouse to see him another woman. this is a confused woman please help her make a decision and her love, she had dates with other guyz but its not just making sense to her, she gets no feelings at all ffor the other guy, wat should she do.

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Basicly whats happening is my husband and i barely have sex. im 21 hes 22..we got married last year. i have a real low libido.. i rarely am in the mood.. and its pretty much causing us to have no sex life.. i have sex with him any how and act like im in he mood,(to spare his feelings, and to reduce the chances of him having a WONDERING eye), but he still catches on.. i think its been a month since weve had any kind of sex.. theres no trying on eaither sides.. i really want to fix this..i just dont know how..ive had a horrible child hood..is it possible that theres a link.. i was molested as a child…i realy love him and i dont want this marriage to end simply because we dont have sex.. any advice helps.. and please.. dont be rude.. no need for that.. thanks guys
-nessie

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OK so me and my husband have been married since September of 09 so like 6months id say. We got married young and now am starting to realize why everyone would tell me to wait. Obviously i didn’t but there is nothing i can do about it now. like all other husbands well most of them he changed….? Or did i just finally see the real side of him? idk… Hes sometimes really mean to me hes never abused me or anything but just like hurts my feelings and it literally HURTS my heart like i can actually feel the pain.. like for example one time when we first got married i was a virgin so it hurt-ed and i kind of didn’t want to do it and he said well why else did we get married for??!! then of-course later apologized… for Christmas he only wanted to buy his family presents and not mine not even just for my 2 little nieces!! so i convinced him not to buy me anything and the 100.00 he would spend on my gift i could buy my family of 9 including my nieces and brother in laws so you can imagine how cheap they were!! For my birthday he wanted to leave me to go with his friends!! we are newly weds we should be happy and more in love then ever!! he broke my cell phone accidentally but never bought me a new one till like 5months later and is always complaining about it. before we got married my sister sold me her Honda civic 2000 for 500 dollars but it was during the wedding so i didn’t have the money my mother offered to pay 250 and my husband offered to pay 250 so now he thinks he owns the dam thing and is always driving like a maniac with no liscence!!! and it terrify s me.. hes always throwing it in my face saying its his too because he payed for it……. and he comes inside doesn’t even help with one dish throws his clothes everywhere all the time! idk what to do?? can some one please give me advice i cant talk to anyone because the truth is no one knows how he is i don’t tell my family not even my mom because Shel tell everyone and idk am just scared…. how do i make him realize what he has? even if its not about me like when people crash hel make a rude comment like …" well that’s what they get for being dumb-asses and now paying attention" like seriously he has no feelings! when i cry hell tell me "what your gonna start crying again?" or when i do cry he has told me shut up stop f*ckin crying already!! how do i make him see what hes doing.? we’ve had a lot of talks and he says he is sorry but never means it

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My significant other and I are both dealing with feelings of insecurity and jealousy over one another, which automatically leads us to the subject of infidelity. Are there any spiritual or new age books that help with this subject? I’m not exactly interested in a religious point-of-view, but more of a self-help or psychological book that unravels the egotism behind these topics.

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She is making the argument that if I trust her and plan on being married forever, I wouldn’t be worried about us signing it. However, I must be rational about this despite my current feelings. If something were to happen in the future, say 10 years from now, I don’t want to lose all my assets.

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I’ve been having trouble distinguishing truth from what’s in my head… It would seem as though my wife is fooling around (not sex) with one of my best friends. Now I know when someone has strong feelings of infidelity, 9 out of 10 times they’re correct, but how can I tell if it’s really happening without asking? She would lie anyway. I might just be misinterpreting the vague signals though. I’ve made an accusation before regarding someone else, and I can’t keep doing that based on observations.

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Married alomost 20 years, 3 children. Says he hasn’t been happy in years - and I didn’t have a clue. He wants out. Agreed for it to be a trial period and says he will be there for the kids. Now he is looking in another town for a place to live. How can be be there for the kids in another town? How do you deal with your best friend and spouse leaving you alone? My kids are so active there are many times they are not at home - I will be so lonely and I am so scared of the change.
I have went to counseling and my spouse even agreed to go to at least one session. I love him so much - maybe Iove him too much.
It is the scariest feeling and hard to explain but I know someone ha had the same feelings.
How to deal with them, what can I do to move on during this trial, What ever advice you can give..

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I have been married for 9 yrs and we have two very small children (both under the age of 3). For years we have been drifting apart for several reasons (my husband has OCD which caused years of stress, anxiety and hurt feelings, he was controlling, verbally abusive, I closed myself off to him, didn’t communicate, etc). Things came to a boiling point last year and I asked for a separation. My husband begged me to stay, we started marriage counseling, and with help of medication his temperament and mood have improved some. Things of course are not 100% great but there is less stress in the house than before and he has been trying.

Now the problem is me. I can’t seem to get myself back to the place where I feel close to him like a spouse should. I love him as a friend and as the father of my children but I am not in love with him. I like spending time together with him and the kids as family time but I don’t enjoy his company one on one anymore. I don’t want him to touch me, I don’t want to touch him or be intimate. And as much as I try and force myself to do these things with him I just feel empty doing them.

I have told him all this, which hurts him. He doesn’t just want me to be his friend, he wants his spouse back. I don’t blame him. I want my spouse back too. I want to feel those feelings towards him again but I just cant.

Now our house is finally sold and I am at a crossroads at what to do. Should I continue on with him and buy a new house, or should I take this opportunity not having a mortgage and ask for a trial separation? I know living apart will be hard because of the kids but I feel like getting away from him is the only way I will be able to think clearly about all this. I feel that time apart will either make me see how wonderful he really is and how I do love him, or will just confirm my fear that we are better apart.

Should I stay or should I go?
We have been in marriage counseling for over a year now, going every week or every other week.

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I think/feel like I’m going crazy. My bf moved out of state. We agreed on a trial separation b/c the job market here is so bad. Well, he’s not doing much better there. He has a job, but it doesn’t even cover what he pays out, so the plan to get financially ahead is dead in the water, unless he finds a 2nd and/or 3rd job too.

I’ve asked him to return. I’ve moved into a MUCH smaller space, and have gotten a promotion since he left. We’ve been in this relationship for almost 10 years and I love him dearly. I don’t know how to carry on without him, especially when our plan doesn’t seem to be working. He’s only been gone 2 months. I have days where I can’t think of anything at all. My heart just aches. He says he doesn’t want to return until the financial mess is cleared up because he wants us to have a future together. That if he were to come home to soon, we may begin to argue again and it may lead to a permanent break.

I trust his feelings for me. How do I cope with the loss? I have a 14 year old son, and no family here. I actually moved here to be with him. (ironic) and only a few friends at work, but we don’t see each other socially.

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Is there any way to get through this? If the person is depressed and not happy with their life at the moment, could this be the cause?
Can they improve their state of mind/feelings as they develop their lives/career? Is this a huge red flag?

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