I am 14 year old and my parents have decided to divorce (which is ashame but a long time coming). Even though it is not yet offical, my father currently has visitation right for both me and my brother. I would like to not have visitation rights with him. There is no substansal reason for this incept that I don’t like him, and he is always talking bad about my mother and other family members. Could I get no visitation right with him in the state of Florida?

My "husband" filed legal separation, his lawyer sent them through the normal mail, not certified. He knows exactly where I live and has my address and send me a 0 check every month. Is this a legal way to serve me. He is in New Mexico and I moved to Washington State he has several family members who live up here if that matters. He is in the military and I have heard the military doesn’t recognize legal separations? Is this true? Thank you for your help.

Married for 25 years, kids grown and gone. Not been happy for 15 plus years. I did some mismanagement of our money and lied about it. We are both a gambler and I am seeking help now. He is not and does not think he has a problem. Now that all the lies have come forward, my husband thinks its my job to continue to live here and work and hand over my earnings to help pay the bills. I have no problem with this because it was partly my fault for gambling and all my fault for lying about it. I have given him my paycheck per his request. I found out that he cashed it and went gambling himself while I was at work. Also while I was at work, he took my name off the joint checking account and opened up his own account with me nothing to go on unless he gives me .00 here and there. While the marriage has been rocky for years, since all this has happened I have felt like bailing out with compensation to him as I can give him payment towards the bills. But now, he has become obsessive over my life as in, time frames when I go places (like visting my mom) work schedule, etc.. I can understand him not wanting me to gamble again and I swear I never will, but in my mind he should not be doing it either. I am seeking help with GA and family. During this time of the lies coming to the surface, he proceeds to tell everyone, even those that are not family members or even aquaintences about my problem. I realize everyone needs someone to talk to. But I do live in a small town and now everyone knows HIS side of the story and even though I could tell my side, I will not stoop to that level except on here with perfect strangers.

Now he tries to make me feel that I am owned as a servant to him in money as well as other things, sex included with no compassion or nothing. He makes me feel less than human sometimes expecting me to be happy about the situation. He has forbid me to talk to my friends and wishes me to leave my family out of my life. I want to leave him and begin a new life with some type of happiness. Am I wrong?

I have heard and read of stories from various sources (friends, family members, articles etc.) about changes in behaviour of married couples. For example complaints about laziness, not being as affectionate, not going out very much etc.

Is this common? In what ways did you or your partner change? If so, why do you think getting married has this effect? By the way, I am pro-marriage. I am young, never been married and find this topic interesting.