I have just separated from my husband about a week ago. He moved out as I wasn’t happy. Then 2 days ago he said he can’t stay at his mums house any longer as its doing his head in. Problem is I am worried for our 3 young children that were heart broken the 1st time that he left. They and myself will have to go through the whole thing all over again. I did say can’t he flit between his Mum’s house and our house. Problem is that I just feel so awkward with him being at the house and hate it. Neither of us can move on whilst he is living in the same house as myself. The atmosphere is horrible and I dread him coming home from work. It was my decision, I had lots of issues that couldn’t be sorted out and had fallen out of love with him by the end of it. The marriage is irrepairable. We are going to separate properly and get a divorce and my husband wants us to do the separation without solicitors involved. What is the next step? Where do we go from here?

Me & my husband have been togather 4 years and married three. We have a 13 month old. Me and my husband have faught alot in the past & he has put his hands on me. I have been feeling weird these last couple of months towards him. I don’t have the desire for sex nor’ do i enjoy it anymore. & i don’t feel anything special anymore when we cuddle or spend time togather. I dont want to be with anyone else or if i were to become single i wouldnt wanna date for a while. I just don’t think i am happy anymore. sometimes i dread for him to come home from work. He is constantly putting me down since i am a stay at home mom. He doe’nt want me to get a job or anything. a stay at home mom is what he wants me to be. He is a sub contractor for a construction company that builds buildings. And he’s always telling i would get fired if i had a job and espeacialy if i had to do his job. He comes home telling me what to do and demanding that it gets done right then and there. But the confusing part about all of this is that for some reason i dont wanna leave him.And i know thats what i should do. But i am just not sure what it it is yet that holds me back. I dont know if i still love him or not because i dont have any romantic feelings for him anymore. I only know one reason why i am still trying to act like everything is okay between us and that would be my 13 month old daughter. Please help me out and give me advice and tell me what you think might be going on with me in this relationship and is there anything i can do to try to fix this. & what should i do for my daughters sake. thanks so much!

Basically, I’ve been putting it off my whole life, but my problems are getting so bad that I have no choice but to go to therapy. I’m terrified and I’m afraid I’ll dread it every week. I feel like a psycho-people always say there is no shame in therapy, but the reasons I have to go are bizarre. I’m so embarrassed and scared to share these problems with someone. How can I make peace with this? How can I feel comfortable with going?
To the second answerer: actually, we can’t afford it. The insurance will cover some of it for a couple of months, but that’s it.