i’m not sure what to do i need help and advice!

me and my husband are young only 19 we got married when we were 18 and i got pregnant the month after with our daughter.we were both really happy even thought we weren’t really trying.but he liked to drink occasionally 2 or 3 times a month.then when his best friend turned 21 it got to be 4 or 5 time a week and he started smoking again.we talked and he said he just wanted to get it out of his system before the baby was born and then he’d only do it on rare occasions. well our baby is now 10 weeks old and he’s going out partying till 1 2 3 o’clock in the morning because when he says he’ll be home at 12 it’s like ok you really mean a few hours later.also when he is home all he talks about are his plans to go out or his computer game if he’s not playing it. im hurt and ive told him but he hasn’t changed he’s tried but not really hard.and i’ve lost all trust in him and that hurts him but i can’t help it.i know he’s not cheating on me but there’s still that fear, especially when at 2 in the morning he says it’s just all guys chilling and the next thing i hear is a girl in the background!although hes said its just a guys girlfriend sorry i didn’t even think about her.i’ve had enough i love him but none of this is fare to me or our baby!we agreed to try a trial separation two days ago and are trying to work out the details, but i just don’t know if i can do it.my parents are willing to take me in until i can get on my feet with the baby but they don’t think we should try a separation they say we should get a devoice because in the long run it’d be better.but i love him so much it hurts!i just don’t know what to do…please help
I’d just like to say i am a good mom i do everything i can for my child she has never gone without and she never will!

i come from a very grounded family and faith in God, i just happen to be struggling right now.struggling does not make me a bad parent, for you who have had negative things to say!and for the rest thank you!

A friend of mine got divorced, from an abusive husband, within this last year. She is in her thirties with 2 kids, after the initial seperation, she moved in with her parents. She is still so frighted of her ex-husband that she will not allow herself to move out of her parents house. She is concerned that this whole fear thing is going to ruin her newest relationship, that has been going on for months now. I try to be a support system but she has just recently confided in ny about this matter. I will continue to be here for her. I have been down that road before myself; I know how difficult things can get! I just don’t know the area too well so that she could look for addition support. SHe can’t afford counselling either. Anyway,she does not have internet access so I told her I would research it for her, while she searches the phone books.Also, she already has a restraining order too.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We have lived together for about 15 months. In the past 6 months his mood swings have become unbearable. If we start arguing about something small he blows up in a rage and starts throwing things, breaking things, calling me names and pushing me around. I am constantly walking on eggshells for fear that I am going to say something to "set him off". Some of our arguments are over my cat who he then winds up picking up and throwing him out of the house. I am afraid that he will seriously hurt him someday. He has thrown my stuff out of the house three times in the last six months, twice in the last 3 weeks. We are scheduled to start couples counseling on Monday but I just don’t know if it’s going to do any good. One second he is an incredibly loving man and the next he is a tyrant. There are times where I get the cold shoulder for several days at a time. I just don’t understand what’s happening.
Thanks everyone for your help. I am currently staying with my sister and am not going back until I see how his attitude is with the therapist on Monday night. If he really makes an effort than I am willing to work on this, if he doesn’t want to try than I am gone!

Son has asthma the other parents doesn’t seem to care he smokes around him never takes him to the doctor when needed.Just do not have the money to fight him. I am in fear of my child welfare. Please help me.We have join custody.I pay for all his medical and always broke.Cry every time he has to go there.

i went into very deep mediation just a moment ago, and something inside me whispered that was a just a little ways away from having what is better know as an "out of body experience." i stopped partly because i have a fear of going to far and not being able to find my way out of meditation and the area around my third eye chakra started throbbing.
is this typical?

Hey,

My fiance and I have been together for a little less then four years and have been engaged since February. I heard that when you get married through a church it is mandatory to go to counseling and meet other married couples to learn how to get through those rough times. Well we aren’t having a traditional wedding, but I would still like to go through the counseling. Do all you married or soon to be married people suggest that this is a good idea or a waste of time and money? My biggest fear is that we wont learn how to get through those tough times and we will become apart of the divorce statistics. Don’t get me wrong, we are deep in love, everything is great, we get through the ups and downs and are happy, but isn’t everybody before they get married and then one person stops trying and they end up in court. Please let me know your opinion… No negativity needed. Thanks!

sorry this will be long … but i need to explain why I ask this

I would like to know your opinion why people do prenuptial ?
and
if your partner ask you to do prenuptial will you agree?

I do have my own thinking of prenuptial but I wish to know other people opinion to open my mind.
I respect people who do prenuptial, but there is always this question in my mind..

