I was just wondering about this recently and wonder what you all think.

One other thing I was wondering is; some people say that prenups aren’t necessarily a sign of mistrust in the relationship. Some feel that it genuinely helps, and if the partner involved agrees with it, it means they really love their future husband or wife.

I think it’s a sign of mistrust for this reason; with a prenup, if the couple feels that they may divorce in the future, then they don’t trust that they will be fair with splitting the money, etc, with each other. Why marry someone that you feel may cut throat you after a divorce? That doesn’t sound like trust. Shouldn’t one marry someone they know would never do that to them because they really do love and care for them?

If not, shouldn’t everyone just get long term girlfriend/boyfriends with preparations to trade spouses like trading cars after 10 or 15 years?
Thanks for all of your well thought out answers. In response, you’ve all generally stated that Prenup’s are good and not a sign of mistrust. I think Prenup’s or marrage isn’t for everyone. I think it all depends on the individual and what they want in life. I think it takes a very strong bond for a couple to know they will never divorce or need a prenup. A bond with the same strength that some parents have for their children for life..the bond of knowing you’ll always be family and will never harm one another in any way including finacially or physically, etc. Not all families have that bond, some do and they are lucky. Clearly many spouses don’t have that bond, but some do, and it takes a lot to know you even have that bond to begin with. Some couples try to act like they have that bond when they clearly don’t, and get divorced. It’s probably the most difficult thing to obtain in life, which is why I think many people may find it unbelievable to achieve.

Just my thoughts.

Are there resources out there for couples who aren’t ready for divorce but cant afford professional help? We have to do something, it definitely isn’t working anymore. I dont think either one of us wants a divorce but we need help! We are both very unhappy.

I know this question may sound silly and a little selfish but if you were going to couples counseling with your partner to try to move your relationship on because he cheated and can’t stop lying about stupid things then would you still pay half the fees? Just that in one way i look at it like is our relationship and i could have just left if i wanted to but the other way is that i love this man and want things to work but it was him who ruined everything, him who said he would do anything to make it right, and him who suggested this so should i just leave it for him to pay. it’s 40 pounds per session every other week. We are both in a position to afford it. It’s just i’ve always been a giver and hate to be selfish.

Thanks for any thoughts.

Also i know many of you will object that i stayed with him but…. well you know lol

I don’t understand what’s the big deal? I see 99%of the couples that divorce hating each other bitterness and unhappiness, the woman trying to rape the guy in court and take the children and the money, even if she doesn’t need it just for spite…why don’t men have more prenups when they get married, do they fear that women would not sign them and dump them? if so isn’t that a signt that she was after your money and after your hart so is actually better that she left because you are not going to be victimized? women outhere…would you sign a prenup?

I don’t understand what’s the big deal? I see 99%of the couples that divorce hating each other bitterness and unhappiness, the woman trying to rape the guy in court and take the children and the money, even if she doesn’t need it just for spite…why don’t men have more prenups when they get married, do they fear that women would not sign them and dump them? if so isn’t that a signt that she was after your money and after your hart so is actually better that she left because you are not going to be victimized? women outhere…would you sign a prenup?

I don’t understand what’s the big deal? I see 99%of the couples that divorce hating each other bitterness and unhappiness, the woman trying to rape the guy in court and take the children and the money, even if she doesn’t need it just for spite…why don’t men have more prenups when they get married, do they fear that women would not sign them and dump them? if so isn’t that a signt that she was after your money and after your hart so is actually better that she left because you are not going to be victimized? women outhere…would you sign a prenup?

Alight guys I need to give you guys a little bit of background for you to understand the situation, but i really need some serious advice on how to deal with this.

So 3 years ago I started dating a guy I had been friends with for a little bit. after about 3 months or so of dating my mom kicked me out at 17, him and his family took me in and let me stay there. soon after that I became pregent with our daughter. we had our problems as most couples do and now 3 years later we broke up. 3 months ago he lost his job and we had to move out of our apartment and I blamed him for that because it felt like he wasn’t trying as hard as he could to provide for his family. I feel like I took out all my stress out on him. and now he’s broken up with me and says that he doesn’t even enjoy spending time with me anymore. Its only been 2 days since the breakup, and those two days a mutual friend of ours was over, we were tying to stay in the same house and I felt like my friend (who happens to be a girl) was spending alot of time and it was making me really uncomfortable. I feel like because of that I couldn’t give him the space I think he needed and now I;m scared the damage is too much. I don’t want to see my family not be together. he says he still loves me and I believe that, i still love him dearly and all i can do right now is try to give him space( the girl has left and I have removed myself and my daughter from the house) he was asking for hoping that maybe he’ll come around after some time to blow off steam. but he tells me the rs’s no hope for us. I cant tell if hes just saying that because the whole situation has upset him or ithat’sts really the truth. Itextremelyly hard for me tbelieveve someone can give up on something that admit to loving and a family. I’m just not sure how to handle the situation.

please guys i’m all ready down I don’t need anyone being rude. I know I need to move ountilll he’s ready to work on things and in time I think I will accept if he doesn’t
we moved in with a mutal friend and had been there there almost a month before this, this girl along with a few other people happened to be there when it happened. the plan was for her to stay for the weekend when she came and to hang out with all of us. however after the breakup she didnt leave his side i tried to explain him that it was just making me feel worse and I was haing a hard time dealing with it beacause of it but it just made it worse beacuse trust, and me giving him soace were basicly why we broke up.

So, my parents are in the beginnings of splitting up. My father is moving out of the house (into my spare room). I’ve agreed to this as long as both of them go to see a therapist for couples counseling. He’s really pessimistic about the counseling, but my mother and I are optimistic that it will at least help them communicate better, seeing as how they have 3 children together, 2 they are still raising. So my question is: Have you tried counseling? Has it worked? Or has it failed? What was the most helpful part?
Boundary issues or not, the question still stands. Your answer was not an answer sir.

The US Census Reports and US National Divorce Statistics at present show that the religious group with the highest divorce rate are Christians in particular the evangelical and southern baptist sects. Their rate of divorce is even HIGHER than couples professiing no relgious affiliation or to be atheist. Even more surprising its the conservative RED state- Texas and not California, New York or even Nevada that is the LEADING divorce state in the USA.

Now the reason I ask this is because CHristians LOVE to proclaim their religious standards of family life the HIGHEST ones. How come the facts don’t support this? Secondly, is their problem that they’ve completely outlawed pre-marital sex for their followers resulting in their young people getting married TOO young in order to have sex? After all, waiting till you finish college, get a job, house and then getting married will mean being celibate till you are around 25-29. That’s a LONG time when your hormones are at its peak. Opinions?

I’m mainly asking should men ask their women to sign prenups before getting married. Because divorce is rampant and women are divorce-happy.

I don’t see prenuptial agreement as a trust thing. It’s for insurance. Do you think prenuptial agreements should be encouraged for modern couples who want to get married?