By the time they decide to married, they sure love each other and want to leave together, share good and bad and do not plan to divorce or wish for bad, hence why they wish to have prenuptial?
it feels like, there is a fear of betrayal and doubt of sharing.

since i was small, my parents (i don’t know why) brought up this issue,
"we shouldn’t have a prenuptial, marriage is sacred, once bound by a vow to God, we should share good and bad time, when you are in a better place than your partner, in fortune as example, then it is not wrong to bring your partner to enjoy it with you because it is the essence of marriage, to share happiness. If you scared of wrong choice or bad partner then the ‘selection’ should done before the decision to get married"

but when I was at university, there was a lecturer brought up this ‘prenuptial’ topic, "we do prenuptial to prevent a bad thing happen to us effecting our partner, example you are in a big debt, if you have prenuptial then your partner not obligate to drawn into debt, at least 1 person survive to help your daily life rather than both of you lost all your belonging"

…both I agree…

I like this guy but he’s something that’s way different than what I am. He’s adventurous, talented and fearless. I’m a shy girl who doesn’t know how to talk to guys. Can someone give me advice on how to become less shy and full of fear to get the guy I like?
I am trying to throw him hints. But I think he is taking it the wrong way because he’s now calling me his best friend. Sometimes it seems like he wants to be more than friends but then he ignores me and talks to my friend. GUys confuse me.

my husband and i would like to divorce but we are not at one anothers throats. neither of us wants to spend a dime more of what we could use for our children on our divorce. i’ve seen a lot of options for getting the paperwork and filing done but i am lost as to how to figure out support and division of debts fairly. i have been a stay at home mom for 11 years so our income difference is large but we have a very high debt to income ratio and if he pays me a lot of support, i know he will lose the house. i desperately don’t want that to happen because i want the children to be able to stay here. i have absolutely no desire to screw him – it makes no sense to make us both struggle when we should be pulling together for the kids college. we have no savings, no equity and high debt – i know it is technichally stupid not to ask for alimony but it will only screw us all in my opinion – is there a way to figure out if that is true or just a fear?
he has a very modest income – this is a very modest house – a downgrade would probably mean an apartment and i love this house as much as they do and it would hurt me to see it all lost. if we are all in the poor house on top of our emotional loss . . . i have a college degree but no work experience and i can’t get a very high paying job so i am very worried but we need someone or some resource to help us figure out how to do this so that we don’t screw up all our futures financially and even more emotionally than the divorce already will. any suggestions?
mediation seems expensive – are there resourses other than people? is mediation expensive? i know it is cheap compared to trial – but i mean we honestly will be putting this divorce on a credit card – we do not want to spend more money – we just want to make sure we have done it right. thank you

Pushing off wedding due to….

A previous tragic accident that I was involved in about two years from now. I am deathly afraid that the other party will come after me because of my soon to be husbands assets.
Civil Lawsuit, between me and previous victims of an vehicular accident. Charges are yet to be set-filed, their lawyer/insurance can not prove that I am 100% at fault, nor can they or I provide evidence that I am 100% innocent. Other party was paid over ,000 from my car insurance company. They are currently trying to settle with my parents Home Insurance, but are not able to reach anything because I have not been charged with anything. I can sit here and talk specifics about the accident, but I will not.
My fiance has known about this accident even before we got involved, and engaged. We began dating, he proposed to me, and then we decided to buy a house, but I was deathly afraid of putting my name on the title and loan because of the said accident. In fear, that they will come after the assets "we jointly share." So my fiance and I decided that until this case is settled and non going, we will put everything in his name. We had a discussion about a prenuptial agreement the other night, and I kind of became a deer caught in the headlights. I did not know how to respond.

Now, that I’ve had time to think more freely on my own about this agreement, I have too many concerns to actually go forward with it. Yet, I will not marry him until this case is resolved, which can possibly take well over 5 years.. Hence, the prenuptial agreement was there to protect us and our children from any future civil lawsuits/liabilities suits. Yet, what if something happens and I am the only one who is able to take care of him, or perhaps our children.? Will this prenuptial agreement basically make me depend on the government for assistance (I hope not) or will it be there to help.? I am a wreck (no pun intended), I am overthinking something to where I am not able to think straight.

Anyway, my question is. Should I sign away on a prenuptial agreement? Or just wait until this case is well over with, having the other party sign away, vowing never to come after me for any future assets. Opinions could help 0_o

btw I am a female, I am not a male as what the picture/icon shows. =)